Kathy
Welcome to the forum!
That's one of the most mature and level-headed introductory posts i've ever read.
You seem to have your head very tightly screwed on.
To invest negative energy towards these people in an ongoing way is to continue to give them power in my life, and I want to end their power.
Indeed!
The healing process is different for each one of us but heal you will, either directly or indirectly through interaction with people from a similar background (i.e. fellow former JW's)
Stay around here.
Peace
Lowden