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  MY DAD HAD A STROKE

  by Mary in

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  i just got a call from my mom.

  my father's had a massive stroke and is in the hospital.

  i'm leaving now to go to the hospital and i probably won't have time to post here for a while until we know what's happening........

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  Very uosetting news for you! My best wishes and prayers for full recovery.
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  Witnessing at the WalMart in Evansville, Indiana(pics)

  by Jourles in

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  for your viewing, uh, pleasure?

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  I noticed the guys' trousers were bordering on baggy style, are they following a fad? They look so cultish, at Wal-Mart in dark suits, for heaven's sake. No one will want toapproach them. If they dressed like the common man, as Jesus did, they'd get so much more interest. And the sister, in the two piece, cream color suit- I'm sure that doesn't fit in at Wal-Mart and gets her lots of stares. It just looks bizarre!
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  Marriage advice needed...am I being unreasonable?

  by Virgochik in

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  any comments appreciated because i can't think clearly right now!

  here's the story.... .

  hubby and i married 5-1/2 years ago.

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  Blondie, you are so fortunate! A trip's so much better when your loved one sees the sights alongside you. Nothing would be better than a motor home, with a rooftop deck, moving on with the seasons or your whim!

  Hubby honestly just wants to go fishing in the nearby mountains on his vacations, staying for a week or two in a cabin or a tent. I'd be stark, raving bored after 2 or 3 days. I'm gonna offer to accompany him on a fishing trip, to meet him half way, and then, I get my Europe trip this fall without a fuss. Sounds fair to me!

  Did I mention, the trip is only $999, plus tax? What a steal! Thanks to everyone kind enough to give their opinions. I have to go to bed now; will check back in the morning!
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  Marriage advice needed...am I being unreasonable?

  by Virgochik in

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  any comments appreciated because i can't think clearly right now!

  here's the story.... .

  hubby and i married 5-1/2 years ago.

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  When I first mentioned the women's travel club on Sunday, he said, yeah, that's a fair compromise, might be a good solution for us! Now, this morning, Wednesday, I said I'm very serious about this trip to Rome. It's 5 nights in a 4 star hotel, 5 breakfasts, and includes roundtrip air from New York. What a deal! He had a fit and abruptly said he was sorry to hear that, as he was working on plans for us to travel. I just don't want to fall for this any more. When it all comes down to it, he will refuse to fly. I think he thought I was making an idle threat to go with the women to motivate him, but I mean it! Anyways, he makes me a nervous wreck when we fly. If the plane makes a little dip, he winces and covers his eyes so he won't see it crash.
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  I just wrote a 6 page letter

  by Kero-kero in

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  i addressed it to a couple of elders.

  one elder i feel i can trust and one elder is in the congregation i used to attend.....*cough* still assigned to....it is just a letter which expresses my concerns and doubts and personal issues with the wts and congregation(s) i did not go it to much detail but it should be enough for them to at least understand my veiw point.

  i have asked if they could reply to me...or at least make some kind of comment...even if it to just try and ease my doubts and concerns.

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  Good for you, Kero. Even if they DF you, reading your letter may cause them to do some research and (gasp) some thinking.
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  Spoof Awake Articles

  by rebel8 in

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  osmosis and i are collaborating to put together some spoof awakes.

  i've written some articles spoofing the teachings & writing style.

  i think our goal is to be as humorous as possible while drawing attention to problematic stuff about wt publications.

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  Esuring our underwear brings honor to Jehoopla.

  Do your gold fillings detract from the Kinkdumb message?

  Christian Sisters- avoid the wearing of titillating tops!
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  Kissing the Elders Butts

  by Dr Jekyll in

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  ok who's going to own up to sending one of these... http://www.madzay.com/product/product_view.aspx?uid=50af9a87-5606-42a7-8d7f-606f0a8536fe.

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  Yep, Kaput is right! I see a demonic face on the left side, horizontally looking towards the right. I kid you not. Notice the couple at the seashore. Even at the beach, the Witless woman is wearing her beach wrap below her knees!
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  Just recieved this email off my mum

  by Es in

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  hey all got a text this morning that they had sent me an email opened it straight away, here is there email and my reply.. .

  esther,.

  we hope this message clarifies some misconceptions you may have.

