Posts by Hortensia

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Help me Plz (teen issues)

by Demokan in

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i have bdd, it isn't just the meetings it's everything.

i don't want to go but i feel guilty of not going cause he said everyone is wondering where i am, but i dont want anyone to see my face... and tomorrow they said they'll call me to make sure im going but it's so tough.

also how do i cancel talks thx.. .

Hortensia

WAIT ONE MORE QUESION WHAT HAPPENS IF I CANCEL THE DAY OF? OMG~! WILL I GET IN TROUBLE? I CANT DEAL

What's the worst they can do? Lecture you, pressure you, apply guilt? I'll tell you a secret from my teen years -- I've never admitted to it before. When I was getting yelled at, given guilt and grief, I stared at the other person's nose and thought about how ugly they look when they are lecturing, and said things to myself like, "lecture all you want, you can't really tell what I'm thinking, you stupid jerk." I couldn't be overtly rebellious at the time, but I could think my own thoughts. Eventually they give up yelling and go do something else, especially if you just keep staring and don't answer.

I'm more concerned about your suicide thoughts and feeling like an alien. Please consider just going to the emergency room if those thoughts get too strong.

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HAPPY WEDDING ANNIVERSARY MR & MRS SMIDDY

by smiddy in

53 years ago we got married in a kh by a bro.

about 20 years ago my wife and i, and two children left the cult , and have never been happier .. wifey was happy with the flowers i gave her and this evening we will go for a quiet dinner at a restuarant with a bottle or two of champers and if i`m lucky i may even get desserts , or not.. smiddy.

Hortensia

Congratulations on having such a long successful marriage, and on getting out of the wtbts before you lost your minds.

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Human Origins- An Interesting Website

by metatron in

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http://www.ancient-origins.net/news-general-human-origins/what-we-discovered-about-ancient-human-origins-year-and-what-still.

this is an interesting website that features new claims and discoveries about human origins.

i believe it has great value in supporting the view that human descent is not a simple 'adam and eve' situation and that our ancestors may have looked quite different from us.. neanderthals had huge jaws, more powerful arms and a bony browridge that may have made look bestial.

Hortensia

ugh. creation/evolution controversy. Boring. There is no real controversy, just loads of people who can't look a fact in the face, and who keep arguing in spite of plenty of proof they are wrong.

That said, I love reading about different human groups, and DNA, such interesting stuff and it is definitely evidence of evolution.

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Girls can't do maths

by Laika in

a story from my days as the accounts servant (not verbatim).

me: hello, [brother] here's your copy of the money slip for this meeting, i just finished the count.. cong.

secretary: thanks... who counter signed that there?.

Hortensia

Oh jesus, just stab me in the eyes and get it over with. What absolute assholes they produce, all those religions that denigrate women.

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Valentine's Day:" At least someone got a chick today!"

by humbled in

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that's what my oldest son said when i texted that our little red hen, goldie, against all odds, hatched herself a chick tonight.

nearly midnight now and i checked--there's another one breaking out to join the first one--.

--i put the egg to my ear and heard it cheeping!.

Hortensia

Chickens make the nicest pets. I used to have 30 hens. Friends called the chicken yard the "chicken ritz" because the hens were so spoiled. I didn't mind, they laid eggs for us all the time, and kept the bugs and flies down and were friendly and sweet. I had two Rhode Island Reds who would follow me around the chicken yard as I killed flies with a swatter. I would hold out the swatter with the dead fly on it to one of the hens and she would nibble it daintily and say "thank you" with a sweet little warble. Ah, sweet memories.

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Consperiacy or am I seeing things?

by dogon in

my wifes family has not really kept in contact with her after we left the cult.

i am the main reason but she never was a strong believer she just went with the flow as to not cause problems.

she has not heard much from her mother since the death of her brother 3 years ago.

Hortensia

to which I had to reply that I don't have a dog in the hunt but I really don't care if two men or women want to live together, its not my place to tell them how to live.

Good for you!

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It's official too: I will be DF'd... probably next Wednesday

by ILoveTTATT in

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i will write my story soon... .

Hortensia

Turn your back on the wtbts and go out and live a great life. Make friends, get an education, make sure you get a chance to travel as much as possible before you settle down. Make a wish list of things you'd like to do and get out there and do them.

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Overwhelming Fear of Death

by Perversion of a truth in

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do any of the posters on here deal with this?

i do, and i hate it.

people (mostly my brother) tells me to not fear death and just to enjoy life and so on, but that doesn't seem to help any.

Hortensia

I went through a period of being afraid of dying. I went through a period of being sad that life is so short and death is forever. Funny, what helped is my practical nature (can't do anything about it, so don't worry about it), and the realization that if I'm dead, I won't know. I don't think about it much anymore, and when I do, I don't feel bad about it.

I hope you come to that point, too. You will, if you just think about it logically, and then get on with making your life more worthwhile while you have it.

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other forums

by Hortensia in

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i look at three forums pretty much every day, this one, a knitting/crochet forum and a weight-loss forum.

the weight-loss site has loads of useful apps, but the forum consists of posts by people who are mostly pretty young, self-absorbed and ill-informed except on a narrow range of information, mainly weight-lifting, working out, and starving themselves.. the folks on the knitting/crochet forum are extremely polite, politically correct, and obey rules very carefully.

other than that, there are some seriously creative people with amazing artistic talent that expresses itself in fiber arts.

Hortensia

I think West's designs are avant garde - I don't think people really wear them much, but his patterns are very popular. Knitting as avant garde art, I guess. I like the colors he uses, and the lines of his designs. I don't know that he's especially unique in his techniques, I've seen other stuff much more technical than his but without the spark and excitement. However, some of the faces his model makes -- or is that Stephen West? -- are a little creepy.

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other forums

by Hortensia in

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i look at three forums pretty much every day, this one, a knitting/crochet forum and a weight-loss forum.

the weight-loss site has loads of useful apps, but the forum consists of posts by people who are mostly pretty young, self-absorbed and ill-informed except on a narrow range of information, mainly weight-lifting, working out, and starving themselves.. the folks on the knitting/crochet forum are extremely polite, politically correct, and obey rules very carefully.

other than that, there are some seriously creative people with amazing artistic talent that expresses itself in fiber arts.

Hortensia

I love knitting socks, especially because once you "get it" you don't need a pattern. I learned the "tomato heel" recently and that makes socks so much easier.

It's nice not to be so damned serious and ready to condemn everything -- which is the JW way of life. I enjoy a little fluff. Or, as in the case of ravelry.com, a LOT of fluff. Fluffy fibers.

What did you think of Stephen West's designs? Some folks on Ravelry find his stuff a little bit weird and intimidating.

CC -- it is raining here, too. Lots of rain, but not 11 inches yet, unfortunately. We need every drop. My heart is a little sad, today. I really really really want to go for a drive in the rain. But, I don't have a car. Oh well, I'm getting one in May. Patience, soul, patience . . .