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  Are We Too Loving To Be JWs?

  by dedpoet in

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  this is a thought that i've been pondering on for a while now.

  more than a few on this forum cite lack of love as one of the .

  major reasons that they quit attending jw meetings, and while.

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  chelleadam

  I grew up in a house where my father was the Presiding Overseer of our congregation. I remember him going to meetings and shaking hands with all the elders, asking them how they were, etc. But after elders meeting, he would be fuming in the car and saying how they made him furious and it was all he could do not to hit certain ones. He rarely showed us children that he loved us and would have frequent fits of anger. My mother was not much better. So I guess I have always felt like the whole "we love each other, just as Jesus loved us" thing was a load of crap.

  I'm sure there are some genuine, loving, JWs out there, but I've met very few of them.
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  Sleep Disorder Anyone?

  by Sparkplug in

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  i am curious today about people that cannot wake up.

  i have a problem with waking up.

  i do not hear alarms.

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  chelleadam

  I have sort of the same problem, but I don't have it nearly as severe. I can sleep straight through my alarm clock (it's a really loud one). I also act like I'm awake for a while at times, even if I'm not. Sometimes when I'm dreaming very vividly, I can't tell what's real, and what's part of the dream.

  I do have mild sleep apnea, but my doc said the above symptoms weren't related to it. I don't know how you manage living with a severe form of this. I know it disorients me pretty badly every now and then. I've actually never heard anyone else complain of the same problem. How long have you had it?
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  Elders on my tail

  by FourMs in

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  as mentioned before, i have not been to a mtg since january.

  i have not spoken to anyone in the congregation about my decisions as of late and i dont plan on informing anyone either.

  i have had the elders at my door at least once a week for the last few months and every car group out in service that needs to fill in some time are stocking me here too.

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  chelleadam

  Yeah, they did that to me, too. Granted, I only lived about 45 minutes away from my parents, so it's not like they called across the country. But it still felt like they were ratting me out to my folks at the time. It didn't help them any, because it only made me angry and less willing to talk to the elders. If they'd have tried to be friends with me, instead of making obvious "shepherding calls" it would have worked better.
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  If SATAN could offer you something desireable, would you accept it?

  by JH in

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  if it was possible for satan to offer you something desireable, knowing that god wouldn't approve of it, would you accept it anyways.. now, if you don't believe in god, you won't believe in satan either so this question doesn't apply to you..

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  chelleadam

  There is nothing he could possibly offer me that I want. I have everything I want through my Savior, Jesus Christ. I'm not interested in anymore of Satan's lies.
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  Did Armageddon Hold You Hostage?

  by The wanderer in

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  to view the dictations of the watchtower society as more work .

  and responsibility than love and caring it was the fear of dying .

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  chelleadam

  I personally believe (as a christian now) that they are demonically influenced. I don't think there's any human that could manipulate such large scale evil, without demonic help.
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  Fluff: What kind of music do you listen to?

  by Guest with Questions in

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  this is to be my one day off but i keep coming back here:.

  i love a variety of music these are just a few of my favourites:.

  not because im canadian but: neil young, joni mitchell, guess who (had a crush on burton cummings-(actually my husband and him looked a lot alike when they were young) gino vinelli,.

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  chelleadam

  pretty much anything except rap, it makes me a nervous wreck.
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  Appreciating Neighbors never an option as JW

  by restrangled in

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  i just had a wonderful conversation with one of my neighbors who's husband is fighting prostate cancer.. it is a great feeling to connect with those who live near by or next to you, and find ways to support each other, finding laughter and solace.. this was never really allowed with jws.

  we were always cold to our neighbors unless preaching work could be done.. my parents had an odd situation in that their next door neighbor lost a son to an accidental gun shooting.

  the police were aware of my brother's death many years previously and called on my mother to comfort her next door neighbor, actually asking her to be there when they announced her son was dead at age 12.. my mom had no problem with that but since they had little to no social contact over 10 years it was difficult and probably felt icy.. how sad!.

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  chelleadam

  I think maybe a lot of us still have problems with relationships. I still don't relate well to people at times. I do okay on the internet, I guess, but one-on-one with people is hard. As a witness all your relationships to people tend to be cold. I didn't really love the people at the KH, and I wasn't allowed association with anyone else. Now it takes me a long time to get comfortable with anyone.
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  Did Armageddon Hold You Hostage?

  by The wanderer in

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  to view the dictations of the watchtower society as more work .

  and responsibility than love and caring it was the fear of dying .

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  chelleadam

  I couldn't have said it better, greendawn. I called them terrorists one time talking to my husband. He thought I was being overly harsh, but I meant it.
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  Did Armageddon Hold You Hostage?

  by The wanderer in

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  <!-- .style1 { font-family: verdana, arial, sans-serif; font-size: 12px; } .style2 { font-size: 18px; font-family: arial; } .style3 { font-size: 16px; font-family: arial; } .style4 {color: #ff0000} --> did armageddon hold you hostage?when my zeal for the truth started to slow down and i started .

  to view the dictations of the watchtower society as more work .

  and responsibility than love and caring it was the fear of dying .

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  chelleadam

  Hey wanderer,

  Yeah, I've heard of this happening to others. I am so grateful that I got out of that mindset, but I worry about former friends of mine that I can't find on the internet, or anywhere at all. I guess I won't know about some of them unless I come across an obituary somewhere. It's a terrible tragedy, and it seems like no one except us ex-JWs knows about it. It's so sad.
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  What things did you do through a mtg to distract yourself?

  by FourMs in

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  when we were kids, my best friend and i would do each others hair.

  wed have our barretts and elastics and the whole bit.

  then when we got a little older we used to do our nails nail polish and all .

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  chelleadam

  I doodled a lot, or picked at my nails. Once, for about a month, when I was a teenager I tried to answer every question asked at the meetings. But only because I thought one of the boys on microphone duty was cute. Other than that I'd do nearly anything to pass the time. I actually went to a couple meetings stoned when I got older. I nearly got busted because everything they said was just so damned funny!