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  Es, they are so full of hot air I hope they don't prick themselves on something sharp and it comes whooshing out, haha! You did well, maintained your dignity. They should think twice about how you said you'd never stop talking to them, and they are not doing the same for you. They're using guilt on you, but I wonder how long they can hold out, missing out on one, soon to be two, beautiful grandkids?
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  Marriage advice needed...am I being unreasonable?

  by Virgochik in

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  any comments appreciated because i can't think clearly right now!

  here's the story.... .

  hubby and i married 5-1/2 years ago.

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  Highlander, you understand! "You want and need to travel, it's part of who you are!" Yes! That's how I'll put it to him, thank you. I'm sorry you've been deceived by some girls you've dated. My hubby also had expressed a liking for hiking (rhymes, lol) and we bought hiking boots together, now out in the garage. He doesn't like to hike...

  The good news is, the older women get, the more plain they are about their likes and dislikes. I see men also play games sometimes, when they want to snag a woman!

  Serendipity, I think you're right about the depression, that could explain his weight gain too. But he's gotten increasingly bossy with me, and I was a very independent woman when I was single, made good money, owned and fixed my home, etc. I don't want the marriage to end because like a born in Dubby girl, I believe in making a marriage work. Counseling may have to happen. Thanks!
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  Marriage advice needed...am I being unreasonable?

  by Virgochik in

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  any comments appreciated because i can't think clearly right now!

  here's the story.... .

  hubby and i married 5-1/2 years ago.

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  Virgochik

  Thanks to everyone for the feedback! I am still tainted with my JW brainwashing upbringing where I try to be a good wife and I think hubby takes abvantage of that. But I've always had a strong interest in other lands and cultures. My job is stressful, and having an exciting trip to look forward to cheers me and keeps my chin up. I'm getting bored and depressed, thinking there's nothing on my horizon but work and sit in front of the TV.

  Mavie: "He's a lazy guy..." Yes, he is, he's put on alot of weight since we married and watches TV as a hobby. He's working 60 hours a week, though, so I don't blame him for being too tired to do much. All I'm asking is, if he doesn't wanna go, then let me go without him!

  SixofNine: "The stringing you along thing, what are you going to do about that?" I 've put him on notice, I am not so stupid I don't notice he's got the 'gonna disorder'! Gonna do this, gonna do that, still in the chair. I can't count on him to do what he says and I'm losing confidence in his word. He LAUGHED when I said this.

  Luna: "Let him sit at home scratching his nuts in front of the TV." That's exactly what he'd like to do, without being bothered to take the wife on trips. You must know him!

  Emma: "The resentment will build up and that would be bad for your relationship." I'm already bitter about the cancelled trips over the last 4 years. I'm 47 and in good health, so now's the time to go. Who knows how long I'll be able to travel? If I wait around on Mr. CouchPotato, I may never make it. He turns green at the thought of boarding a plane, and I love to fly!

  Candidlynuts: "Is there a compromise, maybe within the USA?" Yes, we agreed on Yellowstone, a day drive from home. I reminded him many times to make a reservation as the lodges book up fast. When he called last week, they were sold out. Surprise. Now, as I mentioned, vacation's 3 weeks off and no plans, flight or room. The compromise didn't work out either, but yes, it was a good idea!

  Nosferatu: "Nobody should prevent you from living your dreams..." I so agree. Is that loving? I've said several times how unhappy I am if I can't travel. If you trust your wife, and want to see her happy, wouldn't a guy put his wife on the plane and tell her to have a good time? I don't see why he's so upset about this.

  Balsam: "He killed her lively spirit and excitement for life." I feel that happening to me. Didn't your dad see how he was affecting your mother? Such a shame about that trip, it wouldn't have done any harm for her to go. Thank you for the lesson. I won't let this happen to me. My grandfather was an old stick in the mud too, always in front of the TV; after 60 some years of marriage, my grandma finally got the house to herself!

  Sammieswife: "Being dishonest or manipulative in one area can open the door for the same behavior in others." This is a worry to me. What else is there to find out?

  Blondie: I could suppress my thrill of international travel and grow more bitter each year until I am too old or in poor health to go any more. But, in the end would I be with the one I love, or the one I've grown to resent intensely? That's my dilemma right now.

  AudeSapere, we could both join the travel club. I like the idea of having an itinerary and a tour guide so I'm not lost, lol!