Posts by jamiebowers

a year later discovers it again and does not ask why, just declares that the kid will be pulled out of school and sent to another and be sent to a psychologist if it does not stop by new year.. wtf?.

to me its like this woman is saying ''i don't care why you did it, i don't want to know, just stop it.

This situation makes me so angry that my first thought is to cause some bodily harm to the mother. What an ignorant, self-absorbed pig she must be! But kicking her ass wouldn't be productive as much as it would be stress relief. Anyway, get the child therapy and be sure to have it noted that the mother chose to ignore the cause of the problem and used threats to eliminate it, (stupid bitch that she is)....(sorry, still a little angry here!) Then you can kick her ass in court! Good luck!!!!!!!

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Has domestic abuse against JW women relented over the last 10 years? Discuss.

by cedars in

soft+gentle, who i'm sure we are all very fond of, has been expressing some strong opinions on my thread below:.

http://www.jehovahs-witness.net/watchtower/bible/218861/1/uk-charity-refuge-gives-response-to-wt-article-on-domestic-abuse.

as soft+gentle's opinions seem to be undermining the seriousness of domestic abuse, i thought the best thing would be to give soft+gentle the opportunity to defend his or her opinions on his or her very own thread.

jamiebowers

My experience with jw domestic violence was more than 20 years ago but just a few years ago I heard from an inactive jw relative that a young woman was in the very same situation that I was in. The jw husband was threatening her life and physically abusing her. When she refused to stay in the relationship the elders informed her that she would have to prove adultery on his part in order to remarry.

For those of you who have never been in this situation, let me enlighten you. Being able to remarry is the least of the domestic violence victim's problem. The problem is that the abuser, the predator who injured the victim maintains control. In order to be truly free, you must either stalk the person who was thretening/trying to kill you or passively wait for the abuser to publically commit adultery or confess to it. FAT CHANCE that a master manipulator is ever going to do that!

Domestic violence and its effects against jw women will never relent until the Watchtower changes its stupid rules. Even if the victim removes him or herself from the physical violence, the emotional abuse continues. Your whole future depends upon the actions of a person who somehow couldn't manage to stop humself from beating and threatening the woman he is supposed to love as he loves his own body and as Christ loved the congregation. This organization makes me sick!

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Why I Left Jehovah's Witnesses--a 10-page essay by sd-7

by sd-7 in

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why i left jehovahs witnesses.

they can be painful to bear, but sometimes that is part of life in a setting with many people and their various personalities.. it was my examination of evidence that did lead me to leave jehovahs witnesses.

they, of course, had failed to bear proper witness to his name.

jamiebowers

Anything you write is worth the read, dear heart, because you are a skilled and talented writer. The content of your compositions always bear out what a creative and genuinely good person that you are.

I remain as always, your number one fan.

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Salvation Army--is it a high control group?

by rebel8 in

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interesting.

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http://cultprevention.blogspot.com/2011/12/salvation-army-is-it-high-control-group.html.

jamiebowers

Several years ago I interviewed for a part time case worker position at a Salvation Army post. I decided against working for them due to the restrictions they put on some of the assistance they offer. For instance, the SA will help poor people with the cost of prescription drugs but refuse to do so in the case of medicines for mental illness. That sounds just a little too much like Scientology for my taste. I continued to donate during their holiday kettle drives but have decied to stop doing that upon recently learning their stance on homosexuality.

IMO the only way to successfully communicate with any high control group is to hit them in the wallet. It isn't any different with the Watchtower. If the donations dry up, so will they. Although the SA does a lot for charity, they won't be doing it with my money from now on. Bigotry is bigotry, even if it's covered up with good works.

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What would you do if your JW spouse did...?

by garyneal in

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okay, i don't mean to rant but i am not sure where to turn.

the issues that i am having with my wife are not related to her being a jw but it does make me think of other situations where the religion is credited for the jw spouse's exceptional behavior (even when it has nothing to do with the religion).. my wife has her heart set on going to disney this year, but she has no real plan on saving the money to go.

in addition to this, she needs have some money to replace her lost income over the summer when she takes her internship to get her teacher's license.

jamiebowers

If you're just a authorized user on the credit card, you have no power to change the spending limit or cancel the card. However, I'm not certain if it's on your credit report. If it is, have yourself removed as an authorized user, so you can't be held liable for it.

Next, Google your city's court records and look up her name. Then show her that her bad record is public knowledge. Ask her if she really wants that out there for the elders or possible converts to see. Don't worry about her not graduating on time, because she can get driving privileges for necessary business like work and school. But ask her if she really wants to have to put the Kingdom Hall's address on the form and provide such a bad witness. Also ask her how it will look if she can't drive in field service.

If you're a registered owner of the car she drives, take your name off asap, and do not allow her to drive your car that is in your name under any circumstances. If you have car insurance for both of you, cancel it and carry your own policy. Otherwise her carelessness is going to cost you money in higher premiums. If you ever buy a house together, (which is doubtful since she likes to run up credit card bills), insist that she carry higher amounts of insurance to protect your home from law suits caused by her poor driving.

Insist on her paying her fines and for her own car insurance plus whatever she contributes to bills and expenses. I would also close out any joint bank or credit accounts you have. That way you can protect yourself now and in the case of divorce. Then simply refuse to take the Disney vacation. If she wants to go on her own dime, (or more than likely credit), let her. Just don't be the sucker who pays for her carelessness and thoughtlessness.

I know all of this sounds tough, but if you separate your finances and insurance protection, maybe she'll change her ways. If not, at least you won't be responsible for her poor decisions.

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