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  Would You date a black man or black woman?

  by Save My Soul in

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  my sister-in-law is recently divorced and went to a witness online dating site.

  she mentioned that many of the witnesses specified that they wanted a white or latino only.

  of course there is nothing wrong with this (personal preference), but i found it interesting.

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  chickpea

  i dated black men twice.... college and in the military (also, to my mother's utter horror, i dated hispanics in high school)

  my husband is mixed race..... cauc and native american.....
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  Our Kingdom Ministries

  by Armageddon Dad in

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  2. friends

  i am wondering if anyone knows if there is an assembly in ireland around the end of this year to beginning of next year?.

  can anyone else also supply me "our kingdom ministry" for dates of assemblies in uk.. i'm not planning to cause trouble at these gatherings.

  it's just that i have a court order which prevents my child from being taken to these things and i need evidence to stop the mother and stepfather forcing my child to go against his wishes.. the mother and stepfather don't tell him of course and keep it a secret right until the last minute.

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  sometimes a city will have an assembly hall that also serves as a kingdom hall for several congregations...... check the telephone directory to determine if there is an assembly hall in dublin

  assemblies are generally much smaller than a district convention so the huge venues that host a convention wouldnt be used for assemblies..... smaller auditioriums or theatres are a better bet ..... good luck in pinning down the time and dates..... thank you for what you are doing for your son
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  Do JW's really care for one another?

  by JH in

  1. watchtower
  2. beliefs

  do you think that the jw's in your congregation care if you're living your life to the fullest or if you're happy?.

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  chickpea

  one of the real rippers for me is how a friend of mine, whom i never would have known had i not been assimilated, was treated by the borg and its adherents like a pariah for decades, ostracised as an adolescent as the BAD one all the while having never swallowed a drop of alcohol, or smoked a cigarette, or participated in the "naked picture" ring ( like a present elder at that hall had done as a youth.... HOW did he get to bethel??) .... she was always the one people said to avoid and even tho she was DF'd for immorality at 19, she jumped thru all the hoops to be reinstated TWICE in her life......

  when she NEEDED cong support to face blood issues relating to a child's surgery for a congenital heart defect......no one from the HLC gave a rat's @ss, because she was inactive in terms of field service.... HELLO!!! her baby's heart had a HOLE in it!!!! and she lived out in the boonies and yada yada ..... and yet she managed to make it to sunday meetings and even many service mtg/TMS nights despite the nealy 60 mile round trip with 3 kids on crappy, deer-ridden county roads ALONE in terms of adult assistance

  her pious mother has sided with the non JW estranged spouse (who is a convicted SO, a 3 time convicted drunk driver, and an adulterer who has no respect for any of the tenets of the "faith") in a bitterly contested child custody case..... several "sisters" have declared they are stunned, surprised, in disbelief..... but nary a one has offered to speak out for her........

  so yeah.... they care...... as little as is humanly possible.... and they will hide behind the "direction" of the borg......

  they deserve the fall that is headed their way
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  Does time fly by faster now that you don't go to meetings anymore?

  by JH in

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  without a doubt, time flies by much faster now that i don't have to prepare and go to meetings.

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  the stress level has certainly taken a downturn since there is no rush to get kids fed, dressed and in the car with ALL the accoutrement and paraphenalia necessary for a meeting.... time that used to be devoted to that circus is now spent encouraging the kids to do things that enhance their lives....

  time is relative and relatively speaking..... not trying to wedge life between mtgs, study, service has made it all the more enjoyable.....
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  Was mold a problem in your hall?

  by DT in

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  it seems like almost every hall i went to had a mold problem.

  i couldn't even enter the last hall i attended without getting sick.

  i had to listen.

