Posts by iwasblind

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New JW Site - feedback please

by Jake101 in

hi.

we've just launched readjw.info and we'd value this forum member's feedback please.. especially see what you think of our jw timeline piece... thanks!.

your fellow traveller .

Poll: When my PIMI wife comes back from meeting. she is a different person. how many out there experience the same and why?

by goingthruthemotions in

so i am trying to understand if i am the only pomo that experiences the situation where the pimi spouse comes back from a meeting a different personanlity.

it may not be obivious to the untrained eye, but i notice it and i know my sons notice it.

this last round after all the loyalty bs and armagedon bs it's like she has stayed stuck in it.

iwasblind

Hey the borgs mind control techniques have been honed for 100+ years.

I was lucky enough to come out together but this is how I would handle it, it is how we have handled family and some are slowly forgetting we are tainted. (we are not DF'd just faded)

Treat her like an abuse victim - she is getting emotionally and mentally abused at every meeting.

My advice is to show her real love and real joy. Find things you can do together so she can feel that there is happiness separate from the borg. I know this can be difficult but if you have no "agenda".

Learn new things also, there are documentaries that are about other religions or history that might help her slowly realize also that you can do for fun instead of "here you need to see this". We were waking but watched a movie called Luther, I think it is youtube but that was really eye opening about the opposition Martin Luther faced.

Hope that helps.

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Rec'd a letter from my Dad - need some advice...

by Fadeaway3pointer in

fader here - last meeting was in autumn 2005. lurker on this site and others.

not one to get all controversial.. typical situation, pretty much a born in and left the church at age 38 and never looked back.. i'm 53 now, parents getting older - late 70s but very active, dad is still an elder.. parents, in laws, brother and brother-in-law still uber active jws.. my family (wife and 2 adult children) out since 2005.. we have stayed close to our parents - we have treaded religion lightly and have had a pretty good relationship and have kept our personal lives and beliefs/opinions separated from them.

this was intentional - as we love them and do not want anything to cause shunning since they are getting older and want to be there for them and we respect their beliefs.. got this letter today.

iwasblind

Wow so triggering.

My in-laws love the same one way conversation- no interest in you "please don't reply".

It is part of the emotional retardation that happens with that religion.

I honestly feel sorry for them, they are so screwed up by that religion that they cannot communicate as a normal person. I mean what is "family business". How about family connection and love?

My wife has struggled for a few years with this sort of BS. We are finding peace through not expecting them to act as normal parents, we have other people now who are our friends and confidants, we have some very special older friends who fill the role of unconditional loving parents.

Removing that expectation from the real parents actually has helped us find peace and continue a stunted one sided by respectful relationship.

Hope that helps.

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Email from JW relative/elder

by Lynnie in

as much as i enjoy you and pete's company, you also know our understanding of how much we want you to be reunited with jehovah and his people.. .

we did not set the standards for what jehovah says about our associations with those who choose to not serve him.

so we will always be there for you and pete, but it is in your hands as to how we can enjoy your friendship.. .

iwasblind

Yes you are so cruel to call it shunning. And how could you turn your back on them!

What rubbish. So sorry you have this pain in your heart. We are not DF'd but are still shunned by some family.

We kind of had to grieve it like a death of a relationship.

Regardless, sending you peace and love if that helps.

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PIMO Elder with a Dilemma

by xjwsrock in

i haven’t been on here in awhile and this is my second user name because i was busted by my pimi wife on the first one.

i have been basically awake since 2013. i have a super dub wife that i love and don’t want to lose and my sick mom in the hall that is a true believer.

stupid religion has gotten between my wife and i (of course).

iwasblind

Hey Mate

Here is a different point of view - but I had the good fortune of my wife waking me up so I cannot speak from experience. But I was an elder of 13 years before I faded.

If you can emotionally handle it meet with them. Use this situation to expose how nasty these bastards are by letting them mistreat you - of course stand up for yourself though. This may get your wife thinking. You sound like a really good guy and if she sees the injustice she just might start seeing things for what they are.

On another point - a great way to get your wife thinking is to watch documentaries about other faiths - there is a good one about people escaping the Exclusive Brethren and another one about the Mormons. Of course witnesses love a good expose of another faith but if she watches it she will see they have the same structure as the witnesses and could help her start to think.

