Posts by raylo

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JW Weddings

by Jeffro in

at every jw wedding i ever went to, the celebrant has always said without fail that "the bride and groom have requested that no rice or confetti be thrown".. is this spiel used everywhere?

is it actually a request of the bride and groom, or is it just bombastically imposed by the elders (i.e.

a lie)?.

I actually stopped going to JW weddings loooooooooooong ago. You've seen one, you seen them all...lol J/K. I fell asleep at the three I did go to, so I figured I'd do just as well sleeping at home or turning on my own music to listen to...same effect, but without the spying.

Actually it wouldn't matter either way....... the elders would be pissed at me because I'd refuse to have a KH wedding anyways. I simply get deftly annoyed when other ppl pen their opinions or try to overtake something that it is not theirs to take. If they want to plaster a host of rules down, so be it ....but at their own wedding, not mine. I just refuse to pay for or invite persons who have no personal interest in the bride and groom, only an interest in how the wedding is perceived in the eyes on onlookers. Hell a judges chamber works wonders for me.....or if I bother marry, all I need are the groom, some family, and some friends......who the hell said I'd have to invite a whole hall of ppl? I'd just as well get married without inviting ANYONE from the hall, then stroll my ass in the very next meeting as a married woman.(ok that won't happen since I really don't go to meetings) The marriage will be the same whether or not the rest of the cong was invited. I'm an extremely simple woman, so it wouldn't be the wedding I'd want to be impressive.....it'd be the marriage that I would want to impress my groom and myself for quite some time.

My mother, the devout JW, actually understands this and has no problem with it. The only qualm she has is that I'm in no hurry to get married. I'll be 30 soon and she just by damn wants me to get all hitched up.........but even she admitted when we spoke yesterday that even within her cong, the ppl were of no suit. So I'm glad she didn't try to pressure me into dating & marrying anyone there as the other sisters tried to. She actually no longer even mentions ONLY the men of the JW society as she realizes that that is just not a reality for me or for her. She is aware that although techically I'm still baptized, I don't even look at the men of the organization. If I wanted to marry a robot, I'll build my own. Likewise if anyone gave me some list of rules for a wedding, it'd be best of it were for their own, not mine. The confetto/rice thing though is usually because of the difficulty of clean up. Hell some ppl find the larger things hard to clean up, so the rice and confetti can be a nuisance.....and could still pop up in corners,etc. months after a ceremony. But the no disco, no hay rides(ok I wouldn't do that lol), no alcohol, certain amt of non JWs.. etc..ok that is someone's personal no no wish list to which I (since I know my mouth) would tell the elder a simple and flat "Don't come then". Hey it beats the alternative of "Well %@ you %$#@&, you're not paying for this and I damn well didn't ask your *&^%# opinion"

Raylo

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Young People Ask... & (those stealthy apostates)

by *jeremiah* in

young people ask .

.. chat rooms.

how can i avoid the dangers?introducing moral corruptioni was in a chat room with a group of people who i thought were all jehovahs witnesses, says a youth named tyler.

raylo

From my experience.....the young ppl whom the 'young people ask' article are aiming at were the active ones within the congregation who were doing the 'morally corrupt' things and discussing them among their peers after the meeting. Only when the older brother and sisters walked up did these same youths go into 'holy' mode and once the older ones walked away resumed the same 'corrupt' talk. They had no need to find info in chat rooms, they were already thinking/doubting things on their own. I have outrightly heard these youths (before the chat room boom) say how much BS they thought was being taught by the JWs. The ones who complained were the ones who were afraid of what the older ones would think, thus the need for a host of outlandish YPA articles. BLAH.

Raylo

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THE DECEMBER 2006 OUR KINGDOM MINISTRY QUESTION BOX

by enlightenedcynic in

question: .

would it be appropriate to arrange yard sales or other fund raising events to help the congregation?

answer: .

raylo

Ah..what a relief.

So I WAS doing just as they asked when I refused to ever raise my hand to agree with some petition to pay for the CO's visit, or to pay for a new parking lot, or to help pay the bills.

I actually never did "contribute"

Well see, I'm just loyal to the end! Not letting the solicitaions in....no siree bob!

