Our grown childre have asked that we not discuss our "issues". It's not that bad. We talk about everything else, as we too have a very close relashionship with our kids. I try my best to not let it bother me and concentrate on the positives. The alternative (being shunned by them) would kill me.
becca1
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An Update!
by Bstndance infor those of you that have followed my soap-opera on this board.... quick re-cap.
recently, my mom was threatened by the elders to stop associating with me or else.
i guess she feared i was becoming an "apostate".
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AHHHHH! I'm PREGNANT!!!
by Jez injust thought i would pop in here to tell you all that i am 3 months pregnant!
it was quite a shock.
my husband and i have been married for 5 years.
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becca1
Congrats!!!
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My journey is reaching another level
by InquiryMan insome four years ago, i handed in my last report in the kh.
both wanted our children to have a more mainstream life than the witnesses frame could offer.
in time, my wife and i got separated.
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becca1
Oops: phase not fase
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My journey is reaching another level
by InquiryMan insome four years ago, i handed in my last report in the kh.
both wanted our children to have a more mainstream life than the witnesses frame could offer.
in time, my wife and i got separated.
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becca1
I wish you all the best in this new fase. I hope it's not too difficult.
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Anti Social Personality Disorder in WT cult leaders?
by Dogpatch inthere is an interesting article in the volume 5, number 3 (2006) of cultic studies review (http://www.culticstudiesreview.org) and i wanted to share a few of the interesting points related to anti-social cult leaders.
while application to a seasoned cult like the watchtower may be more ambiguous than a one-leader organization, i would like to know your viewpoints as to how you may have noticed any of these tendencies among elders and other leaders within the watchtower organization.
it certainly applies to rutherford for one!
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becca1
On the point of "identifying with the agressor, and becoming an extension of him", I would say that the "tell on your brother's every move" mentality seems to fit that bill. Having done so myself, I can tell you that it makes you feel good in a perverse kind of way. When you tell on someone else, you feel closer to the "powers that be" because you feel you are protecting and furthering their interests. It's like a sick way to seek approval.
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Constructive Criticism - Sincere or Malignant?
by compound complex indear friends,.
when i was a kid i remember that the lincolns [the automobile] of the late '50s had "canted" quad headlights.
in that case, canted means slanting with respect to a particular line.
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becca1
I always thought those were "cated" headlights. You know, like cat eyes.
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'I love you'
by Zico inyesterday, i came to the realisation, that nobody has ever said these words to me, least not that i can remember, which was a temporarily devastating moment for me.
this began with my father.
spotting him in front of the tv in his favourite chair, i walked over and came out with the words 'i love you' it felt very weird, because i think it may be the first time i've ever said these words myself, but i'm going to blame my upbringing on this.
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becca1
I LOVE YOU!!!!! I mean it. I don't know you but l love the way you think, so I love you.
That was amazing what you did. It doesn't sound as if your family doesn't love you. They are just not good at verbalizing emotion.
Is this a British thing? "Stiff upper lip" and all that?
My parents never told me they were proud of me. I was an only child and tried very hard to please. I made very good grades in school and won many awards. Never heard "I'm proud of you".
A few years ago, we had WT study in which it was brought out that when Jesus was baptized, and Jehovah's voice was heard saying: "This is my son, the beloved, of whom I have approved", he was saying, "I'm proud of you". They brought out that our children need to hear this from their parents. A few days latter, my mother (who is totally obedient to the Society) said to me; "I'm proud of you" (I was over 40 years old and she was in her late 70's). I looked at her like she was nuts and said; "You've never said that to me in my life". She said: "I know. Now I've said it."
So I know how you feel and I know how your parents feel. I'ts weird either way.
But I still love you!
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Am I done having children?
by whyamihere ini have a question to the parents on the board:.
how did you know your last child was your last?
did your family feel complete?.
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becca1
You definitely don't sound like you are finished. When your family is complete you won't be asking this question. You will know. Kinda like being annointed.
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My JW nieghbors and their "demonic" born again landlady
by lovelylil insome of you may be aware of my ongoing saga on my street.
my hubby and i own our home which is on a street where one of our ex elders and his family lives.
actually they are almost directly across the street.
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becca1
I'm happy for you. I'm also glad that you took the high road and did not stoop to their level. I'm sure your neighbors realize who the true christians are.
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What have been the strangest "Grounds for DFing?
by new boy ini'm sure there are many........... what happen in my family was crazy......... glendora califorina 1961.my mother wanted to change khs, it had a "bad spirit" there.
there was also a mass exodus from the hall.
she wanted to go to the azusa cong.
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becca1
I can't believe I forgot this one: a friend of my daughter's was df'd after she was raped. They said she was in the wrong place at the wrong time and had already been counseled about drinking and bad asociations, so she was asking for it. She was 16 and her parents were in the midst of a nasty divorce. Where is the love???