I've never forgotten my own children but I was left at the kingdom hall more than once as a small child...
mentalclearness
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Has anyone ever accidently left a child behind?
by pmouse inmany years ago when i was much younger, my family went boating with another young family.
there were a total of seven children and four adults.
after our outing, we loaded up the life jackets, food, drink, towels, boat and children and jumped into the van.
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mentalclearness
I don't know if this is where this thread is going but I find many people feel they are entitled or deserve many things in the U.S. including material wealth, true love (as pictured in the movies) and success in life. When things do not go their way they tend to be depressed and instead of working harder towards achieveing those things they simply complain about the system......Or how they've been jipped of what they feel is God given right....
Where I live people do not feel entitled to anything and when they do get something because of hard work or as a gift from someone, they are truly grateful for the most part. They're expectations are lower as well.
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What "Type" of Poster Are You?
by new boy inthis was posted on "james free" thread on why others people opinions were not respected here.
to which i said...... o.k.....lets look at the facts.
in general what type of people post here?.
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mentalclearness
I don't really fit into any of the above groups. I guess I might be the newly screwed over although I had serious doubts a long time ago but just satyed inside the organization because of family and the social network. And probably fear of the unknown. But i don't hate my upbringing and I'm not mad at JW's as people. It saddens me that there are people who WANT to believe the bs. But I'm not angry or have reason to be as resentful as otheres on this forum. I find myself many times defending generalizations that are done about the witnesses and the families. Not everyone is the same. I feel greatly for those that have suffered but I think sometimes people can lose their objectivity. So I don't know what category that puts me in...As far as being decieved by the WTBS I really feel that I willingly allowed that deception to happen out of my own laziness to look elsewhere for information...
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Difference Between Catholics and Witnesses
by WTWizard ini have recently seen one thread about the differences between the witnesses and those other religions.
so i will explain some of my earlier experiences as a catholic and contrast them to the witness experience.. my family was active as a catholic when i was about 6 or so.
we had to salute the flag, and we got to play with other children and go on class trips that also made major markers in life.
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mentalclearness
I just became inactive this last year. Every christmas and New Year's there are out of the city trips planned by many from the congregation. Some go to a country club for the holiday and others go camping on the beach. Perhaps you are correct in saying it depends on the area. I was in the States and now I live in south America but in both my areas the witnesses did plenty of activites. That's probably why I stayed one as long as I did. the Social Club aspect.
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fade, fade, fade, fade, fade, fade, fade.................drop out
by oompa inlast week was a bit of a milestone.
missed the entire co visit for the first time.
son went out every day i think, plus pioneer meeting, plus ms meeting, plus three other meeting (i know they call it five).
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I guess I unintentionally faded then dropped out. I was irregular at meetings because of circumstances and I hated going out in service so I was barely reporting an hour or two a month and then I just stopped completely. But there was no strategy involved. I was very guilt ridden for missing meetings. It was purely circumstancial. Once I realized that I had lost all faith in a man made organization, I didn't go back. I guess I had an epiphany. I would never be able to go back to a meeting now.
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I've reached a turning point in my life
by B_Deserter inlast may, i finally admitted to myself that i am an atheist.
to me, being an atheist means that i don't believe any of the silly nonsense that puny humans have come up with.
many of the religions of man were started during a time when mental illnesses went undiagnosed and misunderstood, a time when man couldn't explain why lightning struck the earth or why rain fell.
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mentalclearness
hmmm...deism is looking pretty good to me at the moment!!!
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Dr. Spok
by reneeisorym inwhile i was a jw, i heard repeatedly that dr spok's techniques do not work.
it was wordly psycology.
we should follow the bible's advice to not spare the "rod" or spoil the child.
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mentalclearness
I have three kids and Dr Spocks book and I loved it!!! I saw nothing of permisiveness in it. In fact the book I had seldom talks about those issues. It was more a practical general guide. The reason I liked him is because he puts alot of emphasis on trusting your gut as a mother. Perhaps he is kind of a pioneer of attachment parenting but before there was no phrase to describe that type of parenting. I think his advice is common sense in most cases. As far as discipline goes, it's important to set limits. I also believe in structure and schedule. many issues can be prevented.
I slept with my babies until they were about one and I weaned them at about 1 and a half. Dr Spock said if you pick up a child when he needs you (crying) as he gets older he won't want to be held all the time. This is so true..As soon as my babies learned to walk they were quite independent. Why??? Because when they needed me I was there and they knew that. They were SECURE. That's what so many moms do not realize. If you aren't there when they need you, those children will not be secure. My kids went to school happy because they were secure. They didn't cry to stay with me. They knew without a doubt I would come back to pick them up or if they needed me.
As far as discipline goes I have found in my own experience it's much more productive with a smaller child to say NO and physically carry them away from what they are doing wrong. If they go back and do it, be consistent and continue to take them away. This works much better than spanking and doesn't leave you the GUILT of having hit your child.
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Difference Between Catholics and Witnesses
by WTWizard ini have recently seen one thread about the differences between the witnesses and those other religions.
so i will explain some of my earlier experiences as a catholic and contrast them to the witness experience.. my family was active as a catholic when i was about 6 or so.
we had to salute the flag, and we got to play with other children and go on class trips that also made major markers in life.
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mentalclearness
I hate to be the one to not agree 100% but I have to tell you there is another side of things. I grew up as a witness. I remember JW parties including dancing, camping trips, beach days, Disney World and other theme parks in groups...There were sports, picnics, biking in groups...Going to the movies, tubing, roller skating...I mean you guys make it sound like JW's do absolutely nothing for their kids.....That isn't the case always..I think you generalize..As a witness before with small children I organzied parties as my house complete with jugglers and magicians....Maybe the older witnesses were soooooooo strict...but the newer ones do organize activities....
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The Graduate
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Did you feel like this toward the end? Brothers/Sisters & worldly people
by jambon1 ini can remember about 2 years before i exited the org i had a terrible dilema which didn't really have anything to do with my doubts in relation to doctrine.. the problem was hearing over and over and over about the fact that being in the org was 'the best place to be'.
that the brothers were 'true friends'.
didn't they have a video out called 'ypa - how can i make real friends?'.
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mentalclearness
As a teenager I had a really good non jw friend who my parents hated because of her not being a witness..Well, I got in trouble smoking weed and of course they assumed I had done it with her....Actually it was my witness double lifing friends who I used to do all the bad stuff with. My worldly friend was more moral than the lot of them.....