Posts by HalfWayThere

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Update on my life =(

by roflcopter in

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and the past 4 months we have been having problems.

i posted on the board in the past about the first incident.. but we decided to work on it since she seemed genuinely remorseful... it is hard to beleive now that she abandoned all her morals, her religion, family and friends to persue this pipe dream..... it all started out like this.

but i guess the little things like that meant nothing.

HalfWayThere

rolfcopter,

From reading your post, I can see how much your wife means to you and just how much you love her.

However, theres a saying that "we teach people how to treat us", or something like that. In other words, there is such a thing as being too nice and too forgiving.

You wife has hurt you and effectively cheated on you even just by sending those texts and nude pictures, and you forgave her again and again. If you forgive her for sleeping with "Danny", she is only going to do it again with someone else.

As much as it hurts now, you need to cut the strings and let her go, otherwise she is only going to keep walking all over you.

You're still young. Get out while you can.

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Handy tip of the day

by sass_my_frass in

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thicken up your runny low-fat yoghurt by stirring in a few tablespoons of cream.

HalfWayThere

Sweeten up your cottage cheese by stirring in a teaspoon of raw sugar....mmmmm, crunchy!

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It's official (family-wise) I am an apostate

by RisingEagle in

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i was having lunch last week with my mom and she dropped the a-word on me.

my mom started off the lunch speaking about what a disappointment i was to her that my wife and i had put our little girl into a christian private school.

i posted on an earlier thread that my wife and i now have a 6 year old beautiful little girl that we're adopting.

HalfWayThere

"She also said that she could cut my older brother some slack (he also enrolled his kids in Christian private schools years ago) because he was never baptized"

I get that too. My two older brothers are unbaptized unlike myself. They both swear, drink, and live with their respective partner and kids out of wedlock. One of them recently criticized my mum for spending time with them considering all this and she replied that she doesn't care - they can tell dirty jokes and drink and swear like troopers around her and thats ok because it doesn't bother her.

My brother's partner also recently gave birth to a beautiful baby boy, and all of a sudden my 3 JW sisters come out of the woodwork wanting to visit them and meet the new adidtion to the family. Yet none of my sisters will have contact with me because I dared to live with my now wife before we married last year! WTF!!

And my mother has repeatly warned me that if I were to be DF or DA myself that she would have to limit her association with me! WTF!!!! My (worldly) wife cannot for the life of her get her head around this thinking, and I don't blame her.

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Who hates smoking and pets?

by averyniceguy in

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i really do hate smoking odors.

i do not really hate pets but i am allergic to them.

what about you?

HalfWayThere

I hate pets that smoke! :)

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WATCHTOWER loses in court!

by Nathan Natas in

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Great news!! I've just passed on the story to a few newspapers and TV stations in Australia, so hopefully it might get a little attention over here. It would be great if others could do the same in their local area/country.

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Beards and bald heads

by parlay in

what do you think about the wts prohibition on beards?

currently in the us, i think a brother can wear a beard, he just won't be used in the congregation.

i see all references in the wt to beards are in a negative light, such as the supreme court upholding a supermarket chains no beards rule.

HalfWayThere

Going back about 7 years now, there was a (white) bro in my congregation who came to the meeting one day with his head shaved. I can't remember exactly the story of why, I think it was due to some practical joke at a party or something like that, so he had to shave the rest of his hair off.

Anyway, the elders removed him from privileges (he usually helped out with sound) and ordered him to wear a hat when out of field service until his hair grew back, lest he bring reproach upon the borg.

On the subject of beards - the only person I remember having a beard in my cong was an elders wife. She must have been at least 70 I think, and had way too many hairs growing from her chin. It was very disturbing when looking at her. I think the elders definitely should have counseled her for that!

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.....YOU MIGHT JUST BE AN ELDER IF......

by LuciousJ in

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if you get off sitting in a room with the door closed so you can ask a young woman what position she had sex in........you might just be an elder.

if your highest degree is janitorial but at night you are the "massa".........you might just be an elder!

if you walk around during the meetings and whisper in several mens' ears.....you might be an elder.

