LostLantern thanks for sharing your story and feelings.
It's an atrocious system. I used to sit in my KH and ocassionally hear a disfellowshipping announcement. Once it happened to a guy I'd grown up with and his Mum just broke down in the Congregation uncontrollably. It was heartbreaking, and also the beginning of the end for me. I though to myself "THESE AREN'T CHRISTIANS"