Posts by bluecanary

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Being Brought Up As A Jehovah's Witness---Was It A "BAD" Upbringing?

by minimus in

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16 years ago

i think that my upbringing made me the person that i am today---for good and bad.

even though i was raised a witness, i don't think that my upbringing was bad.. your thoughts, please..

16 years ago

bluecanary 16 years ago

I have two complaints about being raised a witness: The first is the lack of education and preparation for the future. I was discouraged from going to college. Hell, I didn't even finish high school. I quit to pioneer. I wasn't given the opportunity to learn anything about religion other than from the publications of the WTS. I was taught that I would probably never be an adult in this system, let alone need to prepare for a career, family or retirement.

The second is the dating structure of the org. Starting with the strict policy of no fornication. If I had slept with my ex just once, we never would have married, I wouldn't have gone through a horrible marriage and divorce, and I wouldn't be facing bankruptcy now for his idiocy. If we were allowed to date outside of the religion I could easily have found a good man. There was nothing but the dregs at the bottom of the barrel for sisters like me within the org. And we're just expected to never be loved? To never be intimate with someone?

This isn't just a problem for adults because of the many teenage witnesses who marry and because of the stupid things children are taught about sex and marriage. At least half the witness girls I know wouldn't have sex with their husbands after marriage because sex had been so demonized for them. The other half end up making really stupid sexual choices because they're not allowed to be open and honest with their parents about their relationships and feelings.

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my story,my sins and their consequences

by highdose in

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16 years ago

with renia now gone i feel more confident to tell my story without being belittled.

i don't want to drone on and on, as having read alot of the experiances on here i find i have alot in comman with everyone.

so i thought i'd just give a short run down of the reasons why i've ended up here.

16 years ago

bluecanary 16 years ago

highdose, you're my favorite kind of sinner; although I was hoping your confession would include some girl-on-girl action.

just kidding

If we were ever in the same place (unlikely) I would have been one of the people who treated you so badly because I was an uber-witness and thought that everyone else should be. So I would like to apologize to you for being such an ass.

Thanks for sharing your story.

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Birthday Celebrations & other shenanigans

by homeschool in

16 years ago

well, here's my latest "thing"...i plan on speaking with my siblings & their mates in the near future.

i have told them that i have questions regarding some doctrines, mainly stuff like birthdays, mother's day, father's day, etc.

my hubby has some questions for them regarding their wacky blood doctrine (but i wont cover that in this thread).

16 years ago

bluecanary 16 years ago

I heard on the History channel once that lipstick originates with prosttiutes rubbing berries on their lips to signal their willingness to perform oral sex to potential customers.

Yes, and eyeshadow and blush are supposed to simulate the way the body naturally flushes during orgasm.

Make-up, nylons and shaving various body parts all came into fashion from prostitutes.

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Meandering Thoughts of my Old Life - Regrets

by AllTimeJeff in

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16 years ago

two threads popped up today, one on pedophiles and jw's, and another on what keeps us/me coming back here..... i gotta tell you, when i remember that i was once an elder, spouting off the company line, it makes me sick.

when i had to read the defense of jw pedophiles today, i was reminded that i too once spouted a similar line.

i personally observed other elders resign for what i knew to be real differences they had with the gb on how to handle pedophiles.

16 years ago

bluecanary 16 years ago

There was one particular hall where I was always excluded from my peer group. My brother was very popular. I thought I wasn't good enough for them--turns out I was too "good." When my brother told me all the stuff they used to do, it's no wonder they didn't want me around. I never would have let them get away with it. They all would have been up before a JC by the time I was done with them.

I was such a JW Nazi. I wasn't in a position to really hurt anyone. I only ended up hurting myself and being stuck with no friends. And I acted the way I did because I whole-heartedly believed it was the truth and it was important to really LIVE it, not be half-assed. I regret believing it, but I don't regret acting in a way that I thought was Right.

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Birthday Celebrations & other shenanigans

by homeschool in

16 years ago

well, here's my latest "thing"...i plan on speaking with my siblings & their mates in the near future.

i have told them that i have questions regarding some doctrines, mainly stuff like birthdays, mother's day, father's day, etc.

my hubby has some questions for them regarding their wacky blood doctrine (but i wont cover that in this thread).

16 years ago

bluecanary 16 years ago

Isn't there something in the Bible about Job observing his children's "days"? Someone else will have to tell you where that is.

Thanks for organizing this info. It's great. Bookmarked.

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Something Big Is Happening To the WT Mag.

by metatron in

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16 years ago

i looked over the aug. 1 public watchtower and noticed the same changes i observed previously.. plainly put, it appears that they have simply run out of things to say and so are just filling up printing space!.

they devote 4 full pages to a bible reading schedule that could have been easily condensed into a couple sentences.

they have the same large graphics and typeset that eats up printing area.

16 years ago

bluecanary 16 years ago

They may institute tithing but they won't call it that. They will merely point out that everything the Israelites did was meant as a principle for us to follow. So even thought we are not under obligation to tithe, would it not be wise of us, brothers and sisters, to follow the example of faithful Israelites who gave this amount regularly? Would it not demonstrate a lack of faith to do less than this? After all, the poor widow gave all that she had, her whole means of living and this was well more than 10%.

Driver, take this bus to Cuba.

Sorry for the hijack.

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Show your blood card and get a ....?

by startingovernow in

16 years ago

i am trying to remember for what reason i had to show my blood card at a dc in the early 90's.

the only reason it sticks out to me is i remember the comment being made from the podium that many of the cards of jws were not in fact signed, and therefore would not offer "protection.

" the fact that some jws did not have their card signed is of interest to me too (after all, why bother having it if you don't sign it?

16 years ago

bluecanary 16 years ago

Not the same thing but when I was a pioneer 10 years ago, there was a local restaurant who gave a discounted meal to ministers on Sundays. Showing your pioneer card got a discount.

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