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  FUNERAL ARRANGEMENT FOR A AGONSTIC

  by jam in

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  the dilemma; there is 70 or more family members.

  my son and i are agonstic.. so the rest of my family are baptist , methodist or jw.

  dead, but the question that come up what kind of send off will i have.. i have one relative who is baptist minister, he and i have had many talks in.

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  AudeSapere

  Favorite location. Favorite music. Favorite food. Favorite photos. Favorite memories. Favorite hobby.

  I bet it could last longer than most religious services and be 1000 times more memorable.

  -Aude.
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  First Christmas

  by Lev11233 in

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  this year, i have decided that i am going to celebrate the christmas season in my own way.

  even as a witness growing up, the two-month period of november and december had always been my favorite time of year.

  something about all the pretty lights and decorations and the general spirit of goodwill always appealed to me.. i went shopping for a christmas tree the other day, but that's not what this post is about.

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  AudeSapere

  Perhaps I'll steal some of those traditions.

  When you are talking about Christmas, it's called 'sharing'.

  Merry Christmas.

  -Aude.
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  For people looking for a job

  by I need a lot of help in

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  http://shine.yahoo.com/channel/life/10-things-the-hr-department-won-t-tell-you-2403604/.

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  AudeSapere

  Clickable along with a cut & paste of the article:

  http://shine.yahoo.com/channel/life/10-things-the-hr-department-won-t-tell-you-2403604/

  10 Things the HR Department Won’t Tell You

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  • by Woman's Day, on Tue Oct 26, 2010 9:23am PDT

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  By Kimberly Fusaro

  If everything’s going smoothly, you probably won’t interact with the folks in human resources much between the day you’re hired and your last day with the company. But every day in between, it’s their responsibility to make sure you’re doing your job well. Which means they know a lot more than you might think. We checked in with human resources experts to see what your current employer is keeping tabs on—and how your next employer could be judging you based on a whole lot more than the résumé you submitted.

  10 Things the HR Department Won't Tell You

  1. Background checks have gone beyond Google.
  Before calling in applicants for a job interview, HR will snoop around online to make sure there are no virtual red flags. “Social media ‘stalking’ has become the norm—especially at larger companies,” says Mary Hladio, who worked in human resources for more than 15 years and is currently CEO of leadership group Ember Carriers. “Beyond typing names into a search engine, companies will also employ sophisticated online monitoring platforms that dig even deeper. If there’s something on the Internet you wouldn’t want your boss to see, it’s probably in your best interest to take it down.”

  2. Arriving super-early for an interview is almost as bad as arriving late.
  Of course, if someone shows up late for an interview, he or she isn’t going to get a callback, says Amy Habedank, human resources manager of Pinnacle Services. But she’s also hesitant to hire someone who shows up an hour early. “It feels like they have no regard for my time,” she says. If you’re headed to a job interview, don’t show up more than 10 minutes before; if you get there with time to spare, catch up on email or listen to relaxing music before heading in.

  3. Your physical appearance matters.
  “Research suggests that the decision to hire or to deselect a candidate is made within the first 90 seconds of the interview,” says human resources consultant Steve Cohen, author of Mess Management: Lessons from a Corporate Hit Man. That means you must arrive at a job interview in a clean, well-put-together outfit with neat fingernails, smoothed-down hair and fresh breath. Also, think twice about any eccentricities. “Some people might be able to look past pink hair and black nail polish, but it will affect their decision,” says Hladio.

  Check out a foolproof outfit that’s perfect for a job interview.

  4. Personal hygiene counts, too.
  Smelling like cigarette smoke can work against you, as can having body odor. Because both conditions are within an individual’s control, an employee or job candidate who smells bad is viewed as lacking professionalism, Cohen says. Plus, an employee who smells bad is a public relations liability. Most companies won’t tolerate poor personal hygiene in an employee or potential employee.

