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  Sometimes I miss the friendships and good times......

  by Alana in

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  there was a jw funeral i attended this past saturday at the congregation where i grew up and where my mom still attends.

  most all of my childhood friends were there.

  they had a movie/slide presentation playing at the back of the funeral home of different events, family members, congregation members, etc.

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  brunhilda40

  Girasle,

  I am a non JW who is in the process of losing a good friend who is JW because I am a lesbian... long story and if you check my posts you can read the chat. Anyways, If my friend reached out to me, I would respond. As I have learned on these boards, that sometimes leaving the door open just a crack... helps for healing and ultimatley perhaps getting someone out of this cult. I really did not want to believe at first that JW was a cult, I wanted to be tolerant and accepting... Anyways good luck with your friend, I say follow your heart!

  Blessings,

  Brunhilda
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  Are associations with worldly people a matter of concience?

  by brunhilda40 in

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  i am really struggling right now with a jw friend of mine, she always told me that her association with me was a matter of consicence (i am a lesbian).

  of course out of nowhere her husband forbids her to associate with me... i have posted before on this topic on the friends board.

  i really am trying to understand the complexities of jw.

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  brunhilda40

  I am really struggling right now with a JW friend of mine, she always told me that her association with me was a matter of consicence (I am a lesbian). Of course out of nowhere her husband forbids her to associate with me... I have posted before on this topic on the friends board. I really am trying to understand the complexities of JW. What issues really are a matter of consience? Thanx so much for your input.
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  What are the demonic practices of JW

  by brunhilda40 in

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  i am just curious, what practices do jw have that would be considered demonic?

  i am not clear about what the memorial service would entail that would be demonic?

  oviously i am not a jw, however a good friend (or ex friend not sure of the status at this point) is a jw.

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  brunhilda40

  Thankyou all so much for the clarification... I hope my questions don't sound silly.... I will tell you one thing, as sad as the situation is with the doctrine that is used for brainwashing in this organization, it is very interesting... It is amazing what people will do to explain thier existence and have peace of mind. As I have done alot of comparitive studies of religions, this is all very fascinating and sad. My own version of god does not involve any particular secular religion. I was raised Jewish and my stepbrother and sister were catholic. We had 2 opposing religions going on at one time while I was growing up. I rejected my jewish faith and was forced to do the Bat Mitzvah ceremony. I When the rabbi confirmed that I was an adult in the religion at 13 years old, I asked him if that meant I could make my own decisions. He said YES, so I informed him that I would NEVER attend services again..... As a young adult I ended up joing catholic campus ministry, and we sat in the woods with guitars and passed the bread and wine. I found out later that the priest had been ex-commuicated for doing pagan rituals. When I moved to a small town in New England and went to my first real Mass, it was then I learned all the things I was never told and promptly left. Then I thought I would be a pagan... that went on for several years.

  Now my spirtuality is real mixture of beliefs, and based on the idea of Karma or what goes around comes around. I don't want to do anything that causes harm to anyone, and live life with integrity. So I understand some of the pain that people on this board have experienced, I was shunned by my jewish family, betrayed by the priest I thought was teaching me good lessions... now I am being told by my JW friend that her husband says I am a bad association because I am a lesbian. Go figure... all I know is that as human beings it is painful and complicated to find a faith that works... thanx for all of your support
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  What are the demonic practices of JW

  by brunhilda40 in

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  2. friends

  i am just curious, what practices do jw have that would be considered demonic?

  i am not clear about what the memorial service would entail that would be demonic?

  oviously i am not a jw, however a good friend (or ex friend not sure of the status at this point) is a jw.

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  brunhilda40

  Thanx Freetose... I was trying to go threw the posts and can not find it. I am just trying to understand as much as I can, so that when the time comes and I can help my friend I am armed with real knowlege.
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  Anyone had a breast reduction?

  by bluesapphire in

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  i'm a short 5'2" latina.

  i have this tiny frame.

  i finally shed the 20 lbs.

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  brunhilda40

  I have had a breast reduction and it was the best thing I ever did for myself. I used to weight 394 pounds and lost 200 pounds on weightwatchers. My breast size had not changed, so I got one through medical insurance. It is a WHOLE NEW WORLD!!!!!
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  What are the demonic practices of JW

  by brunhilda40 in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  i am just curious, what practices do jw have that would be considered demonic?

  i am not clear about what the memorial service would entail that would be demonic?

  oviously i am not a jw, however a good friend (or ex friend not sure of the status at this point) is a jw.

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  brunhilda40

  I may be mistaken but I saw somewhere on the board refrences to deomic when refering to the Memorial Service.
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  What are the demonic practices of JW

  by brunhilda40 in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  i am just curious, what practices do jw have that would be considered demonic?

  i am not clear about what the memorial service would entail that would be demonic?

  oviously i am not a jw, however a good friend (or ex friend not sure of the status at this point) is a jw.

