Posts by featherimiss

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more wifey issues. she seen my phone and this web site was op

by unstopableravens in

my son grab my phone and wifey seen this site.

on for a second she was mad.

led into arugment today.

featherimiss

Unstopable..as a believer you still only responsible for your life. Everyone has free will. As the scripture say even the rocks will cry out. So right now just concentrate on you...believe me you have alot of healing to do and to be a great human, husband, father and Christian...you are going to have to clear the JW crap out. It does not happen overnight...just by you thinking you are HAVE to save your Family. No Jesus Saves...so trust him to be who HE IS!!!

I even suggest step away from spiritual stuff for awhile...do so fun stuff (which is spiritual to me). When I first left I was Agnostic leaning toward Atheist. But through therapy, taking fun classes, like sushi making, jewelry making. Exercising...anything non JW it help me to heal. Also it put me around normal wholesome people (yeah...I realized that JW don't have the market on wholesomeness). Plus I got out and enjoyed going to night clubs, traveling, boating. I divorced after leaving...so I even started dating all of the worldly men (and it has been a wonderful experience...I haved learned alot about myself through dating).

It has been and continue to be a wonderful journey. And in this journey I have accepted Christ...but I would say I'm a liberal Christian. I don't want anything that has alot of rules and restrictions. If it's not about Love ...keep it.

Also do not DA or even meet with the brothers...you owe them nothing. And this will destroy your relationship with your family. It is so crazy but my elder father and mother are ok with talking/associating with me, but not my disfellowshipped and disassociated sisters. And the only difference is that I'm not DA or DF. Which is so crazy...because I have cross pictures all throughout my house, I speak of my church family openly. But my sisters are non church goers. very strange.

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more wifey issues. she seen my phone and this web site was op

by unstopableravens in

my son grab my phone and wifey seen this site.

on for a second she was mad.

led into arugment today.

featherimiss

unstopableravens remember your wife is a grown women. I would stop trying to convince her that the JW is untrue. The best way is to be a great husband. I would be a very loving husband and very respectful to her beliefs....but would definitely expect her to be the same with me.

One thing I notice when some find ttatt want to tell everyone who is listening their finding (this is what I did). But some are truly happy with their beliefs and just not ready. So I took the time to get use to my new life and I attended church without asking anyone and without letting them know what/where I was going. But I keep on loving and respecting them and their views (and I continue even 12 years later). When they choose not to respect my views, I just end the conversation.

I found when I concentrated on working on myself, I started attracting instead of repelling my JW family. My pioneer sister noticed that I was so relaxed. My disfellowshipped sister noticed that I was loving and talking to her. My just active enough Mother enjoy going shopping instead of going to meetings. My elder father...just left me alone...he did not want to lose our relationship.

Long story short I have successfully faded..my story is a little easier. Because I was married to an unbeliever, never was a strong witness (just born in), I eventually moved 5 states away from my JW Family. But what I do know is that when I lived in the same town with a 50,000 total population...I was very active in my church (there was even a picture of my sister and I attending a church service on the front page of the town newspaper). My dad said my sister and I needed to send a DA letter (we never did)....and the locals just never acknowledged it.

So still I strongly suggest prayer for yourself in building your relationship with Christ and finding yourself. And don't worry so much about your wife's spirituality...just her well being as a wife, mother and human. I would shower her with love and fun stuff...forgot about the boring JW stuff.

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HELP I need some ex-elders help for a phone conversation with my JW parents

by cyberjesus in

ok this is the deal: i was dfd 14 years ago, i was just planning to go back last year.

i had planned to come back with a clean conscience so i started to study and research the wt to prove to myself this was the truth, the elders had met with me to suggest me to submit a letter of reinstatement, in the same meeting i told them i had some questions that i needed help with before i was to go back.

they said they were gonna answer those questions after i was reinstated :-d so i went by myself and started doing my research.

featherimiss

CyberJesus...you scared the bejesus out of your parents. Your mother wanted you to lie to her. She enjoys being lied to. I don't suggest lying...but is/was it necessary to let her know your beliefs. When she said that she turn the tv on the History channel...that was your clue to empathize with her and leaving the religion subject alone

Some believe that having the conversation to let them know what you believe will free their family for the JW org. I say just love them where they are and when and if they want to be free...they will come to you.

