XJWNB

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  Promiscuous or sexually free?

  by brunnhilde in

  1. social
  2. relationships

  so i'm 37 and i've only been with one man, my ex-husband, in my entire life.

  i just started a new relationship with a wonderful man but i'm fighting the preprogramming that comes from being a dub for 35 years.

  how have other people overcome the inhibitions and issues that come from the ridiculously rigid sexual mindset of the wtbs?

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  XJWNB

  In this case do what you heart desires, not what your mind thinks. Go for it!
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  Newbies - Give us your stories....

  by AK - Jeff in

  1. jw
  2. experiences

  most of old posters have hashed and re-hashed our backgrounds, history, and method of discovering the 'truth about the truth'.. your turn newbies!.

  those who are lurking without the benefit of registration - it only takes a minute, and you too can give us your stories!.

  those registered lurkers - what holds you back?

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  XJWNB

  Thanks Jeff. My wife will not be back until December. And thank you for the beer, happy hour just started.
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  Newbies - Give us your stories....

  by AK - Jeff in

  1. jw
  2. experiences

  most of old posters have hashed and re-hashed our backgrounds, history, and method of discovering the 'truth about the truth'.. your turn newbies!.

  those who are lurking without the benefit of registration - it only takes a minute, and you too can give us your stories!.

  those registered lurkers - what holds you back?

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  XJWNB

  Well here is my story. It all started when my wife wanted to go overseas to teach conversational English and to preach about Gods kingdom. Well, that was against the elders wishes for to make this decision on her own. She was a reputable pioneer in excellent status. She wasn’t allowed to make a decision without confiding or asking the society permission to separate herself from me. My wife is a free-spirit type of person and doesn’t like people telling her what to do. She grown, she can do what she wants. I admired her because of that. I didn’t think that her making this decision would jeopardize my relationship with brothers or this organization. I was at first disagreeing with her intent to leave to teach, but eventually gave in. I am currently retired from Army and been overseas many times, thought that she wouldn’t do it. Well to long story short she went to 98.9% Moslem country, Turkey.

  Before she left she turn in her resignation of being a pioneer. And her hours drop from 70 to 1 or 2. When I told my friends at work as to where she went they thought that was awesome. My so-called JW friends thought that was terrible and wanted to tell me that I may a terrible mistake. The people in the world were positive about it and the JW’s were negative.

  Now, I am alone in KH attending all my meetings. Then I realize who my friends really are. The whole hall stops talking to me and begin shunning me. There’s no scriptable basis for their action. I didn’t do anything wrong to deserve this. But it stated making me think, well if something happen to my wife, this is how they will react. If I was to have an accident or unable to get around, who would be their for me. No one from that kingdom hall that was quite apparent. Their was no reason for this type of treatment against me. So of course, I got to thinking that if God was to destroy this world and only the JW will survive. That didn’t make sense. There is a lot good that man has done and it out weights the badness of this world. Why, would God want to destroy us that we have accomplished so much and invented so much? The teaching, the way the organization was going, the promises, the love among the JW people didn’t add up. Bottom line I had doubts. I wanted to stop attending meetings. What kept me going the meeting was of wife who was still overseas. I would digitally record the meetings and email them to her, but deep down I wanted out.

  In December, she disclosed to me that she has something to tell me. She revealed to me the Pedophiles cases and that she hasn’t been listening to any of my recorded meetings for the past 6 weeks. I wish she would of told me that 6 weeks ago, because I wanted to leave then. That phone call, that information, those videos of Pedophiles cases, told me to get out of JW organization fast. From that Sunday to this present day, I haven’t step foot in any KH. Two weeks after she told me the information and after she sent the "Crisis of Conscience" book, I got rid of every magazine, book, WT and AK volumes, Bibles and proudly deposit them in the city dump. It felt good dumping that stuff. You all really should try that. I could not reason with myself to return them to an organization that promoted this indisputable sin and cover-up.

