Posts by Bobbi

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My wife is PREGNANT!!!!

by The Humper in

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just found out today.

this will be our second child.

we have a 2yr old son and now one on the way.

As a Fader Does Some of your Family Shun You , Even though not DFed ?

by flipper in

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hello my friends.

this is a real subject here , so i welcome your responses , advice , and any experiences you can add that might help others and myself .

most of us have family that are jw's , whether we are faded or dfed, or dissassociated .

My thought is,

Try to remember your girls are still young. At 19/20 I was a rotten self centered, "richeous over much" little brat. Give them time to mature and continue to call and tell them you love them. They will come around.

Eventually either they will see the Borg for the cold hearted place it is or they will anger mommy dearest and she will drive them straight back into your open arms.

Sounds like she used and is continuing to use them as a weapon against you.

Hang in there, you are doing great.

Bobbi

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Share one or two interesting things about you we probably didn't know

by Gopher in

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we have such an interesting group of people from around the world on this board.

it might be interesting to have a thread where you discuss a hobby, something interesting that happened in the past, somewhere you've been, etc.. not deep, dark confessions - just interesting stuff.. .

* i have travelled into all 48 american states that are not named alaska or hawaii.. * for the past few years, i have had a slight walking impairment due to a form of arthritis known as ankylosing spondylitis.

Bobbi

I love to crochet and garden.

I can't just in the garden and enjoy it either, I am always mucking around.

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How do you react.....

by restrangled in

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when you see someone needing help in a public place?

i usually avoid eye contact, but then feel guilty all day.

for instance when you pull up to a light and people are standing there with a sign or actually walk up to your window...i won't ever roll down a window.. today i pulled into the local grocery store parking lot, and there standing with a walker, was a middle aged latino man with his lower legs in some sort of braces.

Bobbi

I don't like giving cash to anyone.

However, my neighbours, friends and I donate to different organizations in our area with food or goods. We have donated things our children have outgrown(but still in good condition) to our local teen parents organization. We also sent a load of clothes to another country to an orphanage. That one I did donate cash towards the shipping.

We keep our eyes open for people in our area who might need a little help. A drive to the store, or job interview. A couple hours away from their kids.

I don't give money to panhandlers, however if they get off their butts and help me load three kids and the groceries in to the van I will tip them.

Bobbi

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Pop goes the wife.

by JeffT in

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got a call about 11am, debbie was headed to the emergency room.

she'd slipped on some water while chasing the granddaughter in a park.

something had gone "pop" in her leg when she went down.

Bobbi

OOOWWWWWWWWWWWYYYYYYYYY!!

Get the good meds and heal soon.

Bobbi

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Betty Butterfield

by BFD in

i came across this (don't ask) and actually watched the whole thing laughing my head off thinking of trevor.... http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vr-ib2yviai.

poor thing.. bfd.

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Bobbi

ROFL

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Welcome Marie_purps!

by changeling in

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this is our very own purplesofa's daughter!

let's tell her how happy we are she's joined us!.

does this make her a purplechair, or purpleloveseat?.

Bobbi

WELCOME!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Bobbi

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Former Church Elder Guilty of Sex Offense

by purplesofa in

i can't post the link sorry......... [url blocked].

former church elder guilty of sex offencebetty ann adam, the starphoenixpublished: wednesday, september 19, 2007a former elder of the jehovah's witnesses lakeview church pleaded guilty wednesday to sexual exploitation of a teenage girl who was a member of the same congregation.. wendell willick, 47, changed his plea and admitted he touched the teenager with his hands and penis over a three-year period between january 1996 and november 1999. he will be sentenced oct. 5.. the complainant, now 25, was 14 when the offences began and 17 when they ended.. view larger imagewendell willick arrives at queen's bench court tuesdaygord waldner, the starphoenixher identity is protected by a publication ban.. "through the temple and his relationship with the complainant's family, he took a special interest in the complainant, who was experiencing difficulties in her life at the time," crown prosecutor sandeep bains said in an interview after the hearing at court of queen's bench.. "the families were friendly and socialized together extensively.

he would have met her when she was 13.".

