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  HELP Needed in custody case!

  by Esmeralda in

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  i received a letter last night (as many of you did) about a particular.

  custody battle being fought by a poster on this board.. she just found out that she lost custody of her 3 children to her jw ex, despite the fact that they are in danger of being exposed to a pedophile relative through this man.. i am asking anyone who may know anything about setting up a legal defense fund (or anyone who knows about utah custudy law/ lawyers in utah) to please respond to this post.

  time is of the essence, the girls have already gone back to their father today.

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  Esmeralda

  Franciose:

  In this instance the only thing that the Mom, alamb has done 'wrong' is leaving the Borg. I am thinking (just my own thought) that in this case, the fact that the girls being asked which parent they wanted to go with, (a great thing in most cases) backfired.

  Usually children will choose who they are happiest with. But can you imagine the terror in a young, childish mind if you believe that God is going to kill you if you're at Mommy's house and not Daddy's when Armaggedon comes?! That Mommy has demons in her mind just because she believes the Bible differently than Daddy?

  You may say that kids are smart, that they can see through that kind of manipulation. But I share custody of a very bright five and a half year old with my JW ex, and she comes home spouting more WT garbage all the time, something new every week (he gets her on weekends)

  It takes me and my husband all week to make a dent in what my ex drills into her by taking her to meetings and in service Saturday AND Sunday (they actually arranged a Saturday bookstudy at my Uncle's house so that my ex could bring my daughter to two meetings in a row!)

  She begs him not to make her go to meetings two days in a row, asks to do something else with him instead, but he says that they "have no choice because it's what Jehovah wants."

  She told me before that she couldn't believe that God would kill me at Armaggedon because I'm a "good Mommy, and so sweet and kind to her." She sees, at times, how clearly her Dad is trying to manipulate her. On other days, though, she has anxiety and panic thinking that all the non-JW relatives that she loves will die shortly at the hands of Loving God. Especially her mom.

  In alamb's case: the father failed to meet the court's requirement to sign an affadavit stating that he would not teach the children to shun their mother. So at least for now, they are with their mother, where they belong.

  I definitely believe that there are good fathers out there who get screwed (pardon the language) by the system. I have been told that I was stupid for allowing my ex to have joint custody. I didn't want to spend the rest of my life in court.

  But alamb's situation is totally different. If you read the rest of the thread and saw her answers to earlier questions, I hope you can better understand the situation now.

  My best
  Essie

  P.S. Note to alamb and all, I'll be away from the computer most of this weekend. Eyestrain. Love ya'll!
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  My Aunt Passed Away & I'd like to talk

  by Bendrr in

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  on tuesday, my mom called me at work to tell me my aunt linda passed away.

  she'd had diabetes and kidney problems for years.

  tuesday, she was on dialysis and her blood pressure bottomed out and she just went to sleep and never woke up.

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  Esmeralda

  I'm just adding my condolances to the list, Mike. I am sorry for the loss of your aunt: and even moreso for the living death of the rest of your family you must grieve every day. I know how that feels, believe me.

  One example: When my father was in critical condition in ICU after a brain aneurysm, my cousin Allison, who I grew up with and was closer than a sister to, walked right past me, stood in my Dad's room, talked to him and acted as if I wasn't even standing there. She and her husband came and went without so much as a single word to me. I'd been by my Dad's bedside around the clock for a week already. How could anyone be so cruel? Simple. They are obeying a heartless master.

  *hug*
  essie
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  HELP Needed in custody case!

  by Esmeralda in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  i received a letter last night (as many of you did) about a particular.

  custody battle being fought by a poster on this board.. she just found out that she lost custody of her 3 children to her jw ex, despite the fact that they are in danger of being exposed to a pedophile relative through this man.. i am asking anyone who may know anything about setting up a legal defense fund (or anyone who knows about utah custudy law/ lawyers in utah) to please respond to this post.

  time is of the essence, the girls have already gone back to their father today.

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  Kismet,

  So good to talk to you again! I hope you're doing well.

  Thanks so much for your interest. I will pass your e mail address on to the family. My health is not well right now and so I am very limited in how much I can actually do. I know that the mother will appreciate any information/advice you can give.

  Maximus, my dear! I was going through old e mails and saw your original letter to me so long ago and smiled, thinking about all that has come to pass. You are a gem, my friend. If you contact me I will forward the info to the family, for the same reasons I stated above.
  My health limits so much what I would like to do.

  To everyone else: this mother IS a silentlamb. The father is brainwashing the children to turn against her, in true JW fashion. Good news is we just found out that there was a hitch in his actually getting the kids today: He did not meet certain conditions that the court set.

  If she loses custody of these girls, they will be routinely exposed to the same member of the family who abused her. The ex husband will allow access. Its a nightmare.

  Thanks again Kismet and Maximus, again I'll pass the info on to the Mom involved before logging off for the night.

