Yes, it's me, "Sunchild." I apologize for posting something so self-indulgent and mostly off-topic, but I sense that I've confused a few people here lately. Maybe this will clear things up... or just raise more questions.
I know that I'm not quite as old as some other people who post here. Because I'm young and seem fairly trusting, some here tend to assume that I'm naive and/or that I don't know what I'm doing when it comes to my dealings with certain people. In light of that, I think it's finally time to tell everyone the truth. Yes, I really am Rochelle, a 25-year-old ex-JW who lives in Ypsilanti. I really do post under the monicker of Sunchild almost all the time, and I do try very hard to be the kind of person I would like to be. But that doesn't mean I've always been this way, or even that that's quite who I am.
Without going into too much dull detail, no one -- NO ONE -- here has ever seen my bad side, and I don't like to show it or even think of it too much. That side of me is nasty, vicious, jealous, angry, suspicious and spiteful, and also exceptionally frail. That side of me is, above all else, terrified of being hurt or being worthless; it's the side that always begs, "Pay attention to me!" while insisting at the same time I keep people at a distance, since they'll only hurt me if they get too close. I've learned to control it, though, so that it rarely shows in its most virulent form, and I've learned to channel that passion into dark and decadent stories, and into fictional characters who are deliciously manipulative and cruel. And if you don't believe that sweet, innocent little Rochelle could write such things, just ask and I'll give you the URL.
The point of all this is that people are often more than what they seem to be. Because of what I truly am -- an angry, frightened, needy person who learned to put it to good use -- I've learned to recognize certain things in other people. Things that remind me of myself. You see, if you had met me, say, about four or five years ago, you would have written ME off, too. That's why, if I sense a core of goodness in a person (especially online since I have much less to lose), that's what I'll focus on the most. I just want to grant others the chance that I once longed to have granted to me. "But what if you end up wasting your efforts?" Yes, that could happen. But what have I really lost? I get to feel good for having done what I believe to be the right thing, and if that person wastes his chance, I never even have to acknowledge his existence again. That's the beauty of the Internet: you can get close and still keep your distance.
All the best to all,
*Rochelle.
"If you have a quality, you should be proud of it. Let it define you, whatever it is."
-- Hellraiser 3.