Wednesday---- I'm afraid I'm still not making myself very clear through this thread...blame it on the emotional distress, I guess.
I already AM out of the marriage, a noncustodial parent who has been gradually squeezed out of my sons' lives by the efforts of my ex and with the support of the WT teachings and his JW extended family. My oldest son is the last one to tell me that he wants nothing to do with me now...and such a big part of me wonders if I SHOULD have said something to the kids a long time ago, to prevent it getting to this point. --And wondering if I should say something NOW [since they're already shunning me, it feels like I have nothing at this point to lose]. Wondering if I should give them something to ponder while they are spending the next umpteen years actively shunning me (and still under the influence of the WT/ my ex/ his family)--even though I expect it would do absolutely nothing positive at this stage.
I'm getting a lot of answers to say nothing, which is interesting, because when I brought up a similar, related thread a week or so ago, the feedback was overwhelmingly in favor of being UP FRONT with the fact--that the kids may be old enough to handle it. [I'm only contemplating telling my 18-yr-old at this point, not his 16- and 12-year-old brothers. Part of me is concerned that saying nothing ensures any grandaughters I may eventually have will be at risk (because he also sexually abused two of his sisters before me).
It's all so confusing!!! ...Plus, damnit, I just wanna see some justice done! [not vigilante justice, but the REAL thing]