when you were little growing up as a jw and you lost a tooth and placed it under you pilor where you ever visted by the tooth fairy and did it leave you money or a copy of awake.
I got a quarter, but no pretense of a tooth fairy. Just Mom "playing a game that parents pretend: a fairy takes your tooth and leaves money" I got the money and got the tooth back, too.
I did the same thing with my daughter, but made an attempt at a believable tooth fairy. She got scared about something sneaking into her room (even a good fairy) so the whole thing reverted to my mom's way. Oh well.
So the word is out: MOM IS THE TOOTH FAIRY.
Nancy
i would like some advice from any of you that have been there - a good friend of mine had an affair years ago, ended up working with the same guy and is now in love with her boyfriend instead of her husband ( several kids involved) the affair is now not a physical one but there is no doubt they are dating.
i wish i was unaware but i am - she says she has picked her family over the boyfriend but he is like a bumble bee around her- walking her dog past her house etc the boyfriend is older, married and has always been a tomcat - now he is truly in love and will wait.
i have told her it is going to blow up - and i know it is her deal to figure out - but i am from the happily married class and am at a loss.
Been there, done that....but after kids were grown and gone, left a husband with major psych/health issues and a gun obsession, and now with a wonderful man who knew us both well, and was willing to wait until my timing.
I do regret not leaving years ago--it took the 'affair' to bring things to a head and give me the courage to leave. I regret that my witness family sees it and confirms to them how evilly worldly I have become. I waited until my daughter was grown, but she could have had different roll models for how to handle problems in her own marriage.....
There are no black and white/ right or wrong/ clearcut answers. Obviously it would be better if we all just lived happily ever after...but sometimes you settle for less...or gamble everything on another life...
you hear a voice being projected over a loud speaker or microphone?
I thought that, too, about the 'shop victoriously' slogan--it's the font and everything!
was there ever such at thing in jw families, or is this phrase oxymoronic?.
sometimes the meetings encouraged "variety" in family studies, assigning certain research projects to different family members, or setting up a bible reading as though it were a play.. none of that happened in my family.
it was just dry question-and-answer.
I can remember anxiously hoping my folks would forget the study this week...I'd get more anxious as Saturday progressed, and then boom! Mom or Dad would say, "Get your magazine and Bible, and turn off that TV!" If we were pressed for time, or if I begged hard enough, sometimes we could read the paragraphs silently and get though it in record time. I also discovered that I could volunteer to go in the kitchen and get some fruit punch for everyone, and spike mine! That made the study much less anxiety-producing!
for me.. i guess it was attending comic-con.. there is still a bit of kid in me.. plus i got to go out with friends to dinner.. and dancing.. .
had a blast... .
so what was the last fun thing you did?.
I've recently cut loose and tried lots of new fun things! I went fishing last weekend, but the weekend before went to a 'Ribfest' with a cookoff and several bands...went on a motorcycle poker run...ate at a couple ritzy restaurants with bottomless wine glasses...went to Motocross...held a newborn baby...
i'm wide awake at 2 a.m., with my mind ruminating on stuff i should leave alone.
i wish i could turn it off in the night, when worries spin out of control.
let me list my concerns: this was my 26th wedding anniversary, and my husband forgot it apparently.
Thanks to all for the hugs. Communication is not one of our strong points, obviously, and we have some long-standing problems. I posted because I was feeling so blue and alone. Again, thanks friends.
i'm wide awake at 2 a.m., with my mind ruminating on stuff i should leave alone.
i wish i could turn it off in the night, when worries spin out of control.
let me list my concerns: this was my 26th wedding anniversary, and my husband forgot it apparently.
I'm wide awake at 2 a.m., with my mind ruminating on stuff I should leave alone. I wish I could turn it off in the night, when worries spin out of control. Let me list my concerns: this was my 26th wedding anniversary, and my husband forgot it apparently. It's happened before. I had a nice card all ready to give him if he mentioned it, but he didn't. He slept all day, knowing he had promised to help me with some chores today.
Background: things haven't been good in our marriage for a long time, and I have been contemplating a change. My hesitancy has been that he would be so distraught and hurt.....but I feel forgotten and undervalued, again.
Then there are the bit players in our lives--young married daughter dealing with a difficult mother in law; elderly sick parents who need help daily, and my old friend/true love offering a new life,
My hormones are totally screwed up, I have age spots and veins and wrinkles.......and antidepressants and sleep aids.
OKAY, I'm done ranting. Thanks for listening. Sigh........Nancy
not to worry brothers and sisters, we've all been there.
many of us were trembling when we first happened upon this site.
one new poster, calls herself snowbird, just revealed that she's been lurking(reading without posting) here for 7 years!.
I had been out for years and years when I found this site, and was amazed to find so many others with the same baggage. Dump it here, folks! Guess what? We aren't as messed up as we thought we were all those years!
in missouri at a ihop, a lesbian kissed another female (her gf) on the cheek, once while sitting in the restaurant.
the manager went over to the ladies and told them they were not welcomed there and therefore had to leave.
the women described the kiss on the cheek as a similar type of kiss to an "uncle".
I'll say it---I would be okay with a greeting peck on the cheek by any combo of persons, but I am uncomfortable with gay/lesbian displays of affection. I will probably never get over my feelings of disapproval of those relationships. Both as a dub and now out for years, I am uncomfortable. But that's me, and I try to be kind and pleasant to everyone. But uncomfortable? yes. Offended? No. Get up and leave? NO.
last monday my husband, a nice guy, after ranting for a bit about terrorists, came over to me, to kiss me i thought.
he hit my head and then started to choke me, shouting "be healed.
" i managed to get away from him and he kept yelling "be healed" and saying that i was bewitched and had put a curse on him.
Hortensia,
I have been hoping for an update and am so glad you are moving foreward and getting some answers, even if they aren't good ones. What a blessing you are safe, and not another headline! Hugs to you. I hope you have affectionate friends that can hold you in their arms and let you cry when you need to.
Have you considered keeping one of those guns for your own personal protection? Not trying to start a whole arguement about guns, but just hoping you are feeling strong and taking back control of your home.
One other thought about the guns--sell them to a legitimate dealer. They are a financial asset that you can use for attorney fees, etc. Don't just 'donate' them to the police (unless purchased illegally),
Sounds like the story line for a good Lifetime Network Movie!
I so admire your strength and compassion! Keep us updated!
Nancy