Hope this helps mate. I was PIMO for 3 years as an elder and it was torture so I salute you my friend and applaud you for sticking by your wife too. Feel free to PM me anytime you need support

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Whatever is bound on EARTH is already Loosed in Heaven

by Alex Williams in

when a person is guilty and worthy of punishment, the judgment ‘will already have been bound in heaven jesus said and if they are loosed or innocent it will already have been “loosed in heaven..in such judicial deliberations, jesus says, “where there are two or three gathered together in my name, there i am in their midst.” .

psalm 127:3.. children are a sacred trust, “an inheritance from jehovah.

jws abhor child abuse and view it as a crime.its recognized that the authorities are responsible for addressing such crimes.jws do not shield any perpetrator of child abuse from the authorities as has been alleged.

iwasblind

I think Alex you are just counting time, are you pioneering?

What a creative way to do this, good on you, but your long-winded quotes and misapplication of scripture are so gaping I am too tired to reply.

Please read entire scriptures "in context", use different translations and get a life man.

I actually feel sorry for all JW's, they are abuse victims and don't know the Christ or his teachings.

Love to you man - but stop defending and preaching and start studying using your own brain and God's spirit.

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Have Your Relationships Been Affected Because You Were A Jehovah’s Witness?

by minimus in

jw
friends

i’m just curious if you think your past life either adversely or positively affected your relationships?.

iwasblind

Yep, I was not DF'd but lost all of my friends except 2 or 3 because we moved away and stopped going to meetings.

Not 1 has ever reached out as a friend to see if I was ok.

Having said that I have found so much real love "out there" in the world.

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Who really is the faithful and discreet* slave whom his master appointed over his domestics, to give them their food at the proper time?

by Alex Williams in

this statement was answered in a form of a question to a question posed by one of his followers;.

jesus realized that composite slave had to qualify for such an appointment when he came into power of his kingdom promised by jehovah god.

[and they came to life and ruled as kings with the christ+ for 1,000 years].

iwasblind

Hey Alex

Read your bible mate, his apostles never asked this. It was a parable. Maybe you can answer this, if the WTBS is the faithful slave who is the wicked slave, which is part of the same parable - OR are you just quoting part scriptures these days?

I feel sorry for you either study and research the religion you are in or stop wasting everyone's time.

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Enjoyed the Memorial

by ScottyRex in

probably not a popular opinion on here....and haven't been actively attending meetings since 1988....(i know i know a submarine attender) however thoroughly enjoyed attending this evening...was good to see lots of people i remember whilst growing up in this faith, they were genuine and the whole atmosphere was one of love.

sure if i suddenly wanted to become active again and didn't change my lifestyle they would drop me like a bomb.....however i haven't and won't and they didn't and don't.

this works for me.. i cannot demonize the witnesses on what i have seen tonight.

iwasblind

Hi ScottyRex

Just coz it works for you, think about all of the broken families, victims of child abuse and the trail of destruction that this religion leaves in so many lives.

I think you are talking about the poor victims (who are still in) and perhaps you saw them and realized there are a lot of good people, however when you are talking about the religion as an organization, I can see no good only harm, and division.

I am out and not DF'd. I still see my family but I can also see the affect on their thinking ability and manipulation.

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Disfellowshipped

by Pinky in

how long is one disfellowshipped for committing adultery?.

iwasblind

Happy for you to PM me if you need assistance.

Speaking in a borg voice below (not my thoughts if you know what I mean):

If you work the elders and you get lucky - 6 months but they have 12mths minimum in their heads.

The name of the game is borg repentance - which is "looking guilty and miseable".

You have to be the victim.

You have to work it at the meetings and make sure you are seen attended.

Get an elder as a contact - see if you can score some shepherding calls they are not allowed to officially do them but if you get a good elder he will see you.

Always mentioned in your contact your spiritual routine. In your repentance rants it is all about how you have hurt Jehovah, and your family, and the cong and your friends. How Satan misled you, yadda yadda and how close you feel now. You never understood the sacrifice of Jesus like you do now...

When asked do not appear too happy - life must be hard so you can pay for your gross actions.

Tears are good too.

Having said that, all this is wasted if the main elder involved is a asshole. If you get a champion you will be fine. I used to have 2 other brothers and we would "get them back quickly". But sometimes if they were not involved I could not get it done quicker.

Hope that helps.