Posts by AlyMC

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How long do you stay in love?

by Thegoodgirl in

i have a question:.

how long do you stay in love?

for those of you who are married, are you together "just for the kids"?

AlyMC

I absolutely love and respect my husband more today than 10 years ago when we got married. We get along better to. Chemistry still alive to boot :)

We have never felt any desire stay together because of the kids, or because of a vow. I'm not sure that humans are biologically monogamous creatures who naturally stay partnered for life. It takes effort for that to happen. And life is to short to stay in that kind of dynamic.

So, we acknowledged that if we are to stay together it is because we each wake up each day and choose to do so. This not only keeps us from feeling stuck, but it also keeps us trying. We still flirt and work for our connections.

Every year really gets better. That said, we didn't have the "grand romantic start" many couple do. We actually grew into our love for each other. To start, all we had was chemistry and physical connection.

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How many finally feel comfortable in their own skin?

by dinah in

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took awhile didnt it?.

at what point did you ever look in a mirror and thank yourself for working through this?

it took me about 5 years after i finally realized the wt was a sham.

AlyMC

I left when I was 24/25, and 27 was the first year I really became comfortable with myself, in my skin. I felt positive and hopeful, and like i had a place in the world. I'm turning 29 later this month and I feel like life is just really wonderful for once... it can only go up from here. Most of my friends are fretting their 30's and their lost youth, and I feel like life is really just beginning. I'm good :)

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How to be invisible, Hire a JW to clean your house.

by ElectricJello in

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i think i threw up a little in my mouth when i got this email.. this is being emailed around the jws right now.

sure you can trust them with your money but what about your children???.

this book has been published to tell folks how to protect themselves from identity theft, among other things.

AlyMC

Does the book itself seem a bit paranoid to anyone else? I'm not sure I'd take it as a wonderful endorsement.

I also thought that it shows that Jehovah is blessing the mormons and adventists as well, maybe they have the "truth" as well.

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unicorns really existed!!

by Witchs Son in

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i never noticed those scriptures before but seems that what some translations of bible call bull is actually a unicorn.

i checked several translations, even found this video which made me think.

ok i didn't like the music either, it is not your classic music hit but do check those scriptures and tell me what you think.. http://de.youtube.com/watch?v=ub9ynbe4k5i.

AlyMC

My kids are fully immersed in folklore, and convinced that they are all true in some realm of the world. Gnomes, elves, fairies, unicorns... they even leave little snacks out for the weefolk. I love it and find it endearing, but until there are skeletal remains or proof of existence I'm gonna go with myth. Just as I find Greek mythology fascinating, but doubt it has literal basis.

For now I think most of it comes from a unique trait of humans... the ability and desire to imagine the unimaginable. I also think that a lot of mythology comes from early use of hallucinogenic plants. ;o)

I would not be at all surprised if the unicorn was mentioned in the bible, as mythology obviously already existed then (talking snake anyone?), at the same time... I consider the bible a work of men, so didn't find the argument convincing from a scientific perspective obviously. We have plenty of time to discover remains, and it isn't impossible. I suppose my agnostic perspective is showing- I'm gonna go with myth until I see otherwise, but I don't attempt to prove what can not be proven either way.

Great, now I have the Irish Rovers song in my head. lol.

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Tell Us About Your FIRST KISS

by AWAKE&WATCHING in

i was not raised in the cult.

i lived across the street from a county group home that housed 10-12 teen-age boys at any one time.

i was 14 and in heaven.

AlyMC

I was raised in, but we were never a strong family...

My first time kissing a boy was the summer after I turned 11. Chris. He was worldly, had long dark hair and was 16 (which I thought was SOOOO mature). In retrospect I'm a little grossed out that he would kiss an eleven year old- but I looked and behaved much older so I can't say I blame him.

It was on top of the wooden house/box thing on our neighborhood playground... and it was really cool. We kissed for so long my mouth felt numb afterwards. (eta- it was dark and there were no little kids around fwiw)

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What lengths did you go to, to not miss meetings?

by exwitless in

i posted this in another thread, but i thought it would merit a thread.

the elders in our cong.

likened missing a memorial to an "unforgivable sin".

AlyMC

Cicatrix, what a sad situation :( Any single mamas I knew with multiple kids- us sisters would always help with them during meetings. It was actually encouraged. What a horrible experience for you.

I got the spanking thing a lot... and it would make me livid every time. It got so bad that I actually kept a typed up "report" of articles and scriptures in paper and disc on the topic of spanking in my car to hand out to anyone who got on me to spank. And the funny thing is, I left when my oldest was 3 and she was a very quiet kid. It was my BABY who was loud and they were suggesting I spank. blech.

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Chiropractic

by sass_my_frass in

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i have always suspected that chiropractic is a total crock.

the concept that having your backbone crackled a little bit every month will control your blood pressure, cure your asthma and keep you mobile and flu-free until you're 120 seems farfetched, and yet all my life every time i have had a headache i have been inclined to set up an appointment.. i've really only been in serious pain three times; some bad neck pain which cleared up after a depressing relationship, some lumbar pain from a bad lift incident which cleared up after three weeks of wiggling around on a fitball while i was watching tv in the evening, and some weird shoulder pain which cleared up when i rejoined a gym.

i have wasted a lot of money for many years - chiropractic just wasn't there for me.

AlyMC

Until recently my husband did actuarial work (basically doing the math behind insurance). What is covered and what isn't has much less to do with "what works" than it has to do with demand and cost. Is the cost of the service in question less than the risk of loosing clients to another major insurer, IOW. Chiropractic is actually loosing steam in the industry rather quickly.

Not to say that invalidates it at all, I'm just saying that their coverage of it isn't really a medical endorsement as much as a reflection of a competitive market.

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Have you ever heard JW's comments about you since you left the org?

by jambon1 in

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since you left, have you ever overheard or heard through the 'grapevine', what the local jw's say about you?

AlyMC

I'm a much better person since leaving as well, Tuesday... however it is rare that someone leaves and the witnesses say "look how wonderfully she is thriving out there under Satan's control" I've never known anyone who wasn't made an example out of. "See what happens when you leave?!"

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Why Do JW's not use Child care or Sunday Type School?

by kwr in

while i have only been to one meeting my entire life i have always found it odd that jw's don't use child care or sunday type school for children.

what is the reason for this policy by wts?

tia.

AlyMC

And the mothers room at the hall absolutely beat the boring meeting. lol... we used to have so many fun conversations back there.

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Why Do JW's not use Child care or Sunday Type School?

by kwr in

while i have only been to one meeting my entire life i have always found it odd that jw's don't use child care or sunday type school for children.

what is the reason for this policy by wts?

tia.

AlyMC

This was one of my biggest concerns with going post children. The elders told me it was because children should be "trained from infancy". I forget the scripture, but it is one we all have heard. They should not be in the back having fun because it is not a topic of play, but a serious one that means the difference of their life or death. They can't expect to "get through on our baptism" for to long.

We got talked about because we would bring books, magnadoodles, pencils, etc and also play games with her at the expense of our ability to listen. The elders insisted the only reason I questioned their doctrine was that I was looking for an excuse not to have to ask my daughter to sit through the meetings.

Then of course I started realizing that I wanted my girls to have more opportunity and power over their lives than I did... so I guess it was mostly because of them that I came to terms with my suspicions. So I guess in a way they were right.