Raylo

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if he knows all

by abuttercup in

i have often wondered..... they say jehovah is the begining and the end, and that he can read every heart.

if so, did he not know eve would eat the fruit and then adam would follow?

did he not know satan would try to pull his weight?

raylo

this is sooooo off topic

but a nutty friend of mine said that maybe Eve was curious about the fruit from the tree because she thought it could be better than sex with Adam ....maybe that's why they'd had no kids yet.

as I said..it was a nutty friend. haha

anyway the whole story is flawed.

and who would seriously sentence all of mankind to death and make them eternally sinful just because somebody ate fruit from a tree? Imperfect parents certainly don't sentence their child and their potential offspring to death for eating that lollypop they were told not to eat.

blah. But it's one darn interesting fable/mother goose story ain't it?

Raylo

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Um..hi...I'm new too!

by Ex-Jo Ho in

wow!

i came across this site and i felt a huge weight come off of my shoulders!

someone understands!

raylo

Welcome Josie!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Glad to have you

Love the ID name !

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Hi Everyone

by Stezza in

i have been reading here for a while but as you may of noticed the assembly games post has flushed me out!

it has been fascinating to read all your experiences and to know that the stuff that i thought was odd, was thought odd by others as well.. two things made me leave:.

1. i found i could not do return visits as i did not want to break up families.

raylo

welcome aboard Stezza!!!

glad to have you!

Raylo

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Do you dream you are back in the Borg?

by uriah in

i have depressingly frequent dreams of being back in the borg.

i am out on the work thinking why am i here i don't do this anymore.

i am in kingdom halls with my mag - underlined!

raylo

hell no I don't think or dream about it

hence the smile

Raylo

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Guess what was left in our door

by NYCkid in

my partner and i arrived today at our weekend country home.

we haven't been here for a couple of weeks.

anyway, the jw left us a little surprise folded up on our front door...their "false religion" tract.

raylo

I live in gated apartments. I guess they scaled the damn 6 ft gates or something because one was left in my door.

It's funny because I live in a huge apartment community where even the ppl who work there think it's too large a property to check in on things or go door to door with community messages, so why in hell a JW would come in and work a gated community with over 1,100 aparments is beyond me.

They don't know I'm there because I moved here after the hurricane Katrina destroyed my home on the MS coast.....even my old cong didn't know I had moved to that coast, so they damn well didn't know that I moved to another state afterwards. I never was one to feel that I must keep ppl who are not relatives informed of my whereabouts or personal information.........so some ramdom JWs just decided for kicks to come into a closed community to pass out tracts. (I'm going to have to speak to the managers about that....you know safety issues and all...lol)

Not sure what I did with it, but I do recall wanting to light a candle and not being able to find my stash of matches.....and somehow the candle did get lit.

Raylo

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Fireworks night tonight!

by dobbie in

jw
friends

anybody going to a fireworks display tonight in uk?it'll be the first time since being a jw but i love fireworks and am going to one tonight(for the scouts-another no no!

)i still feel abit uneasy about it cos of why jws should'nt do it but know my little boy will love it.i was so disappointed when i became a jw and couldn't do this either!sorry to post something so unimportant but i'm being very childishly excited about it and can't tell anyone else!

!.

raylo

Ooooooooookay

So this actually lets me know just how little I ever paid attention to things while at the KH

I'm sitting here wondering " Did I even know that JW's were not supposed to be into the fireworks or their viewing?" lol

I'm sure it was either talked to death or plastered all over some article or what have you, but reading through some of these posts and my constant " Hmm I never knew they said that", I realize that somehow while I was in attendence at the hall, I still was 'really' not there.....

Raylo

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What are you now ?

by moomanchu in

jw
friends

curious as to what exwitnesses have become or believe.

i haven't joined any religous group and do not attend any services.

(have visited a church's service)

raylo

I'm nothing really.....just me

I'm not into any organized religion, as anything organized takes away from some individual thoughts. And anything questioned as part of any organized religions is rebuffed and excuses run rampant.

I've never set foot in a church to this day and have no intention of doing so on my own...

I simply live my life with common sense. I know the difference between right and wrong. I'm very reserved, so whether or not JW's TOLD me that so and so is wrong, most likely I would not have done those things because I simply personally believe that way. I mean really most ppl follow the 10 commandments as common sense anyways. As for principles, I don't like smoking, I don't really like drinking (unless it's a good wine or import beer, but no hard liquors), I don't like wild parties, I hate most modern music out today, etc etc etc. I really don't need a religion to tell me these things, it's already just the way I am. I'm reserved, I'm religion-free, I like it and I'm just swell with it. (well I also have not checked for typographical errors and I'm swell with that too..haha)

RAYLO