  5. You won’t get hired to work from home if you aren’t a “home professional.”
  If you’re applying for a work-from-home position, you need to present yourself as a “home professional” from the get-go. This means that when HR first calls to express interest, there better not be crying babies or barking dogs in the background. “When an applicant has no control over the noise level in her home, it’s a signal that she’s not ready for virtual work,” says Shilonda Downing, who’s in charge of hiring for Virtual Work Team . You’ll also need a quiet home office space if you’re petitioning your current boss for work-from-home hours.

  6. Being overweight can work against you.
  Even though overweight individuals can be fast on their feet and slim people can be lazy, an interviewer might assume an obese job candidate won’t be able to keep up at a “high-performance” company. Cohen gives the example of a manufacturing company that prided itself on efficiency and speed. Every prospective employee was taken on a walking tour of the large plant before being hired. If the prospect couldn’t keep up with the owner’s fast pace on the facility tour, he or she wouldn’t be hired. If you’re worried your size may be working against you, Cohen suggests emphasizing how adept and resourceful you are.

  7. Ageism (illegally) exists.
  “People who have seen their 50th birthday are losing jobs to younger people, even though ageism is illegal,” says Dennis Kravetz, head of human resources consulting firm Kravetz Associates. Older employees hoping for a promotion need to be extra-vigilant about staying on top of trends and technology. In a job interview, emphasize what you’ve learned from years of experience and explain how you’ve grown along with your industry.

  8. Your relationship is being monitored if you’re dating a coworker.
  “Sometimes people meet their future spouse at the office,” says Cohen. “But mostly, dating coworkers is risky.” Even if dating among colleagues is allowed, a relationship that ends badly is going to affect other people in the office. It gets extra-tricky if a romantic relationship between a supervisor and his or her subordinate sours. “Human resources is watching behavior that could turn litigious,” warns former human resources executive J.T. O’Donnell, founder of Careerealism.com.

  9. Your Internet usage is probably being documented.
  Don’t assume there’s any level of confidentiality when it comes to company technology, whether it’s email, voicemail or indiscriminate use of the Internet, Cohen says. “In a situation where an employee’s integrity or credibility is in question, there will always be an audit of her computer usage.” That means your boss probably isn’t randomly checking to see how often you log on to Facebook. But if he’s looking for a reason to fire you, your computer records could provide easy ammunition.

  10. Your good and bad behavior matter—but the bad matters more.
  “Promotions have favoritism built in,” says Hladio. Good behavior and positive experiences have a “shelf life” of three to six months. You need to continually impress your employer in order to stand out as an exceptional employee. Bad behavior and negative experiences, on the other hand, can linger in an employer’s mind for years.

  Original article appeared on WomansDay.comRelated Articles at WomansDay.com:

  Don’t Let Your Resume Age You

  7 Things You Shouldn’t Do at a Job Interview

  Business Card Smarts

  http://shine.yahoo.com/channel/life/10-things-the-hr-department-won-t-tell-you-2403604/
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  to all men in their 40ies or older

  by varian in

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  i must admit, that i love being with youger woman.

  i m 44 now, and so far the partners i had, where between 3 and 15 years younger, which i consider okayish.

  but recently, i ve had email offers from girls between 19 and early 20. now i really don t know what to think about that.

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  AudeSapere

  20+ year age difference?

  I'm guessing serious 'Daddy Issues' and/or gold-diggers.

  -Aude.
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  Thanks to you - I think I bought myself some time....

  by dssynergy in

  1. watchtower
  2. beliefs

  so i've been working out of town the last month and i'm back home for a couple of weeks to attend a conference and some business meetings.

  my mom while i was away has been concerned about my meeting attendance (haven't gon in almost a year, except memorial) - even when i was home she was concerned.

  so today, when we met up for dinner - inevitibly, my meeting attendance came up as a topic of concern.

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  AudeSapere

  Glad it's working it out well for you. It really does help to take a breath and think before acting rashly.

