Matrix,
You've misunderstood my point. You're trying to imply that I said there was something insane about going a doctor, not so. What I hope you understand is that it is insane to further violate a victim by then turning over private medical information to elders. These guys aren't involved in putting a perpetrator away. Their "case" against an abuser needn't be graphic in detail. It certainly shouldn't further invade the privacy of victim by acting like all of their being or life is open to examination by a bunch of irrelevent men.
Since you're pretending elders have a general sense of how to proceed with a child rape investigation, I'd suggest you ask yourself some basic questions about how these types of investigations are conducted. If you think the victim stands in a room full of cops while they check for labial contusion etc. you're way off! Find out what a rape kit is and who administers it! And who has access to it!
Elders have no right to that sort of information. Medical records and rape kits are graphic, personal information. Any MD providing it (or any sister/brother) who provides it to a bunch of wackos who want to play town sheriff ought to be fully prosecuted for violation of privacy. That a parent would stoop so low, is highly disturbing and gives me the creeps that any cult-drone action like that would do!
I point out the elders jobs because I am trying to get the message across to you that these people have their areas of expertise...but social work/medical care/psychiatry/police work aren't necessarily among them. You need to put a little perspective on this. They simply aren't qualified to handle this sort of situation. And don't tell me about how they call legal! If I have a gaping wound, I'm not going pick up the phone and call my lawyer before seeing my doctor!! Is that hard to understand? Child rape is a crime. And it's a medical situation. Forget the society's lawyers. They aren't relevent. Put the victim FIRST. Call the police. Call the doctor. But forget the make-believe courtroom antics.
But, Matrix, I'll say this much. It really is disgusting to me that- while you choose to acknowledge these untrained men as authorities- I do not, and yet you still want to foist there rulings on the outside world. You'd let my toddler neice live next door to a person you KNOW is a child molester who should be in jail and say nothing. NOTHING. Because she isn't in your group. That is sick. That is wrong.
And I want you to know, I wouldn't do that to you. I guess it's called basic compassion for another whether they are on my spiritual bowling league or not.