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  brunhilda40

  I am just curious, what practices do JW have that would be considered demonic? I am not clear about what the memorial service would entail that would be demonic? Oviously I am not a JW, however a good friend (or ex friend not sure of the status at this point) is a JW.
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  I think I have lost my friend...

  by brunhilda40 in

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  2. friends

  i posted earlier regarding my friend who is a jw that i have spent time with first as a work association, and then as just a friend.

  she has a lesbian daughter and me being a lesbian was able to help her understand some of her daughters lifestyle.

  i spent time staying at her home when i was in the area, had what i thought was a good relationship with her husband.

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  brunhilda40

  I posted earlier regarding my friend who is a JW that I have spent time with first as a work association, and then as just a friend. She has a lesbian daughter and me being a lesbian was able to help her understand some of her daughters lifestyle. I spent time staying at her home when I was in the area, had what I thought was a good relationship with her husband. Her kids really liked me.... On my last visit her husband went off the deepend ( mind you he has not attended a meeting in 2years and has brought lots of "wordly" friends in the home that smokes and drinks ect..) and told her that she could not associate with me. As described in an earlier post titled "I have a question" which you can reference for details.

  My friend said it would be ok to text message her since her husband does not know how to do that on her phone. Yesterday I got a simple message DO NOT TEXT ME. I guess this is it....So am I now considered satan's messenger, is she in trouble with the elders... have they taken her to JW court and humiliated her???? She is in such an horrible marriage which our association actually is the least of her problems, since she has confided details to me. I am so angry and hurt right now I can't even begin to describe what I feel.... Thanx for listening.
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  I have a question...

  by brunhilda40 in

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  i really need some help and clariety on a situation i am involved in with a friend who is jw.

  i am not jw, i am a female lesbian.

  i have made a friend threw work who is jw.

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  brunhilda40

  I appreciate your posting and it gives me some hope. To answer your questions:

  1) The adopted children are actually her grandchildren. Both of them come from previous marriages and have sczophrenic sons. The husbands son had 2 children and was sexually abusive to them, so they adopted both girls

  2) Both of them converted to JW when they were using drugs a number of years ago, and have not gone threw any 12 step recovery program, so in my few are effectivley "dry drunks".

  3) The husband refuses to get medical attention for his anger/deppression and I secretly think that he may have similar mental illness problems as his son. He has made several suicide attempts and recently asked his wife for a divorce, not due to her association with me but because he claimed that he did not believe in the religion. My friend for the last 2 years has gone to meetings ect...not as active as she would like to be but there are other circumstances that come into play.

  4) The other thing I did not mention is that my friend has a lesbian daughter who has left the JW, and really wanted to try and understand the "lifestyle" she misses her daughter very much. That is not all I have incommon with her, we both love animals, have similar life experiences, I have released over 200 pounds threw a 12 step program and she has some weightloss issues, we have the same sence of humor ect... What niether one of us can understand is how her husband can continue to have "wordly" friends from work that drink and smoke over to the house, he lets them smoke and drink.

  I am so frustrated because she has confided in my that there are much LARGER issues in her marriage them this issue with me. She feels obligated to stay with her husband, even though he emotionally abused her and sometimes gets physical. What would the elders say about that? Do women have to stay with someone who is abussive?
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  I have a question...

  by brunhilda40 in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  i really need some help and clariety on a situation i am involved in with a friend who is jw.

  i am not jw, i am a female lesbian.

  i have made a friend threw work who is jw.

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  brunhilda40

  I really need some help and clariety on a situation I am involved in with a friend who is JW. I am not JW, I am a female lesbian. I have made a friend threw work who is JW. I mete her on travel and spent 12 weeks training with her for my job. She is aware of my sexuality issues and I am aware of JW stance on homosexuality. However she told me that everyone stands on thier own before Jeovaha and it is not her place to judge me. This basic understanding has allowed us to have a wonderful friendship. I clearly understand topics that would be inappropriate and we simply do not discuss them. I have gotten to know her family, 2 adopted children and husband. I have spent time with all of them, sharing meals ect... Since I live 4 hours away, and am looking to relocate to the area she is in, she opened up her home to me, and I have spent nights. The last time I came to visit her husband informed her that she could no longer associate with me, that I was an inappropriate association. Her husband has been having severe emotional issues and is not currently attending meetings ect...She is very upset and confided in me that whenever she makes friends he finds a reason not to like them, whether they are JW or not. Is it true that a husbands word regardless is the authority and women must be submissive? Are JW's not allowed to have personal associations outside of the hall?Up to this point everything has been fine and knowing them has broken many steriotypes I assumed about JW. I saw them in this context as loving, tolerant and understanding people. I need help and some feedback as to what to do.......