  -Aude.
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  Oompa

  by palmtree67 in

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  he was in a very bad motorcycle accident on tuesday and is in the icu.. i think we could all send our oompa good vibes, prayers and healing angels.. .

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  AudeSapere

  Nothing new? Seems like last we heard he was about to have surgery.

  But that was 3 days ago.

  -Aude.
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  Oompa

  by palmtree67 in

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  he was in a very bad motorcycle accident on tuesday and is in the icu.. i think we could all send our oompa good vibes, prayers and healing angels.. .

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  Any more news?

  -Aude.
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  Craigslist ad for a JW...

  by pes0210 in

  1. watchtower
  2. bible

  just wanted to share an exerpt from what must have been an apostate ;) in a local craigslist add in my area:.

  "up for sale my membership as a jw, with the package you will recieve everlasting life, a virgin wife, a clear bloodguilty free concious, an excuse note for not giving gifts on holidays as well as not having to work on sundays at your job, a magical invisable bubble protection from satan the devil, jury duty excuse, no pressure for having to choose the right vote for president of america, head knowlege and endless argument busters, debunkers, granny slammers, door jammers, window spamers, and a host of other cool stuff you can get away with!!!!.

  note: no returns or exanges aloud, pickup only at my door, free with contribution, no rv's or co/po visits may insue, along with guilt, shame, shunning, embarasment, lost of loved ones comunication, no spiritual advice, and you may be visited by the demons who are going to haunt you for the rest of eternity, and not to mention no more hand shakes at memmorials.

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  That's funny.

  I hope it helped the person who posted it. Very Clever.

  -Aude.
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  Asked a co-worker to join Egg and me for my BD dinner...

  by White Dove in

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  2. relationships

  he's a guy and upon request, he gave me his e-mail address so he could give me a yes or a no to my invitation to join us tonight for dinner.. after i asked him if he'd like to join us, he snickered and said i don't know.

  give me a couple of hours to think about it.

  i asked him four hours later if he had decided, yet, but he hadn't even thought about it yet.. i said that it's not a test question, no right or wrong answer.. he asked where and i said it's a nice place uptown.. he said that he needed to think about it because of the dress up thing.. i said he didn't need to dress up, that just slacks and a nice shirt would do.. that was two days ago, and i haven't heard back from him, yet, although i did e-mail him so he could let me know.. i'm the wheels for the evening, so i needed to know so i could pick him up, or not.. does no answer (seems like avoidance) mean no, or is there some other excuse that might (wanna say rescue his ass but won't say it) be plausible?.

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  Lack of timely answer means that he could not think of graceful way to decline and was hoping you'd forget and move on to someone else. Or waiting to hear who else is attending. Just the three of you can be too much pressure for some people.

  He might be thinking that Birthday Dinner is more intimate than he is interested.

  Also, since it's your birthday, he might be thinking you expect him to pick up the tab.

  Have a nice Birthday Dinner without him.

  Maybe invite co-workers and/or neighbors out for a quick drink after your shift? 3 or 4 co-workers for 30 minutes is easy to 'endure' for those who are timid or uncertain.

  Have a nice Birthday Dinner without him.

  -Aude.
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  DMCA Complaint from The WatchTower for links to KS-10 'Shepherding' book

  by Simon in

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  2. announcements

  yes, that's right, they really do not like people being able to read that book so they wanted links to it removed (it appears they have also been going after the hosts of the content itself as well).. unfortunately, i had to removed the links (which were dead anyway when i checked) and i'd ask that people don't re-post them (sorry).

  i'm sure there are lots of alternative ways for those with the information to get it to those who need it.. here are the discussions on the book:.

  http://www.jehovahs-witness.net/watchtower/beliefs/200524/1/ks10-chapter-one-discussion.

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  There may or may not be Bethelites assigned to monitor this site. I don't know.

  But I would be very surprised if one of our resident apologists DIDN'T call Bethel when they have a specific 'breach' documented.

  They probably got several calls.

  -Aude.