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  What is marital rape?

  by Lady Lee in

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  i had never heard of this term until i was divorced for many years.

  the term "marital rape" confused me as i am sure it confused others.. but i knew what it was.

  i knew how it felt.

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  RAF

  RAF and dh

  first sentence under the title says:

  (NOTE: Although I speak about women here this can easily be reversed)

  The piece was written for women in a shelter but most definitely can apply to the reverse

  I know it was just to emphasis ... men always think that we Women put always all the blame on them ... I mean we know that women can be whatever.
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  The love of your life "cheats" on you....could you forgive?

  by new boy in

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  the old age question............ say, your "soul mate" the love of your life, goes on a trip with some friends.........something happens one night...... they have sex with a stranger( or even a friend)............they come home and tell you what they did............they still love you.. what would you do?...............is the marriage over?

  or what?.

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  Well if he still loves me, and that we can still bring to each other what we need ... I guess the cheating stuff is not a real problem

  I stayed 11 years with a guy that I knew was cheating on me - discretly * but not enough for not being obvious to me at some point. It's not the real reason why we broke up.

  (*) discretly : at first - LOL - he just wanted more and forget about why it was not a real probleme at first in being as discret as possible

  The probleme is when you have to deal with a third party(I'm not supposed to be bothered more than it is somehow already by anyone) or that my dear is not so dear anymore ...

  Some guys just can't fight against Lust - and the danger with lust is that since they didn't have what they wanted they keep having fanasy about the one they feel to fill .... LOL ... So somehow it's better to have him to get what he wants ... Then you'll know if he still want to be with you or not ... It's more bothering when it's a regular thing (How can he really be there for you? what will he bring to you - did he protect himself ?... so much question it becomes very hard to deal with)

  I want my man to be with me, when he wants to be with me ... and reverse (same for me) ... no forcing - also don't ask me to be faithfull if you are not like I'm in his jail when he is having fun ... the problem is that I am faithfull (it's a question of pride not even of love to me) that's why I don't want to get married ... to skip away when from day one I decided to.

  Keeping love awake is a day to day thing with lots of understanding ... but my understanding have LIMITS!
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  What makes a truly great kiss?

  by nicolaou in

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  now i'm not going all girly or anything but kissing is still great!

  if my wife is, for example, preparing a meal i might be able to kiss her on the side of the neck while she's peeling the potato's.

  i know what you're thinking, 'that nic's a smooth ol' romatic operator'!.

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  But he ain't out there in the cold, dark, starry awesome universe!!

  don't get me started Nic ... ...
  
  How can you say something as nice as this "God exists only in a kiss where there is no room for cold logic and reason" and finishe with this "But he ain't out there in the cold, dark, starry awesome universe!! "

  it's not a question ... I know, I know, I know
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  What is marital rape?

  by Lady Lee in

  1. social
  2. family

  i had never heard of this term until i was divorced for many years.

  the term "marital rape" confused me as i am sure it confused others.. but i knew what it was.

  i knew how it felt.

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  But no one seems to realize that the abusive husband has already broken the vows. Through the abuse he has shown he has no love for his wife. He does not honor her when he hits her. Her does not cherish her when he screams and yells in her face. Or calls her names. He does not care for her when he controls her or uses her as a servant. He does not need to commit adultery to break the marriage vows. Abusers break the vows through their actions of hurt and pain they inflict on the one they made the vow to.

  And if he has broken his vow then the marriage is in effect over. It is over in her heart. And it is over in the eyes of God. The vow was about loving one another.

  every she could be a he ... of cours I agree totally !

  without the love there is no marriage. No woman needs to feel guilty for leaving an abuser. Without the love the vows are broken.

  Woman could be a man ... and of cours it all makes sense.
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  What makes a truly great kiss?

  by nicolaou in

  1. social
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  now i'm not going all girly or anything but kissing is still great!

  if my wife is, for example, preparing a meal i might be able to kiss her on the side of the neck while she's peeling the potato's.

  i know what you're thinking, 'that nic's a smooth ol' romatic operator'!.

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  Crazyblonded: That was the kind of kiss that would get the kitchen counter cleared REAL FAST!!

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  As of Thursday night I am no longer a Jehovahs Witness

  by Es in

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  2. friends

  yep my fade has come to a stop, got the phone call off my dad today he asked me if i celebrate christmas and birthdays and i said yes, and so he said they are going to go ahead with the disassociation letter i sent over two years ago!!!!..

  he said that after today the only phone calls i will get are if there is an emergency, but nothing social my response to that was well you havnt seen or spoken to me for over a year im used to it.. he also said there was no bad feelings and that i should never doubt there love for me, and that the stupid thing of it is they can associate with mike and the kids just not me.. im really happy and calm about it, ive had my initial cry over it, and now i feel good that i dont have to lie and hide things anymore.. its such a relief.. luv ya all.

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  (((Es)))

  each time I hear the kind of answer Parents are able say because of this religion ... it still bug's me ... I just don't understand how they can push it so far.

  I'm sorry for you ... who knows things can change.
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  HEMP LOVER IS 40 TODAY!!

  by bubble in

  1. jw
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  hi hempy, how are you doing?

  pop in and let us know.. happy birthday to you.

  happy birthday to you.

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  Happy Birthday
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  SIMON IS 40 TODAY!!!

  by bubble in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  so simon, how are you?

  have you launched into a mid life crisis or are you celebrating in style?.

  hope you have a great day and ..... happy birthday to you.

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  happy Birthday !
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  Faith in God and the Church - Part 2 of 2 The Catholic Faith

  by Amazing in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  my story is sub-titled so you can skip ahead to parts that interest you most.. by way of reminder, my posting on "faith in god and the church" is not meant to convert anyone, because i have been out of the preaching business now for 14-years.

  i am sharing my views given the questions i get when i do post about belief in god or my association with the catholic church.. why the catholic church?

  protestants, especially fundamentalists and evangelicals have a hard spot with the roman catholic church.

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  Ok ...

  Maybe I can put it like this (because religious talk do no not talk to many)

  It's already hard enough to believe in God (for many) even hard enough to believe in Jesus (for many) how could it be really interesting to believe in human being supposed to be leaded by God.
  
  If you take things spiritually (but you can put it as a phylosophy if you want it won't change where it leads) there are only a few things really important (Charity - it's a need including forgiveness because everybody can fail and trying - because really be able to is a real challenge -to forget about our Ego) That's what the Christ is all about. Do we need to be in a religion to get that? NO lost of people never got into it and are able to try to follow those simple advices to be able to live together (and not giving too much occasion to feel like jerks at some points).

  Every rules are related to a culture ... with rules we need order (and it leads to some missunderstanding and injustice)... with love you just need understandingtowards love)...

  And this love is more about charity : because we can't just love everybody the same way, because we are all different but we can understand that anyone deserves as much as we deserves.
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  Soulmates do you believe in them

  by fifi40 in

  1. jw
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  do you believe in love at first sight?

  do you believe that we have a soulmate?

  has any one ever experienced either of them

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  PEC : Love at first sight is just sexual attraction, it always fades with time

  It doesn't seemed to be always true ... some couples who is telling they got together from first sight are still together ... so there might be something.

  The one I fall in love with at first sight and stayed with him 11 years had actually the same chilwood that I got (in lots of aspects - and a book I read was telling about the fact that it could be a factor of chemistry) he was fat and kind of uggly (so I don't think it was related to sexual attraction for me) ... the thing is that 4 month later he had lost lots of weight and was looking like Marlon Brando ...