I went through the same thing with my mother and alcoholic father, and then later my JW husband.
Now I understand why my elder brothers never helped my mother, and why when I went to the elders for help they ignored my situation and blamed me.
My mother and I had to go through all of that abuse to protect the reputation of an organization. In effect LYING to the general public and other JW's about the health of the organization. The phrase "whitened sepulchres" comes to mind.
23 Woe unto you, scribes and Pharisees, hypocrites! for ye pay tithe of mint and anise and cummin, and have omitted the weightier matters of the law, judgment, mercy, and faith: these ought ye to have done, and not to leave the other undone. 24 Ye blind guides, which strain at a gnat, and swallow a camel.
25 Woe unto you, scribes and Pharisees, hypocrites! for ye make clean the outside of the cup and of the platter, but within they are full of extortion and excess. 26 Thou blind Pharisee, cleanse first that which is within the cup and platter, that the outside of them may be clean also.
27 Woe unto you, scribes and Pharisees, hypocrites! for ye are like unto whited sepulchres, which indeed appear beautiful outward, but are within full of dead men's bones, and of all uncleanness. 28 Even so ye also outwardly appear righteous unto men, but within ye are full of hypocrisy and iniquity.
Uphold the reputation of the org. rather than Jesus teachings. Isn't that EXACTLY what the Pope was and is doing?
Don't worry, I'm wearing my headscarf.