  *hugs*
  Es

  p.s. to Maximus: I saw Gladiator for the first time recently and thought of you the whole time. I have a new saying now: When anyone asks me if I'll return to the organization, I say "I'd rather sleep with Commodus."
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  HELP Needed in custody case!

  by Esmeralda in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  i received a letter last night (as many of you did) about a particular.

  custody battle being fought by a poster on this board.. she just found out that she lost custody of her 3 children to her jw ex, despite the fact that they are in danger of being exposed to a pedophile relative through this man.. i am asking anyone who may know anything about setting up a legal defense fund (or anyone who knows about utah custudy law/ lawyers in utah) to please respond to this post.

  time is of the essence, the girls have already gone back to their father today.

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  Esmeralda

  Hi larc,

  The mother lost custody because as usual, the JW spouse used all kinds of manipulation in court. Remember the Barry case, guys! Of course there is too much to get into here on the board. I don't want to give away too much personal information about this person, I'd rather let her do it herself, if she chooses.

  All I'm asking is if anyone knows anything about custody law in Utah, etc, please let me know and I will put them in touch with the family.

  Thanks
  Es
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  HELP Needed in custody case!

  by Esmeralda in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  i received a letter last night (as many of you did) about a particular.

  custody battle being fought by a poster on this board.. she just found out that she lost custody of her 3 children to her jw ex, despite the fact that they are in danger of being exposed to a pedophile relative through this man.. i am asking anyone who may know anything about setting up a legal defense fund (or anyone who knows about utah custudy law/ lawyers in utah) to please respond to this post.

  time is of the essence, the girls have already gone back to their father today.

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  Esmeralda

  Hello,

  I received a letter last night (as many of you did) about a particular
  custody battle being fought by a poster on this board.

  She just found out that she lost custody of her 3 children to her JW ex, despite the fact that they are in danger of being exposed to a pedophile relative through this man.

  I am asking anyone who may know anything about setting up a legal defense fund (or anyone who knows about Utah custudy law/ lawyers in Utah) to please respond to this post. Time is of the essence, the girls have already gone back to their father today. Please help these little lambs if you can.

  Thank you
  Es
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  I need help! I'm losing my wife!

  by indireneed in

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  my wife is becoming a witness and i've found very little that i can do to stop her!

  i've tried to show her that the wt does not quote correctly, i've talked to her about past beliefs and i've tried to reason with her about the bible.

  but she won't listen!.

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  Esmeralda

  I recommend arming yourself with as much info from these sites as you can remember or get her to look at:

  www.freeminds.org
  www.silentlambs.org
  www.ajwrb.org

  Also follow the advise of the others here. Print out posts, Get her Crisis of Conscience, and have her look at this site if you can to see the carnage that the WT has left in its wake.

  I wish you all the best of luck...

  *hugs*
  Esmeralda
  www.wtsurvivors.homestead.com
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  Ritsfield Victory!

  by silentlambs in

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  hello everyone,.

  i am bill's wife.he just called me from washington and told me to let you all know that erica won her case today!.

  that sick child molesting bastard is in jail now as we speak.. his sentencing is set for september 24th i think.. one down many more to go.. thanks to all who have supported this cause.. sheila

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  Esmeralda

  Hurrah!

  I am so happy for this victory, and cheering that the media was there to record it! There is no way that the Society can deny that!

  I want to say too, that I swear I'm feeling a sense of justice and a nod of approval from my friend Ed, "Winston Smith" who I know was working in the cause of researching cases for silentlambs in his area.
  Wherever you are now, Ed, I know you're rejoicing with us in this victory for justice.

  Sheila, I want to echo Randy's remarks to you. I think of you often, and always send my best wishes and hugs to you whenever I write to Bill. We are all very aware of the stresses on your family because of the noble work that you are doing, and I want you to know that you are regarded as nothing less than heroes.

  We love you!

  JUSTICE!!!!!!!!!!!

  *hugs*
  Essie
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  Any respect for organized religion ?

  by friendorfoe in

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  i was wondering other peoples views on organized religion since they left the organization ?.

  me personally i think all religions started off with one mans interpatation of the bible and i'm not going there again.

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  Hi Friendorfoe,

  I have to say that I'm in the same camp you are. Every religion that I've had interest in, Christian or not, when it comes to the organization and leadership part, I find I just can't tolerate it.

  After the Borg, I can't ever see myself belonging to an organized religion again, and that's just fine by me. I don't feel a need for it.

  interesting subject...

  essie
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  Humorous History Lessons

  by felix a in

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  i received this in the mail today and thought i'd share.

  i hope you chuckle as much as i did.. regards,.

  felix a. history lesson.

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  Esmeralda

  Oyyyyyyyy. Makes me glad that I live in the era of indoor plumbing and antipersperant! Thanks for the giggle, felix. Hope you're doing well!

  *hugs*
  essie
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  "Please, Is there really truth anywhere of...

  by Shane in

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  i want to know what truth" is if its out there some where surely god will guide me to find it, i don't want to die without honestly knowing for sure knowing i have found the so called "truth.

  i have been stumbled by others and by my selfish ways.

  in the words of the song "send me an angel," cause i sure need one.. maybe i am not of their sort as the bible says and as elders have labeled me, but i do want to live and exist somewhere, and see the light what ever and where ever it is.

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  Hi QCA1,

  I just noticed that you're new to the board and wanted to welcome you. Thank you for your kind remarks about my post. I hope that Shane got to read his replies!

  Welcome too, to Mindchild and all the other new folks here.

  *hugs*
  Essie