HalfWayThere

If you don't have to face a JC for a serious sin because it happened more than 2 or 3 years ago....

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If I went back would I get DF'd because I married an non-JW?

by HalfWayThere in

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i'm getting married in a couple of weeks and my mother is under alot of pressure not to go because i've been living with my fiance.

my 3 jw sisters are not attending the wedding and i feel that my mum will be under continued pressure not to have contact with me after the wedding.

so i'm thinking of a plan... what if i went back to the meetings just so that my mum can feel 'ok' about having contact with me and so she can tell my sisters to back off.

HalfWayThere

Hi sspo, sunshineToo.

Sorry I must have confused you by saying 'fiance' - I should have said 'fiancee' as in female. (Didn't know there was a difference til I just googled it!) If I was marrying another guy, I think I'd have even more to worry about if I went back to the meetings! lol

I am baptized. Haven't stepped inside a hall for 5 years though.

My g/f is not a fan of the JW's especially since seeing what my mum is going through over the wedding, but she'd play along if the elders ever came around to see me. I would try to minimize the contact they have with her though cause I really wouldn't want to put her through all that BS.

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If I went back would I get DF'd because I married an non-JW?

by HalfWayThere in

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i'm getting married in a couple of weeks and my mother is under alot of pressure not to go because i've been living with my fiance.

my 3 jw sisters are not attending the wedding and i feel that my mum will be under continued pressure not to have contact with me after the wedding.

so i'm thinking of a plan... what if i went back to the meetings just so that my mum can feel 'ok' about having contact with me and so she can tell my sisters to back off.

HalfWayThere

Thanks Inquisitor.

I didn't think the marrying part would be a problem either. I'm more concerned as to how they will consider the horizontal gymnastics that they will be certain happened before the wedding. I can imagine them asking when the first occurrence was etc, which would be hard to stomach. I could say it didn't begin until I moved in and then, after the engagement, realizing the error of my ways, my fiance and I talked and decided to behave ourselves until the wedding. Yeah right! But they might believe that bull if I act sincere.

As for speaking against the org, I might be able to suck up to the egos enough for them to believe it was a mistake during a time that I was 'spiritually weak'. I think I'll have to study up on the JW-speak - I've forgotten alot of it in 5 years.

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If I went back would I get DF'd because I married an non-JW?

by HalfWayThere in

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i'm getting married in a couple of weeks and my mother is under alot of pressure not to go because i've been living with my fiance.

my 3 jw sisters are not attending the wedding and i feel that my mum will be under continued pressure not to have contact with me after the wedding.

so i'm thinking of a plan... what if i went back to the meetings just so that my mum can feel 'ok' about having contact with me and so she can tell my sisters to back off.

HalfWayThere

Hi everyone,

I'm getting married in a couple of weeks and my mother is under alot of pressure not to go because I've been living with my fiance. My 3 JW sisters are not attending the wedding and I feel that my mum will be under continued pressure not to have contact with me after the wedding.

So I'm thinking of a plan... what if I went back to the meetings just so that my mum can feel 'ok' about having contact with me and so she can tell my sisters to back off. Now don't get me wrong, I dread the thought of attending another meeting but maybe a memorial here, sunday meeting there, would be enough ammo for my mum to defend herself. Actually, it might even be a little fun to play the insider.

I'm just wondering though what the elders would have in mind for me if I set foot in the hall? I have lived with my fiance for about the past year, and I have openly criticized the org to my family (oops!) so I would have those issues to face. Has anyone here (or their partners) gone back and had to face similar 'judgement' for things they did while out?

I know I'll have to lie my arse off and say that I was wrong to criticize the spirit-directed, never-wrong, would-never-lie-to-us, org and swear that I believe they have the 'troof'. And I would have to somehow weasel my way out of the whole lived-together thing. What do you think I would have to say to convince them I was 'safe' to let back into the cong? What do you think my chances are?

Thanks heaps,

HalfWayThere