Well, my experience is a bit like Poopsie's:
I fully intended to go back when I was df'ed. But I had taken so much abuse in the Org that I wasn't ready emotionally or mentally for the way we would be treated.
In the meantime, I started checking stuff out that had always bothered me, but I never had time to really look into - my own personal "Wait on Jehovah" file.
I found out that alot of what I had been taught (I was a born-in) wasn't true. After that, I had no problem stepping away from the religion. I started focusing on building a new life and finding happiness. And I've accomplished both those things in a short period of time.
I hope your man is in therapy or getting some counselling. I wish you the best on your journey!!
Palm