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  faulty design, workmanship,lack of windows or that tacky vinyl wall paper they use! Anyone ever hear of sick building syndrome

  omg!! did you read the RBCs evaluation of the hall i attended ?!?! evidently the design, provided by the WTS, led to a saturated ventilation system....... nearly $ 85K in remediation, taken out in a "low interest loan" from the original purveyors of the design!!! what a racket!!! fortunately at that point in time we were fading and never "pledged" to cover the repayment schedule.....
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  Boldly Going (Everyone's advice needed)...

  by Tuesday in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  hey guys, long time from me and no topics (yup moving is a pain).

  i'm sure no one really remembers but at my last postings i was mentioning that my wife was pregnant.

  well now i'm the proud poppa of a beautiful 2 week old baby girl.. this of course brings complications, my mother is still an active jw and surely chomping at the bit to bring my daughter (did i mention she's beautiful) to show off to all her meeting friends.. of course i don't want my daughter exposed to this, so i came up with a tactic i would like everyone's opinion on.

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  chickpea

  a new baby!! such a life enhancing event!! mazel tov!!!

  give g'ma a nice pic to flash around the hall.....knowing what i know now, i too believe that the "inculcation" would subtly begin and therefore i would not agree to let a witness relative or ANY WTS automaton take my child to a kingdom hall.....

  hang on to that list of questions, because should the organization manage to retain status in the world of organized religion, then a natural questing and curiosity may prompt your daughter to want to "go to g'ma's church".... maybe require a written and signed response from the PO before allowing any child of yours to set foot in their lair, if ever ....
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  Just finished C of C last night

  by dogisgod in

  1. watchtower
  2. beliefs

  it took me a while to get thru this book and some of the print was really unclear to make out.

  what struck me was the absolute mean spiritedness of the borg toward these brothers who gave their whole lives to the borg.

  it also reinforces my experience that once they "make a decision" they will not be disuaded by biblical facts.

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  chickpea

  my copy of C o C arrived in the mail today.... plan to make it a weekend project....

  weird thing is that a batch of some other org's literature accompanied it..... crikey...... is there no escaping evangelism?
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  They want to make me an elder :-O

  by outofthebox in

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  2. friends

  this is the third elder that tells me that the body of elders will recommend me as an elder in the next visit of the co.. what do you think i should do?

  some facts:.

  i am still 'in' because of my family.i am ms.i am doing 10+ fake hours (well, some months it is fake), so they see my "spiritual" progress.-ootb.

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  chickpea

  whoa!

  access to the vestibule of the inner sanctum..... heady stuff, i have to think

  quite the horns to be situated upon as far as dilemmas go.....

  both sides of the issue have merit..... but which one do you actually desire to make a part of your life? as was already pointed out, the added burdens and time constraints of an elder's lot will be tremendous..... that alone is daunting to consider!!

  whatever you determine to do, if it is best for you, then it is the right choice

  godspeed

  c/p
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  Watchtower Parody Page #8

  by AlmostAtheist in

  1. social
  2. humour

  hey all, .

  i can't sleep tonight for some reason, and so i took a whack at correcting some of the more glaring typos on the watchtower's site.

  (for instance, they keep misspelling "lie" as t-r-u-t-h. weird...) anyone wanna double-check me, here?

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  chickpea

  wucking funderful, mate....

  i was laughing til tears flowed!!!

  masterful work!
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  Sometimes expressing your sorry takes time

  by purplesofa in

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  it does not mean that you are not sorry, probably immediately, .

  it might take time to figure out what you are really sorry about, .

  maybe the feelings come immediately and then the mind catches up.

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  chickpea

  nightly i compose in my head the letter(s) i need to write to my children (23,20,17,14) admitting my error and apologizing for a hope that turned out to be a sham.... love gone awry and a history of horror linked to my being duped by an eloquent machine.... i am desperate to release them from any residual consideration of MY attachment to the borg..... decidedly i will direct them to this site.....

  it does take time to steel oneself to the reality that harm, genuine HARM, not just hurt, has been accrued to others by one's actions, thoughts and beliefs..... i expect full reconciliation and forgiveness from them, and will have to allow it from myself at some point.....

  i couldnt be sorrier for what i brought into their lives....

  maybe that is the long and the short of it...... they will get it

  godspeed

  c/p