Posts by Dia

there's a lot to tell but i'm going in this time to be brief, because i'm very busy.. i had been an elder for almost 8 years and a jh for more than 22 years.. i'm a searcher of the truth from the 10 years old.

i grow as a catholic and got baptized as a jh at the age of 21.. in october of 2001 a jw friend ask me about the un&wt and bulgarian affair.

Dia

Welcome home.

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The Elder That Wanted To Disfellowship The Dead

by minimus in

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friends

i mentioned about the elder that masturbated in another post.

this same man at the elder's school, felt that the appropriate course to take against a person that committed suicide was to disfellowship him.

when he was questioned about the reason, he felt that the person, no doubt, committed a sin against the spirit.

Dia

What makes them so brazenly confident about taking over God's job of judging people?

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Sniper strikes again?

by chester in

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friends

news alert

person shot outside falls church, virginia, home depot store; police investigating whether it is related to recent sniper attacks.

details to come.

Dia

Excuse me but I think it is foolish to rule out the idea that this is a terrorist act.

That's what terrorists do. They terrorize. And on that front, they are succeeding in terrorizing the residents of Washington DC (the nation's Capital, hint, hint).

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What can a mother do??

by Tish in

i have just had a conversation with my son who is 8 years old and don't know what to do.

i'll start from the beginning so you understand.. as some may know my hubbie left me when i was still a witness for not believing the truth and also went off with another woman.

i then after a few months met a man i fell in love with instantly.

Dia

ps - will he still be going to meetings with your ex?

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What are your thoughts on writing DA letters?

by mamashel in

as most of you know, i have been inactive for about 2 1/2 yrs and completely out for about 7 months.

i am debating on wether or not to write a letter of da to the org or not.

in some ways i just want closure, and on the other hand i dont want to play by their rules.

Dia

Wow. It's great that he wouldn't mind.

Is there any chance they would shun you? Or bring you up on apostacy charges?

If it ain't broke, don't fix it, I say.

Then just look forward to years and years of subtle hints that will probably never get anywhere.

The book is an excellent suggestion.

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Terrible Anxiety Attack Last Night....

by Sentinel in

i've been dealing with so much stuff lately, and thinking that i was "doing alright".

i'm not on any medication.

i have had emotional issues due to times of severe stress years ago, and took medication, but the main thing is, i worked through all of that.

Dia

We prayed for you in church yesterday. We will continue to do so.

I have a question. How/where is he leaving clues?

I heard something about a Tarot card (where was it?), but nothing more.

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What can a mother do??

by Tish in

i have just had a conversation with my son who is 8 years old and don't know what to do.

i'll start from the beginning so you understand.. as some may know my hubbie left me when i was still a witness for not believing the truth and also went off with another woman.

i then after a few months met a man i fell in love with instantly.

Dia

Don't confuse your standing with JWs with your ability to talk with and pray to God.

He's there for you and He's listening to your son, too.

Empathize with your son. Listen to him. Let him know that you're hearing how sad he is that things have changed.

Let him know that when he grows up, he has the right to choose any religion he wants. Even JWs. Then don't press it. There are a lot of years between 8 and grown-up. He'll have a long, long time to learn many, many things about religion and God.

But God is always there while you're looking and learning.

I'll pray that you can really find something to replace what he was getting out of JWs. Don't assume it's religion he needs to make up the difference.

He might have liked the chance to socialize with kids his own age (or older). He might have enjoyed the chance of learning something and getting immediate (and enthusiastic) positive feedback. Or of proving his ability to behave well or to do something well. Especially something that some people considered hard to do (like going door-to-door). Or of being around such 'distinguished' older men and of aspiring to be like them someday.

He's only 8. Don't probe too deeply.

But try to open up his opportunities to be challenged.

Woodworking comes to mind. Horsebackriding? 4H Club? Boy Scouts?

Perhaps the season might be a good time to go exploring various churches together in your area. He might want to know a whole lot more about Christmas before he dismisses it.

If you can get ahold of it, there is a series of inexpensive, paperback child development books by Ames and Ilg that can be VERY helpful to any parent. They are listed under the titles, "Your Eight-Year Old", "Your Nine-Year Old", etc., etc.

I'm confident you would find them very helpful. And fun, too.

It makes all the difference that you CARE. God bless your efforts.

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Let me hear a witness, agaisnt the witnesses..!!!

by LyinEyes in

i was in the grocery store and someone called my name.

i turned around and it was a young ex jw sister who had been d/f several years ago.

i walked up to her and hugged her , said i havent seen her in so long, yadda yadda.

Dia

Good for you!

As I was reading that, I was thinking, 'there out to be an organization doing this....really reaching out to these d'fd witnesses, etc.'

Then I realized that the WTS would be standing on their head to FORMALLY condemn it, they would indoctrinate their people to discredit, rebuke and probably be supersticiously terrified of it. Having anything to do with THAT organization would REALLY be a sign that a person had sunk into the deepest clutches of the underworld (yawn).

Then, the more I'm thinking of it, I'm wondering....might it not be worth a try?

How might it change things if witnesses knew there is a place to go, someone to turn to, should they get d'fd?

How helpful it might be to hear it rumored that such organization was NOT made up of a bunch of d'fd folks, but of EX-ELDERS and their wives!

Just a thought ;-)