Bobbi

I emailed a link to this story to my good friend who is still a loyal JW. She and I lived within a few hours of the place where the abuse took place during the time when it was occuring. Her son was abused and nothing was done so I thought maybe this would get her to see the corruption in the organization.

This is part of the email I got back from her.

There is a lot wrong with how things are still done, but I have two lines of reasoning about this: Jehovah allows things to happen for reasons we may never know, or not find out until later. Sometimes, he gives someone enough rope to hang themselves, so that the proof becomes irrefutable. These pedophiles are master manipulators, and I know of two cases where if it hadn't played out like it did, the truth would've stayed hidden, and we would've all been fooled to this day. And, the other line of reasoning I have is that the elders are not doctors, or counsellors, or cops. They're a bunch of imperfect men who are supposed to look after our spiritual needs. That's it. I think many people attributed too much power to them, and many of them used it. Even now, there are people in the congregation who want the elders to make their decisions for them, and then whine and complain when it doesn't turn out right!

Now the elders are told that they have to report ALL cases of child abuse as soon as it is reported, whether they think it is true or not, and leave it up to the authorities to deal with. Perhaps that is why there are more cases coming out? I think the pressure is coming from all sides now, but I'll tell you something. I think the internet is a tool of the Devil. That may sound crazy, but it's full of so much poison, the little good that it does do is not worth it. I don't trust anything I read online in any shape or form, because I can verify so little of it. Just look at the faster pace of moral and societal decay ever since the World Wide Web became a household name. There is just too much temptation, and even if you don't get onto something sick and debased, you spend hours and hours on it that do nothing but turn your brain into mush. I use the internet for 2 reasons and only 2 reasons: To do business, like ordering for my customers, and to stay in touch with the few friends and family I have.

This subject is very close to home for me. There isn't a day that goes by that we don't have to deal with what that low life did to our son, and our family. I resent him for the fact he stole so much from us, and he went his merry way without giving us a thought. But, if I dwell on that, I start to spiral down into a deep abyss. I can get suicidal over it. I have. I know I am frequently homocidal- I'm afraid of what I would do to him if I ever saw him again. But I know where the blame lies. If he had never done what he did- this would not even be an issue. It's his fault alone. Even if he would've been dealt with as the scum he is, it wouldn't have changed the fact that our son lost his childhood because of him. I've thought that I wished he were dead, but even that brings no peace. Then, he might be resurrected. I'd rather he die at Armageddon. One can only hope.

I know that you said you have been having issues with the organization. I won't try and preach to you, because I have issues of my own. But I truly believe that everybody does the best they can, and leave it at that. Even when I go to the hall, I don't go because other people say I should, or because I want to make friends anymore, or because I need direction. I go because I feel that I need to maintain a measure of a relationship with Jehovah, and to do that, I need to be fed spiritually. I tried to do that on my own, and I starved. There is nowhere else to go, and baby, it's cold outside! You just do what you feel comfortable with, but don't let what somebody else says affect your decisions. Be true to yourself, and Jehovah. Those are the only 2 people that matter.

I'm glad you sent me that article, and that you feel such outrage. That's a good sign. It shows that you're a caring, thinking person. Don't let it bring you down, too much, though. Punishment comes in more than one way, or from one source. Any sick mother _____ who would do such things doesn't come off unscathed in the end- what goes around comes around eventually. Love you

It breaks my heart.
Bobbi

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A new sister in law is a JW, I'm an ex JW, need advice

by EarthyFire in

i really need some help here and i might go a lil over the place so bear with me.

my mother in law is religious, christian but i'm not sure what kind.

i am an exjw, left years ago.

Bobbi

There is no easy answer, let her make her own bed and sleep in it.

Personally I deal with being around my sisters-in-law( yup 3 of them) by drinking large amounts of whatever adult beverage is available.

Bobbi

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Went to hospital to help my JW friend & his parents despite me being df'd!!

by tsar_robles in

one of my best friends and ex-room mate who still remains a jw called me just 4 days ago asking me for info regarding emergency medicaid.

he had been hospitalized for almost a month and had no health coverage at the time so he called me knowing that i'm a know it all.

even before me being df'd he would always be afraid of his parents knowing we hanged out together so that made it even more fun!

Bobbi

You are a true friend. Keep up the good work.

Bobbi