Hi Katie,
The girl you are talking about doesn't exist, anywhere. What you see is someone trying their best to conform, they are not happy.
When I was a JW, I really 'looked up' to this brother who I felt was perfect. So, I tried to be like him, a spiritually strong pioneer who was happily married.
Guess what? I found out he was miserable! But, you'd never know that on the outside.
The Jw's are in a cult, cults can be close, but the people in them can never measure up. Nobody in a cult 'measures up', that is how cults control people. They count on you having feelings of guilt, that gives them power over you.
You are just as good as anyone out there.
Look at president Rutherford, he was an alcoholic (aren't they all?), Russel was into the occult, while many who work at bethel are on prozac.
So, take everything you see with a grain of salt.