Posts by R.F.

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For those of you who don't go to meetings anymore...

by exwitless in

when you attended your last meeting ever as a dub, did you know it was your last?

did something happen which made it clear in your mind you were 'never going back' (not to be confused with nvrgnbk)?.

the last meeting we went to was the memorial in 2006. we only went because we knew we were already pegged for the elders' unwanted attention, so we had to go to keep them off our backs a little longer.

R.F.

The last memorial we attended I over heard one of the loving elder's wives saying "Oh, look at all the submarines here tonight. They pop up once a year for the memorial and think they going to make it into paradise. Why do they bother." So I thought yeah, why do I bother? This is a load of BS anyway. My hubby and I decided that we were no longer going to be submarines!

Ahh...don't you just feel the love just flowing endlessly from that statement?

An elder made a statement of the same sort at the last Memorial. There were so many that I thought were visitors but he said that most of them were once active in this congregation, even before I was born. He said that it's funny how so many come out of the woodwork once a year as if they will get into the new system by attending this one meeting.

I must also make a correction in my first post in this thread. I went to one meeting a couple months after I stopped completely. I knew for a fact that would be my last one. To further push that fact, it was a night that a couple of elders got me to the back room to interrogate me as to a personal choice I had made. It was of a non-judicial nature and it really was none of their business, but i'll just say that now my family's trust in the local BOE has been shaken now because of it.

R.F.

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What is the Illuminators Book, and why is it a secret WT publication?

by WingCommander in

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i just caught someone mentioning it on the jw topix forum when discussing the door-to-door field ministry in a thread.

is this a secret publication that is used in pioneer school?

if so, why is it secret?

R.F.

Blondie, how many pioneers observe this principle and make an RV that quickly? I know the ones in our area were pretty quick to return, but I don't think it was 2 days, more like a week later.

The ones locally don't observe that principle either. They might return within a month if the person shows minimal interest. The only ones that seem to get RVs within 2 days are ones that may want a "Bible Study" on the initial visit.

That sure is an interesting way at handling a life-saving work.

R.F.

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For those of you who don't go to meetings anymore...

by exwitless in

when you attended your last meeting ever as a dub, did you know it was your last?

did something happen which made it clear in your mind you were 'never going back' (not to be confused with nvrgnbk)?.

the last meeting we went to was the memorial in 2006. we only went because we knew we were already pegged for the elders' unwanted attention, so we had to go to keep them off our backs a little longer.

R.F.

I didn't have the thought that it would be my last meeting. I was actually still very loyal to the Org when I went to my last meeting. I guess I could say I was in a transition. So much had happened all at once that kept me away from meetings. During that time, I was researching more about the religion and quickly saw that I wanted to be part of it no more. I'd say it took me a good 2 weeks to get deprogrammed in a large way from JW teachings.

R.F.

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Whatever You Do It's Never Enough!

by new boy in

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R.F.

I've seen so many just walk away from it all because of burnout. When all you hear from the platform is "DO MORE!!!!" the most likely occurence will be for ones to just give up. The WTS as well as local congregations can't seem to grasp that for some reason. And to think, silly me thought that true Christianity was supposed to be refreshing like Jesus said.

R.F.

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Changes in the Organization and their Effects.

by KW13 in

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short term, what do you feel the recent changes the organization has seen and is about to see will do to the witnesses and the society as a whole?.

long term do you feel the changes will do anything positive for the society?.

its very much like big brother with double-speak, mind control and fear.

R.F.

I think a few loyal JWs will slip through the cracks over some of the issues as there have always been ones that eventually leave. With the Org tightening up the screws in information and thought control, some will see the religion for what it really is.

Of course, with so many loyal rank and file, I don't predict any big changes within the Org, neither short or long term. There will always be ones coming into the religion, while others are exiting. Besides, to them the "light is getting brighter" and Jehovah is "refining His Organization". Most will view changes as postive no matter how much negativity is attached.

R.F.

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How Have You Gone About Making Friends Since Leaving the Witnesses ?

by flipper in

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i've noticed lately that some on our board, or perhaps for many of us, that's why i'm writing this , have had a challenge making new friends after leaving the jehovah's witnesses religion.

it has been a mixed bag for me.

i have met some through my wife, who is not a witness.

R.F.

There are quite a few people that i've gotten back in contact with that ties were severed with when I first got very active in the Organization. I most certainly don't have the larger social base I once had while in the Borg, but it's a start.

R.F.

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Well I finally resigned as an elder - Phew.

by The Scotsman in

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thats right, about 2 weeks ago i confronted the po and told him i just could not do it anymore.. i genuinely have been under alot of pressure recently with my work so i used this as the pitch.

he was not happy but i received little resistance, which suited me.

i handed him my letter last week before i went on holiday.. i have to say it is a great weight off my shoulders, no book study, meetings for ministry, talks, public talks etc etc.. i will no doubt be the subject of local congregation gossip!

R.F.

Of course the PO wasn't happy.......more work for him!!!

It's great to hear so many here releasing themselves of these ~~priveleges~~ burdens.

Great for you!

R.F.

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How Did You Personally Deal With Disfellowshipped Ones?

by minimus in

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.....whether they were family or not??

?

R.F.

Since I played the Attendant role as well, I too talked to DFed ones. I was polite and courteous to them even when out in public. Some were amazed obviously that I did. I never could bring myself to completely ignore a person as if they're not alive because some group of men in Brooklyn said I should

R.F.

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Just another silly test.

by DJK in

it is from an orthopaedic surgeon.... .

this will boggle your mind and you will keep trying over and over again to.

see if you can outsmart your foot, but, you can't.

R.F.

Haha! My foot changes directions everytime.

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Why was I so blind?

by James Free in

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now that i can see right through the crap that is the jw religion, i sometimes ask myself - how come you blindly believed all that rubbish for 30 years??!!

i am so annoyed with myself for that - i have a degree, yet i was totally duped for such a large part of my life.

and now that i can see how so full of holes it all is, i kick myself for not seeing it before.

R.F.

I too ask myself this sometimes. I can't believe how devoted to the religion I once was. We should be so glad that we're among some that saw the truth about "The Truth" eventually.