i had never heard of this term until i was divorced for many years.
the term "marital rape" confused me as i am sure it confused others.. but i knew what it was.
i knew how it felt.
to be more explicite about my post on this thread
Everything told around the subject (and most others) was related to their culture … in this case : a divorced woman would have trouble finding a man (like she was not valuable), and a man who would have marry a divorced woman (would be stared at like – look that’s what this guy took for wife). They would both have to suffer about the situation.
ok, i've heard it all: sincerity, honesty, security, money, love, romance, flowers, poems, promises, and more.
but, in my arguably limited experience, i've been shot down while doing all of these (at differnt times obviously).
so, what do women really want?
abr : In dealing with two imperfect people, no one can be perfectly right or perfectly wrong.
it makes sense ...
ok, i've heard it all: sincerity, honesty, security, money, love, romance, flowers, poems, promises, and more.
but, in my arguably limited experience, i've been shot down while doing all of these (at differnt times obviously).
so, what do women really want?
abr : Life is about not being compatible but rather how well you deal with incompatibility.Humm ... this sentence talks to me !!!
ok, i've heard it all: sincerity, honesty, security, money, love, romance, flowers, poems, promises, and more.
but, in my arguably limited experience, i've been shot down while doing all of these (at differnt times obviously).
so, what do women really want?
Xena : For some reason some men just like to think women want to be treated like crap and don't like nice guys. Maybe it makes them feel better, dunno.Xena ... ...
i had never heard of this term until i was divorced for many years.
the term "marital rape" confused me as i am sure it confused others.. but i knew what it was.
i knew how it felt.
maybe a bit off topic but :
when I was reading the verses who where talking about adultery because of divorce - I was feeling that this was a bit too much to ask (regarding to my mothers situation for instance).
but when I read it now what I read looks like something like this :
Jesus said : before you were allow to dissmiss your wifes that was only because you are jerks (I guess he meant that they would turn into very unloving men and unloving situation if they wouldn't be allowed to do it) then he says something like : Now when you get married it's for good otherwise you are adulterians (a sin - ok - but sins are forgivable)
Adulterians means being/have been in an unfaifthfull relationship regarding to your vows ... to me it means Men (and for our culture now Men and Women) make sure that when you make a vow you stand on it ! (and to read in beween the lines - take care of with who you will get married because by then you are both in a bad situation you won't be able to stand on your vows). There are no laws only advices (laws that make sure you wont get in trouble)
So again it's all about true love ... no true love ?... no way to keep the peace ? ... I guess there is no choice?
being adulterian is not the end! being a jerk is (if no regrets about that).
Nobody is supposed to take any crap from anyone and moreover too long ... dont throw you pearls to swins ...
okay, go ahead and make my day: ask me anything!.
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fifi40 : Do you wax your chest?
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ok, i've heard it all: sincerity, honesty, security, money, love, romance, flowers, poems, promises, and more.
but, in my arguably limited experience, i've been shot down while doing all of these (at differnt times obviously).
so, what do women really want?
Actually what I really do appreciate in any kindof relationship with others is COMPLICITY
I look like someone very easy to approach but I'm not. I have a lone personality and somehow it can be dissapointing. Also I have my moments when I feel the need to share way more and it's not understandable then for those who know me and then don't really understand WHAT - WHEN ...
If sometimes I feel to let myself go (for whatever, when the feeling is very strong and I can't fight against it) ... The fact is that I'm even more ambarassed in getting into a real relationship (friend or whatever) When those persones deverses my attention for them being nice to me, that's when I'm really really really scared to dissapointing them - most of the time I'm stucked, I just don't know if I should help the relation to developpe - it takes time and sometimes when I've made my mind it's too late - but it feel alright like that - just not knowing what it would have lead me to.
All that to say that complicity actually means to me a very "wide" rang of understanding (we can fight, we can desagree, we can forget about each other for years), but the complicity that we can share (in a way or another depending on each onces situation at any moment) stays intact.
do you know the feeling of looking out of the window at the sky, thinking 'there will be no armageddon, everything is well, i followed my conscience...' ?.
do you know the feeling of just going for a walk, all alone.. and realizing that you are alive and out of it, that there is no god counting your hours and meetings?
that is was all just a bad dream, that you are free now to follow your own moral compass.. it makes you want to laugh and cry at the same time.... do you sometimes look at the faces of total strangers in the streets or on the train, wondering how you could have ever thought that most of them could be murdered any moment by some 'loving' god?
Welcome !!!
a little boy goes to his father and asks .
"daddy, how was i born?
" the father .
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hi everybody and happy new year.
2007 is the year i turn 40, in fact in exactly one month's time to be precise.. i've noted that a lot of people on jwd are a similar age to me.
i think it's because it takes us this long to pluck up the courage to finally leave the borg.. i need to know how turning 40 makes you feel.
I should be 40 this year but I'm not going to say when, because I'm against celebrating birthday ... just kidding - it's most about what should I do to make sure people won't feel they have to buy me a gift !!! PFFFFFFFFFF - that's when I just forget about it and as it is a holliday day here I've got my share fare of fireworks and parties in the city going on (with firemen ... ... wathever) ... my life might be shorter anyway so ... it'll be time to think about my forty when I'll get there .
