Posts by VanillaMocha73

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any thoughts?

by BIG D in

for those of you that dont know me, i am a single dad with 3 boys for 5 years now, my x signed her rights away long ago.. .

no support ever, no insurance, even before she signed her rights away, many long stories of her abuse that caused her to lose custody to me years ago, she has never dealt with her abuse over even acknowledged it, i put my kids thru years of counseling, and they do not wish to see her, she has been calling alot lately, i dont hear from her for maybe 4 months at a time, she is crying , wanting to try to see them.. i must tell you she has , mentally , physically, and mentally sexually abused them, and then charged me with sexual abuse, with which it took me a year in evaluations, and family studies , and 35,000 in lawyer fees to disprove, and the judge saw her lies and removed them from her for abuse.

i also believe she has many emotional problems , both real and imagined.

VanillaMocha73

I understand where you are coming from. My son's father is abusive and yet I keep hoping he will come to his senses. He has not done anything as bad as your ex-wife (I don't think - although more and more is coming to light about him.) However, I don't like to deprive my son of his father and at the same time I know it is bad for my son to have to deal with him. It is a hard line to walk!!!!

Maybe what will help is the experience of a childhood friend. We were both about 14 years old and he kept saying how he wanted to meet his bio dad, how life would be better with him, etc. (His JW stepdad was also abusive to him and his mother.) Well, he was taken to Texas to meet him and his bio dad was drunk at the time and it crushed this poor boy so much that I don't think he ever really recovered.

I think the best thing for my son, even though it will be hard to go through, is when the courts finally proclaim that my ex is unstable enough to be denied any visitation. It will hurt me to see my child go through it, but it is not me that has been violent, abusive and mentally unbalanced. It is not my son's fault either, but something that he will have to deal with at some point.

Protect those kids, even though it is hard!!!

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A rude reminder...buying a car

by Gregor in

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friends

we have been considering a new auto.

we have one with 125,000 mi and one with 145,000. they are both doing fine but i must admit i have been tempted by the deep discounts and rebates on new models.

so i take my car to the dealer.

VanillaMocha73

I want self-check for cars. Select car I want, take the bar code through the self-check, insert cash and go home......

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is there a "disfellowshipped list"?

by ruined in

i stopped going to kh when i was in my early 20's.

i'm now in my mid 40's.

i've done many of the things for which a person should be df'd over the many years since but i don't know whether i am df'd.

VanillaMocha73

However, it would make for an interesting time to write en masse to the Borg and request to know whether each one is df'd or not and for what reason? Do you suppose they would divulge?

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Now widow wants MONEY because of no blood transfusion

by VanillaMocha73 in

http://www.stltoday.com/stltoday/news/stories.nsf/stlouiscitycounty/story/6dc0ac2739be6e63862573b000160633?opendocument

should not she just get a job?

or express her faith that jehovah will take care of her?

VanillaMocha73

I'm fairly sure the blood docs had a clause in there whereby the doctors are held harmless for any loss of life due to JWs decision. Therefore, why does this not apply to the insurance and/or employer?

There is no saying for sure that he WOULD have survived had he taken the transfusion either, but basically he chose his path - why expect others to pay for it? Or did he follow the Armageddon plan of "Don't save money, don't have life insurance, don't have 401K because Armageddon is coming?"

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Getting married too young

by freedomfighter in

have noticed an inevitable trend in australia.

(probably is all over the world).

as a jw u can't have sex before marriage right?

VanillaMocha73

As well as the emphasis on sex at the KH - I mean a WT study about oral sex that our toddlers must sit through and pay attention to.... Local needs talks.. constant talks on immorality.... Add that to hormones and "dont touch each other unless you are getting married" and you spawn a whole boatload of troubles. I was barely 18 and married a 34 year old.... (pedophile)

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Now widow wants MONEY because of no blood transfusion

by VanillaMocha73 in

http://www.stltoday.com/stltoday/news/stories.nsf/stlouiscitycounty/story/6dc0ac2739be6e63862573b000160633?opendocument

should not she just get a job?

or express her faith that jehovah will take care of her?

