Many thanks to all of you. Every one of these answers had a little something to nibble on:
Beck_Melbourne >
Don't feel like an outsider...because on here you're not...nor are you a worldie...nor are you an apostate....because you have to believe that "shite" to be one. I say keep walking buddy...and don't look back or you will turn into a pillar of salt LOL.
Our view about ourselves is based on our life experience - it can't change until we let that old BS go.
Garybuss >
I confronted my delusions, my superstitions, my fears and my history, and emerged a very different person in terms of rational thought and logical decision making.
That's where I am now - It's odd how I'm mentally cognisant of such a change in my life. I don't know if that makes sense, but it's how I feel.
Heaven >
Not to be preachy or anything, but I also read the bible for the first time, without any watchtowers.
It was very interesting how easy it was to understand.
Isn't it wierd how different people can go through similar circumstances and come out so different. I for example will be completely content to never touch another bible as long as I live, and others can find comfort in understanding it. I think both ways are ok as long as the individual comes out well adjusted in the end.
Guest 77 >
Conflicted, you answered your own question. Now, just execute it.
I don't know what exactly you are referring too, but I get the impression it goes hand in hand with Sixofnine's question:
What things would you be doing differently if you had this courage?
It's not so much as how I would live my life - I'm happy in my marriage/job/friends. It's more about a lingering fear about people in general, 'they're dangerous', 'don't get too close', 'avoid contact with the world'. I was a part of it, but didn't let myself belong. Now I'm living a life completely void of JW's except inside myself - they're still there inside.
Smoldering Wick > I totally dug the kitty illustration. Yes, with the exception of Fred Hall, I too love cats.
And Jesussaves >
Read Crisis of Conscience!!!!! That freed me of every lingering doubt about doctrine.
I will. Thanks again to all of you for your help.