Aw honey... I read these posts and your initial plea for help and I can't help but cry. You are in a big mess if you continue to be with this person without them leaving this nutty organization! I KNOW... I WAS THIS PERSON FOR SO MANY YEARS!!! Every guy I dated (non witness) I ended up arguing with constantly about "life forever on a paradise earth..." etc., etc. until it made both of us sick. I'm still technically a JW but am basically "out" for all purposes. I am with a WONDERFUL (non JW) man now and we are doing fabulously... why? Well, because I'm no longer trapped in all the dogma and rules of men. Your JW friend will really never be happy staying in the organization... but you do not have to be dragged down with it. Please look into your heart and know that the JW life will never be healthy. Jbean
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46I Need Help Please!!!
by CW02 ini'm a 24yr old non-witness who has been dating a 23yr old witness.
we met through a mutual friend.
when i met him i thought he was sweet and kind and the kind of guy i could see myself with for the rest of my life.
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It felt like the Tuesday night Book Study
by Sadie5 ini haven't posted in awhile, just reading when i can.
hubby and i are starting a new business with some other people.
our business is in a slump right now so we need some other avenues to bring in money.. we've been meeting at our house with other people that wanted to get involved.
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JBean
Congrats on your new venture, Sadie5! I too have just started my own business (along with also working full time to keep a much needed paycheck!), so I know how exhausting it can be. Keep the faith and good luck! : )
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October Kingdom Ministry Now Available
by Stephanus inagain, thanks to dmouse for his hard work in scanning these things!
this is the url:.
http://jsefton.users1.50megs.com/kmscans.htm.
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JBean
Ohhhh... is there any way someone could scan this in a different way, or attach it as some sort of file? The system that I work with at my office keeps telling me "site access denied"! Any help would be appreciated, as I'd like to keep up on these things... especially now that even my Watchtower subscription expired and I'd need to go to a KH to get one to keep up Yikes! Y'all wouldn't want to make me do THAT now would you??? : Thanks in advance. Jbean
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Coming Out Party! Who Wants To Join Me?
by Funchback ini am officially retiring my other two personas (mister biggs and mister 8iggs).
quick history: i chose biggs because i am a huge fan of ronald isley (and his brothers).
i initially added 8iggs because i went over my quota for posts one day.
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JBean
Wow Brian! Congratulations!!!! I hope one day (soon) to have your courage!!! I am still unable to announce who I really am because of fear. Trying to overcome it, but I'll hate to lose my family members who are all active JWs. Anyhow... congrats again and I wish you all the best with your wife! Jbean
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UN involvement/elders reply.
by Bosho inseveral weeks ago i asked a lot of you here about the involvement with the un.
you were really helpful in your replies.
thank you.. i approached an elder who i know is "up" on that sort of thing and guess what... he had no idea!.
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For me, the UN involvement was really the last straw. I brought all this information up to my folks (STRONG JW's) and although they were disturbed by the information, their answer?
"Wait on Jehovah to straighten everything out, he always does." and then the requisite: "Where else would we go? Who else has the TRUTH?" (gag.) I'm sure you'll find this reaction in 99.9% of any active JW you speak with. Sad really. -
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The dreaded disfellowshiping
by link in.
i have been informed on good authority (a dub for 27 years) that you cannot get disfelowshiped for committing a wrongdoing, only for being unrepentant.. can anyone tell me if this is true or not, and if it is not where the misunderstanding comes from?
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I agree... just a lot more of their lame talk. I know PERSONALLY one or two people the elders "had it in for" and they practically were hysterical in their repentence... begging, crying, hyperventilating to not get the 'ol DF. Truly very sorry that they did whatever it was they did. No luck. The elders couldn't let it go. Setting precidence, ya know.
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Why are sisters not allowed to wear trousers???
by Tish inafter posting a reply to another thread i wondered if anyone can answer these questions??.
1. why are sisters not allowed to wear trousers?.
2. when sisters where a skirt why have they got to be below the knee?.
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What's a cream mac? : )
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Professor talks about JWs in my 1st college course
by writerpen inokay, i was sitting there just learning (this is my first college course toward my b.a.
), and all of the sudden the professor asks, "is anyone here a jehovahs witness?
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Hi! Wow... very interesting. ; I'm back in school now also, and I have my first Religion course starting this Fall. I wonder if JW's will be mentioned in any of my classes discussions! Jbean
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DO YA MISS "THE SWEET FELLOWSHIP"?
by minimus inone of the major reasons that a disfellowshipped or disassociated person has for coming back to "jehovah's organization" is that perhaps they will miss the "sweet fellowship".
after hearing comments regarding the km article on how to treat disfellowshipped ones, i must wonder why anyone of sound mind would think a disfellowshipped person would miss anything from the organization.
viewing persons as "dead" while out of the organization would not make one feel anxious to return to jehovah's loving arrangement through the organization.whoever coined the term about missing "the sweet fellowship" was pretty clever.
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Firstly: You GO Zev! : )
Personally, I do not miss anyone that I used to hang around with! Sorry to say, but even before I started missing meetings, I thought the folks there were just plain weird. Nice, yes, but wierd also. Very robot-like in EVERYTHING. I asked a "worldly" (ooooohhhh) friend of mine once recently "was I ever like that?" and their response was "hell no! That's why you're not there anymore!!!" HA! I've said this before to other posts, but JW's think they can do and say anything and it doesn't matter... 'cos they're IN THE TRUTH! What a crock.
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Words we no longer use
by sleepy in.
what are some words and phrases we no longer use (except when writing here) that we used to use as witnesses.. heres some,.
theocratic, other crowd, this system of things, new order
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Oh! I have one: how 'bout "remnant"... it always reminded me of carpets!!! hee!