I would stop all JW conversation with all of your family. Just speak on love and non religious issues.

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Sitting Still at Meetings has Become an Impossibility

by venusinfauxfurs in

since i know the truth about jw, and still have to go to meetings for family reasons (and because i don't want to leave my friends, either) i get so sick in my chair in the hall.

i can't pay attention, i can't sit still knowing it's all such a waste of time and a big fat lie.

i get weird symptoms like: the feeling that i'm going to almost pass out, very sweaty or very cold, and weak legs though i'm sitting down, and the urge to get up and run away.

featherimiss

Wow...this is why I love this site. When I was first convinced that the JW was not the Truth. I would go to the KH and cry and the strangest part is that no one every asked me why am I crying. I was so terribly depressed that I checked myself into the hospital. I was diagnosed with Severe Depression and PTSD. When I received this diagnosis and started therapy...it help me to make sense of what I had been through.

And I came to this site in late 1999 and reading others experiences....it help me to understand that I was not crazy. And just the point about people from around the world experiencing the same issue was very therapeutic.

I have not been to a KH in 6/7 years and the last time was because my father was giving a talk and my sisters thought we would surprise my dad by attending and bringing all of the grandchildren. When I listed to my dad give that talk, it was horrible...my head was spinning, I thought I was having a nervous breakdown. I just could not believe how many scrpitures he quoted in 45 minutes...I wanted to run up on the stage and take that JW Bible and burn it on the stage.

The point of it all is to take care of yourself and remember that the JW faith and people are a small portion of the world population. You will find many new friends and there are lots of AWESOME men to date and believe me a man without JW indocrination is so AWESOME!!!

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Celebrating Christmas?????

by DATA-DOG in

i am just curious, and not judging.

if you are a christian and you know that december 25th is not jesus' birthday, and may have pagan roots, then why celebrate it?

i was raised a dub as most of you know, and have learned the ttatt so i know how wrong they are about a lot.

featherimiss

I love Christmas and I celebrate because its wonderful to get together with family and friends and have a special time to just give to each other and just have a wonderful time. To see my son, daughter in law and grandson from NC. To see my youngest son face because I still make sure he gets gifts from Santa (he's 18)...he always say, mom you know that gift came from you and dad.

It's wonderful to buy gifts for others. And not have the JW thinking...why don't you give all year long (yeah...like the JW ever give to charity ....sheesh) I love Angel Trees, love showing the mailman, hairdresser, school teacher, my pastor, etc how I much I appreciate them.

Most Worldly people are not aware of the pagan origins and don't really care. But I love this part...that it has pagan origins...but those who had other beliefs decided to turn it something loving and kind. That why people only know about great things about Christmas.

I am a Christian and I love reflecting about my Saviour being born and just celebrating life!!! It's just a wonderful Holiday as well as most Holiday's for me. I love Christmas musicals at my church. I go to a black non denomication church with the best gospel signing. Can you tell I just love Christmas.

It's just so wonderful to be free from the JW religion and enjoy what I really Love without worrying about conforming to others thoughts. I think I will go and wrap another gift to put under the tree right now!!!

Merry Christmas!!!!

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Is Your Life In Ruins Because You Were A Jehovah's Witness?

by minimus in

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are you moving on?.

i see some have a very hard time in life because of their witness past..

featherimiss

My life is not in ruins...but it is sometimes delayed.

I've been out for 12 years....and I'm very happy and understand what I went through and the JW faith.

..but many times feel like a social retard. I enjoy the holidays...but don't totally understand them like my friends. I love my church and love my faith...but don't have a deep passion. I plan on going back to pursue my bachelor's degree (I'm 44 years old)...but mourn the experience that I would have enjoyed learning as an 18 year old. I love my parents...but mourn our relationship...because I can't share what I'm doing most of the time...prime example...my mom just called me from Ohio...I live in TX. She asked, what are you doing...I said getting my Xmas ornaments out of the garage. She held her breath and changed the subject. When my parents came to visit this summer. I wanted to invite all of my friends over to introduce them to my parents...but held back...because I knew it would make my Elder Father sad to know about my bible study group. So I don't lie to them...but I'm just not totally open.