  Well to be honest with everyone, they did contact me via cell phone. Only one elder was calling me, asking question. I told them that I am dealing with personal problem and they left me alone. But that lie, was eating at me. They finally call me again with a second party, an elder on the line. So I threw them off my saying, I not really sure that I wanted to leave. They wanted me to send letter to discontinue my religion with them. This put me in fader mode for about 6 months. Then, I ran into an elder in Home Depot and told him that I am no longer wanted to be his brother. Guess, I shouldn’t of said that, but it’s true, they never visit me during the past 6 months. Didn’t even visit me prior to the Memorial Day, which I didn’t attend. Well 2 weeks later, they announced me as to being no longer a JW. I didn’t even know that I was up for nomination.

  Since then, I have grown a beard, buy my lottery tickets faithfully, attend my co-workers Birthday parties, will accept blood if needed, watch all the R rated movies that I missed for 10 years, curse like a sailor, celebrate holidays, register to be an active voter and drink like a fish. Oh, my wife is on her second tour in Turkey and has been inactive since June 2006.
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  As Time Goes By - Do they all begin to look alike to you?

  by AK - Jeff in

  1. jw
  2. experiences

  i mean, religions.. while i am far from being anti-religious, organized religion, especially of the more 'fundamental' sort, is all beginning to blend into the same puddle for me.

  i have not given up on god, or spirituality, and in fact still consider myself christian.

  i just don't feel any desire at this point to participate in the formal nature of religious groups at all.

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  I feel the same way. I havn't given up on God. I Just don't have a desire or need to attend another religion.
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  Dating question

  by jond in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  can anyone comment on the consequences of dating a divorced jw who is not free to remarry?

  in time this person will be free to remarry, until that time is it ok just date?

  obviously the dating would need to be done carefully so as to not lead to wrongdoing etc.

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  XJWNB

  What do you mean that the person is divorced and not free to remarry? Techically a divorced means that the person is available. Is the person official or unofficially divorced?
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  My first cake (pic)

  by reneeisorym in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  if anyone remembers my post about the cake decorating deal, they will alreay know what i'm talking about.

  if you want to read the last post, here's the link: http://www.jehovahs-witness.com/6/136956/1.ashx.

  so i made my first cake tonight.

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  XJWNB

  And the professional was born. Excellent!!!
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  The Removed List says I'm Removed - Am I?

  by TuningFork in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  the removed list says that i'm removed and i can't get to any of my posts.

  can any of you get to them?.

  tuningfork aka sunpar.

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  XJWNB

  Yes, All your posts are visible.
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  Has your brain been re-wired with the "F" word?

  by Gregor in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  i learned an interesting fact from my father's doctor when he was being treated for a stroke.

  mom had mentioned that even though dad couldn't speak well enough to ask for a glass of water he could clearly say, "goddammit".

  the dr. explained that epithets are from a different part of the brain and this area had not been affected by the stroke.. i found this very interesting.

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  XJWNB

  Yesterday's, you could get people attention by just telling them to stop or quit or could you please do this now. However, today's society won't listen to you unless you use a few colorful metaphors. It's really funny. It does gets people attention and reation. When no children or ladies are around, I do use these colorful metaphors.
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  Were You Surprised That Your JW "Friends" Dumped You After All These Years?

  by minimus in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  how does it feel knowing that your friends were so conditional----or your family?

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  XJWNB

  I must admit that I was surprise at first. I thought that they were really my friends, but later I learn that they were only friends to me if I believe in the same thing as they did. I treat the friendship as a Military move, (PCS). Moving every 2 years for 20 plus years, you get use to losing friends.
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  jesus tomb

  by bigdreaux in

  1. watchtower
  2. scandals

  i don't know if this has been discussed before, but, the jesus tomb.

  anyone have intelligent answers on either side?

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  XJWNB

  FYI: The DVD is available at Netflix and probably at Blockbuster. Sorry to hear that it was banned from Canada.