Posts by Nowman

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Getting Even With The Watchtower SocietyIs It Necessary?

by The wanderer in

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getting even with the watchtower societyis it necessary?at the close of their lives as jehovahs witnesses, some individuals have written books, .

created websites and others have approached the media and the legal system about the .

watchtower society.

Nowman

No, its not necessary to get even with the W.T., but it is necessary to expose (as someone else stated) them. Along the lines of another post I made today, its been 15 years since I have been out, I had myself this morning, am I still not over it? I keep coming to JWD Mon-Fri searching, posting, reading, etc...I can't seem to get enough information regarding this thing that used to be a HUGE part of my life, why can't I just forget?

We never will, thats why. To expose them would give me some vindication, it makes what I went through somewhat worth it. I am not into revenge, but I am into getting the word out about the W.T.S.

Nikki

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Are we really free?

by LennyinBluemont in

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we recently attended our first "apostafest" and as others were doing, took lots of pictures, both at the wedding and on sunday.

checking the board after we got back, several were begging to see photos.

someone else posted some, and so i picked out some of ours and posted them as well.

Nowman

Lenny,

I understand your point of view, I could careless now or 15 years ago when I left about my standing within the org, but for others that still have family in, its very difficult to "come clean". As you know, the shunning thing is a terrible thing, some deal with it better than others, but to each his/her own.

I would take the photo thing (and others too) as something to think about...I love seeing the pcitures posted but if I were a person trying to keep "my secret", I can understand others concerns by pming you....

I know, I know, very diplomatic answer, well I am "Demeter, Goddess of the earth and produce, very down to earth" (current active topic...lol).

Its because I am free spirited, I really understand this situation from many aspects.

My humble opinion only...

Nikki

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ONE YEAR AGO, TODAY......................................

by Warlock in

one year ago, on this date, may 16, 2006, i finally got up the courage to post on jwd.

it was not easy, by any means.

i felt a tremendous amount of guilt.

Nowman

Hello Warlock,

I am glad you decided to stay and others too. I was thinking about JWD at 2:30am this morning (up with newborn, Delanie, don't mind) because I all of sudden I had rush of thoughts regarding various topics that have taken place, ones I have responded to, and ones I have read. I came to the realization that maybe after 15 years, I am still effected by the org? I am not really sure, I am digging deep into myself, to get my answer, as of right now, I have not completely answered myself. Yet, I keep coming back here to share my comments or just for pure curiousity. Maybe I still need that constant confirmation (by coming to JWD) that I made the right decision, am I still insecure about it?

Do you find this true of you too? Its OK if you don't...sometimes I feel overwelmed by JWD and I can't visit as often, need a little break, then somedays I am posting freak. I know, I know, I am not the only one, just had to express it out loud.

My year was 2/6 or 2/16/07, can't belive how "time funs when your having flies".

Nikki

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Which God are you? [Fluff]

by Sirona in

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quiz - which god are you?

http://www.abc.net.au/arts/wingedsandals/make_do/quiz/default.htm.

my result:.

Nowman

I am Demeter, goddess of the earth and produce, I am caring and down to earth...

Nikki (the goddess, I like the sound of that )

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What is the best thing you have done since leaving the truth?

by mtsgrad in

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as a fader i felt delighted at clinking glasses at a pub.

it may seem trivial but it meant a lot to me.

what is the best thing you have done since leaving the truth?.

Nowman

Having children and not raising them as Jehovahs Witnesses, the appreciation I have for this very point makes me feel so happy inside.

Nikki

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What Was Your Mindset Like When You Were Disfellowshiped?

by The wanderer in

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what was your mindset like when you were disfellowshiped?recalling the day, i wrote the watchtower society to tell them that they were disfellowshiped .

as an organization for conduct unbecoming a christian organization was one of mixed feelings .

it was a sad heart wrenching reality that fourteen years of my life in this organization had finally .

Nowman

My mindset was....crazy, crazy, crazy, do I really have the guts to walk away and not go back? What if my parents do a good job at convincing me to stay? Will I succumb and give in to them like I always did? Will I have enough money? Will I be successful out there? Will I get pregnant and turn to drugs? Will I just screw up my life? Will I die at Armagedon? Why does this decision feel so good and exciting? Is that Satan? Am I strong enough?....keep in mind 15 years ago when I left, I still had the JW mind set...Turns out I was strong enough.

Nikki

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Anyone else end up on a JC after losing their virginity?

by yaddayadda in

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yep, i did.

i got 'privately reproved' after rushing to the elders to confess my sin after losing my virginity via fornicating.

i think all that shame and guilt and legalism that flowed on from that experience must've f*cked me up a bit, scuse the pun.

Nowman

I was never in a JC meeting but I did get DFd for fornication. It was 15 years ago, I was 18. I had planned my escape for 3 months prior. I was secretly seeing a very nice boy. When I left on a particular Monday, his parents let me stay with them and him of course. They were very free spirited, good people. I was still a virgin even when I left that day, I did not sleep with him until 3-4 months later. My dad called me every week to see if I had commited fornication, lol. I kept saying, "Dad, I am being honest, I have not had sex yet, but when I do, I will tell you". Eventually, he called me on a particular day, and I said "yes". I was annoucned not too long after that, I refused to meet with my dad the elder and the other elders for a JC.

Nikki

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This forum using same type of thinking as Jehovahs Witnesses?

by AirDuster in

i notice one of the biggest complaints around here about the organization is often related to their constant use of the "us versus them" mentality, (i.e.

"we" need to be seperate from "them" because "they" are wrong and "we" are right).

yet i also notice that many of the posters here use the exact same kind of rhetoric and thinking.

Nowman

Welcome Air Duster....

I think your post is somewhat self - righteous. We all remember why we come here, there are all sorts of different reasons. As long as all play by the easy "rules" of this forum, you can pretty much express what you want. If you do not want to read or post about certain things, then don't.

Nikki

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I emailed the AMW/McClean link to my parents for mothers day and. . .

by Pioneer Spit...oh, i mean Spirit in

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they proved to me once and for all that they have gone completely bananas.

i sent it without any commentary, just 'link attached'.

mind you now, we do not speak.

Nowman

Dear Pioneer Spit....lol

I understand completely, the frustration. I am 33 yrs old, an only child. I left when I was 18 because I could not take my parents anymore and what went on behind closed doors at our home. I have not seen my dad since Oct 1992, and my mom and I did not speak from Oct 1992 to our reuniting in Sept 2000, 8 years. She eventually came to her senses, but suffered very much from the after effects (she stayed in it so much longer than me). I have 3 children, 10 year old daughter, 8 year old son, and a 3 month old baby girl. They will never know their grampa (my side, grampa from dad's side comes over everynight) and as for my mom, she sees them very rarely (she lives in Arizona) and she is always sick, but shes there for them now, thats all that matters to me anyway. The JW org is sick, the responses from your mom piss me off...yet she is just brainwashed as you know...I just wanted to let you know that I feel for you and I understand.

I also lived in Colorado from 94-98, my oldest was born at Aurora Regional hospital, then we moved back to Illinois so she could know her family (only my parents were JWs). Otherwise, if I did not have my daughter, I would have stayed in Denver!

Nikki

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Board Demographics

by snowbird in

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maybe this thread has already been started before.

please forgive me if it has, but i would like to know how many on board are active witnesses, inactive, da/df''d, or never been witnesses.. i am inactive since 2005, black female, separated, head of household, etc.. rsvp.

snowbird.

Nowman

Married white female, 3 children, and I left the org in October 1992, I am disfellowshipped. Thats me on the right (avatar).

Nikki