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Jehovah's Witnesses dismayed by new magazine format from Watchtower Society.

by Balaamsass in

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wow.

i was surprised this week by calls from active jws complaining about the new magazine format, and more begging for money from the platform.. frankly i was surprized by this reaction since this is old news to jwn members.

i guess actually shuffling to the bookroom and grabbing the new "awake tracts" minus the inside cover forward ...awakened many sleepy, catatonic, bored jws who never read the things or go on the internet anyway.. any feedback from other areas?.

featherimiss

If I was still a JW...I would have loved this new format. I don't think I every read a full Watchtower or Awake.. in the 30 years I was in the religion.

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My son's heart is broken

by ruderedhead in

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i'm sure someone here has experienced this before.

please help me help my son.

his wife of 15 months told him last night that she needs her space, that what she wanted 1 year ago isn't the same as what she wants now.

featherimiss

Here's a quote from TD Jakes sermon that has been passed around alot...this may help your son and anyone else going through someone leaving. I think it's especially good for some of the issue exjw go through:

There are people who can walk away from you. And hear me when I tell you this! When people can walk away from you: let them walk. I don't want you to try to talk another person into staying with you, loving you, calling you, caring about you, coming to see you, staying attached to you. I mean hang up the phone.

When people can walk away from you let them walk. Your destiny is never tied to anybody that left. The bible said that, "They came out from us that it might be made manifest that they were not for us. For had they been of us, no doubt they would have continued with us." [1 John 2:19]

People leave you because they are not joined to you. And if they are not joined to you, you can't make them stay. Let them go. And it doesn't mean that they are a bad person, it just means that their part in the story is over. And you've got to know when people's part in your story is over so that you don't keep trying to raise the dead. You've got to know when it's dead. You've got to know when it's over.

Let me tell you something. I've got the gift of good-bye. It's the tenth spiritual gift, I believe in good-bye. It's not that I'm hateful, it's that I'm faithful, and I know whatever God means for me to have He'll give it to me. And if it takes too much sweat I don't need it. Stop begging people to stay. Let them go!!

If you are holding on to something that doesn't belong to you and was never intended for your life, then you need to...LET IT GO!!!

If you are holding on to past hurts and pains... LET IT GO!!!

If someone can't treat you right, love you back, and see your worth... LET IT GO!!!

If someone has angered you ... LET IT GO!!!

If you are holding on to some thoughts of evil and revenge.... LET IT GO!!!

If you are involved in a wrong relationship or addiction ... LET IT GO!!!

If you are holding on to a job that no longer meets your needs or talents .. LET IT GO!!!

If you have a bad attitude... LET IT GO!!!

If you keep judging others to make yourself feel better... LET IT GO!!!

If you're stuck in the past and God is trying to take you to a new level in Him... LET IT GO!!!

If you are struggling with the healing of a broken relationship.... LET IT GO!!!

If you keep trying to help someone who won't even try to help themselves.. LET IT GO!!!

If you're feeling depressed and stressed ... LET IT GO!!!

If there is a particular situation that you are so used to handling yourself and God is saying "take your hands off of it," then you need to... LET IT GO!!!

Let the past be the past. Forget the former things. GOD is doing a new thing for 2010!!! LET IT GO!!!

Get Right or Get Left .. think about it, and then LET IT GO!!!

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any ex witness from maryland ?

by unstopableravens in

hi i have not been here for a while i did not have a working pc how has everyone been ?

just wondering if there a re any ex jws from maryland.

featherimiss

I lived in Maryland between 1993 - 1998. I cannot remember the congregation I attended. But remember two very nice ladies. Minnie Lewis and Irene (can remember last name). Irene was who I studied with...she lived new Bowie.

Both just wonderful people.

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Why don't Jehovah's Witnesses Celebrate Thanksgiving?

by God_Delusion in

hi guys,.

being a brit living abroad, i never really understood the whole thanksgiving business.. i think growing up as a jw didn't help either.

anyway, i've rid myself of those jw shackles and have decided to take an interest into the goings on over the pond, especially as my favourite place on earth is bar harbor.

featherimiss

I don't remember why they don't!!!

But I'm so glad that I do!!!

HAPPY THANKSGIVING ALL!!! This is a great Holiday to start with on your journey out of JW Doom!!! No matter what you currently believe...everyone should be THANKFUL!!!! Gratitude is very healthy!!!