VanillaMocha73

http://www.stltoday.com/stltoday/news/stories.nsf/stlouiscitycounty/story/6DC0AC2739BE6E63862573B000160633?OpenDocument Should not she just get a job? Or express her faith that Jehovah will take care of her?

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My daughter just ran out of contact solution HELP

by Jez in

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friends

yikes.

it is too late to run to the store for contact solution!

any suggestions on how to save the contacts?

VanillaMocha73

Distilled water will work, but your eyes will sting in the morning. And yes, keep an extra bottle on hand.

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Fighting the curse of the face-eating tumour

by Third Eye Open in

http://www.telegraph.co.uk/news/main.jhtml;jsessionid=ps2smuv0bpc55qfiqmgcfggavcbquiv0?xml=/news/2007/12/03/wface103.xml.

(ugh, i can't believe people!!!

(shakes head in disbelief))

VanillaMocha73

Wow. I hope they find a cure for this soon. We have a guy at the bus stop that has something like this. I have no idea.... I guess I would want to try the surgery rather than try life like that. But how would I know? I can't even imagine.

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And By Their Fruits You Will Know Them

by VanillaMocha73 in

so.... i took my mom to the doctor today, and my grandma (adopted) walked in, looked right at me and just looked away.

no smile, nothing....

this is the woman whom i have taken to the hospital, whom i have stayed with time after time when she had surgery so i could help her, whom has known me since i was tiny..... can you imagine not even smiling or acknowledging someone you have known since infancy, who has shown so much love and loyalty for you over the years?

VanillaMocha73

I think if you actually sign up as member on the site, the restricted posts go away. Some sort of spam guard thing..... I think my screen name is fairly common. I came by it when i was doing an intervention for a friend's daughter who was getting into trouble and/or expressing some suicidal thoughts on the Net. Thankfully, she got past all that and is a fine young lady today!!!! I do not subscribe to or recognize the JW disfellowshipping practice. It is unloving and unscriptural. I can understand the shunning that I described in my post - when you have firsthand knowledge of events and people and God has led you to the personal decision that you are not going to invite the drug dealer family over for dinner. The Corinthian congregation (where the JWs try to find support for their DF'ing tradition) had a man in it whom everyone personally KNEW was committing incest. They continued to wink at this guy and have him over for dinner (to put a modern-day twist on it). Paul said "Hey - what this guy did is not right. Let the rebuke of the majority be sufficient for him." So people realized that they should be not be comfortable around sin. There is nowhere that says his grandmother was to treat him as dead. Now, she may have gone up to him and told him personally that she was not comfortable with him around because of his choices. But that is different. My adopted grandma does not know a thing about my circumstances - only the lies she was told AFTER my disfellowshipping. And they are the most ridiculous lies ever!!!! But nobody is able to ask me a thing - the truth is banned!!!! The lies are allowed. By their fruits..... There is further nothing in this scripture that says three men should make a secret decision and then make a mysterious announcement that so-and-so is no longer one of Jehovah's Witnesses. Nobody knows what happened - the elders have tried to take the place of Christian conscience. That is putting themselves in a dangerous spot. In fact, when Jesus said to treat the person like a tax collector, think of how Jesus treated tax collectors. He didn't shun them - he loved them!!!!

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Judge: 14-year-old Jehovah's Witness can refuse blood transfusion

by Gilberto in

a 14 year old can refuse a blood transfusion.

this is against the wishes of his parents.. http://seattlepi.nwsource.com/local/6420ap_wa_jehovahs_witness_transfusion.html.

judge: 14-year-old jehovah's witness can refuse blood transfusionthe associated press.

VanillaMocha73

The other sorrow is that this poor child felt cast out by his parents, because of their drug problem. He finally gets accepted by his aunt (with the conditional JW acceptance of course). Then he is faced with this blood decision. What chance did he have? Stand up and say "I want to save my life?" Then the aunt and the JWs and (he felt) his God would cast him out again. The news story says "he believes with the transfusion he would be unclean and unworthy."

These people have much to answer for, and answer they will.....

I need help - I have been awarded full medical decision making with my son and my ex has run right over me with sneaking a "no blood" card into my son's wallet with HIS contact information. So, I know if there is ever a problem, there will be a fight. And I'm sure my son has been indoctrinated in all the "proper" ways. sigh....