mentalclearness
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What "Type" of Poster Are You?
by new boy inthis was posted on "james free" thread on why others people opinions were not respected here.
to which i said...... o.k.....lets look at the facts.
in general what type of people post here?.
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Difference Between Catholics and Witnesses
by WTWizard ini have recently seen one thread about the differences between the witnesses and those other religions.
so i will explain some of my earlier experiences as a catholic and contrast them to the witness experience.. my family was active as a catholic when i was about 6 or so.
we had to salute the flag, and we got to play with other children and go on class trips that also made major markers in life.
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mentalclearness
I just became inactive this last year. Every christmas and New Year's there are out of the city trips planned by many from the congregation. Some go to a country club for the holiday and others go camping on the beach. Perhaps you are correct in saying it depends on the area. I was in the States and now I live in south America but in both my areas the witnesses did plenty of activites. That's probably why I stayed one as long as I did. the Social Club aspect.
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fade, fade, fade, fade, fade, fade, fade.................drop out
by oompa inlast week was a bit of a milestone.
missed the entire co visit for the first time.
son went out every day i think, plus pioneer meeting, plus ms meeting, plus three other meeting (i know they call it five).
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I guess I unintentionally faded then dropped out. I was irregular at meetings because of circumstances and I hated going out in service so I was barely reporting an hour or two a month and then I just stopped completely. But there was no strategy involved. I was very guilt ridden for missing meetings. It was purely circumstancial. Once I realized that I had lost all faith in a man made organization, I didn't go back. I guess I had an epiphany. I would never be able to go back to a meeting now.
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I've reached a turning point in my life
by B_Deserter inlast may, i finally admitted to myself that i am an atheist.
to me, being an atheist means that i don't believe any of the silly nonsense that puny humans have come up with.
many of the religions of man were started during a time when mental illnesses went undiagnosed and misunderstood, a time when man couldn't explain why lightning struck the earth or why rain fell.
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mentalclearness
hmmm...deism is looking pretty good to me at the moment!!!
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Dr. Spok
by reneeisorym inwhile i was a jw, i heard repeatedly that dr spok's techniques do not work.
it was wordly psycology.
we should follow the bible's advice to not spare the "rod" or spoil the child.
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I have three kids and Dr Spocks book and I loved it!!! I saw nothing of permisiveness in it. In fact the book I had seldom talks about those issues. It was more a practical general guide. The reason I liked him is because he puts alot of emphasis on trusting your gut as a mother. Perhaps he is kind of a pioneer of attachment parenting but before there was no phrase to describe that type of parenting. I think his advice is common sense in most cases. As far as discipline goes, it's important to set limits. I also believe in structure and schedule. many issues can be prevented.
I slept with my babies until they were about one and I weaned them at about 1 and a half. Dr Spock said if you pick up a child when he needs you (crying) as he gets older he won't want to be held all the time. This is so true..As soon as my babies learned to walk they were quite independent. Why??? Because when they needed me I was there and they knew that. They were SECURE. That's what so many moms do not realize. If you aren't there when they need you, those children will not be secure. My kids went to school happy because they were secure. They didn't cry to stay with me. They knew without a doubt I would come back to pick them up or if they needed me.
As far as discipline goes I have found in my own experience it's much more productive with a smaller child to say NO and physically carry them away from what they are doing wrong. If they go back and do it, be consistent and continue to take them away. This works much better than spanking and doesn't leave you the GUILT of having hit your child.
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Difference Between Catholics and Witnesses
by WTWizard ini have recently seen one thread about the differences between the witnesses and those other religions.
so i will explain some of my earlier experiences as a catholic and contrast them to the witness experience.. my family was active as a catholic when i was about 6 or so.
we had to salute the flag, and we got to play with other children and go on class trips that also made major markers in life.
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I hate to be the one to not agree 100% but I have to tell you there is another side of things. I grew up as a witness. I remember JW parties including dancing, camping trips, beach days, Disney World and other theme parks in groups...There were sports, picnics, biking in groups...Going to the movies, tubing, roller skating...I mean you guys make it sound like JW's do absolutely nothing for their kids.....That isn't the case always..I think you generalize..As a witness before with small children I organzied parties as my house complete with jugglers and magicians....Maybe the older witnesses were soooooooo strict...but the newer ones do organize activities....
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The Graduate
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Did you feel like this toward the end? Brothers/Sisters & worldly people
by jambon1 ini can remember about 2 years before i exited the org i had a terrible dilema which didn't really have anything to do with my doubts in relation to doctrine.. the problem was hearing over and over and over about the fact that being in the org was 'the best place to be'.
that the brothers were 'true friends'.
didn't they have a video out called 'ypa - how can i make real friends?'.
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As a teenager I had a really good non jw friend who my parents hated because of her not being a witness..Well, I got in trouble smoking weed and of course they assumed I had done it with her....Actually it was my witness double lifing friends who I used to do all the bad stuff with. My worldly friend was more moral than the lot of them.....
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The scandalous effect of JW childrens literature. Why not investigated?
by jambon1 ini can only imagine that in some jw children, the effect of the lessons taught and visual 'illustrations' can be mentally destructive.
some of the pictures in relation to armageddon are imo 'too much' for a small developing child to take.
it surprises me that the authorities have not investigated and put a stop to this form of mental abuse in children.
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I agree with Oompa. I never noticed the illustrations as a child. No nightmares or anything of the sort. But when I started reading the book of bible stories to my kids I kind of started realizing that all the stories ended with somebody being stoned, or dying instantly or some horrible thing happening to them for doing something wrong.. I thought it was funny, but I stopped reading from the book and just would tell the stories I liked....
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My sisters wedding...
by zamora251978 inbelow is a copy of the e-mail my sister sent me.
i had to make arrangements for my kids to be babysat somewhere else until after the wedding.
there little hearts are broken.
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mentalclearness
I don't understand why you can't go. She isn't baptized yet, right? And neither is her fiancee? She should consult with another elder. And ask for some bible and literature backing for what he says. If he can't show any than your sister should be able to have you at her reception without any guilt.....I would call the idiot elder on it!!!