It was the shunning that caused me to wake up and start questioning. When a friend of mine dropped his daughter when she need him most, told his wife to remove her daughter's number from her mobile phone and has said he will change his will to disinherit her, I was mortified. His daughter was trying to get out of a marriage that was never going to work, the only way she could was by having an affair. Even then her husband didn't want to let her go so she had to do it again which resulted in her being deemed unrepentant and DF'd. Her father is usually such a reasonable man, I couldn't believe his hardline attitude, which is due only to his following "theorcra(p)tic Direction".