I have had a lovely relaxing sunday. Took the dogs for a walk, came back and had coffee and cake, listened to music and prepared the dinner. A few months ago it would have been rush to walk the dogs, go to boring meeting and sit there trying not to sleep or laugh too loud or perhaps get too mad at the stupid talk, wt and comments. Then when I got home it would be a rush to prepare dinner and before I knew it time to go to bed and back to work on Monday. Now I have me time, so here's to Sunday.
carpediem
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Another Sunday Afternoon
by cantleave ini'm sitting here in a comfy chair surfing the net, dog at my feet.
the kids playing upstairs and the mrs doing some craftwork.
the sun is shining outside and life couldn't be more relaxed.. if i wasn't here what would i be doing?
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Introducing myself
by Aeiouy inand a third continuation........meh.
however, breaking up with her had a very good affect on me.
an unexpected one.
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carpediem
Welcome to the forum
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Overcoming Jealousy
by SeekingSanity indoes anyone know any good audio hypnosis cds...or a good psychological book or excellent read that's saved their marriage from the brink of destruction by overcoming insecurities (particularly jealousy)?
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fishing for ideas...
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Seeking Sanity
I am sorry you are in this situation. I was cheated on several times in the past by one particular man. By the time we finally split I was in pieces, ended up in a mental hospital for two weeks, and a suspicion developed in me that has never left me to this day. Whilst I still have a tendency to feel jealous, I have learned to manage it. One of the ways is by having plenty to do in my life. As there are so many things that are important to me now, my entire focus isn't on my relationship. I also try to spend quality time with my husband. That can be quite difficult as he is still in the org but if you can do stuff together at every opportunity, you will feel closer and that may help you feel stronger and more confident in the relationship. I dont really know of any books, although I have read many relationship books in the past, but I did see a marriage guidance counsellor by myself, to sort out the issues that were going on in my head. Jealousy is a horrible feeling and quite destructive as you know, so I hope you manage to sort it out and feel a peace and security - no pun intended!!
Carpediem
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No natural affection? Jehovahs Witnesses fulfill this scripture
by jambon1 inanyone who can turn their back on their flesh & blood sons and daughters, mothers and fathers fulfill this prophecy perfectly.. people who do this are utterly unloving & cruel.
it has lead thousands of people to feel issolated, alone & in many cases suicidal.
how can such a thing originate with god?.
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carpediem
dgp - Thats a difficult question to answer bec as a dub we are taught to close our eyes and ears to anything that the org dont teach. Even in the Bible Teach book, very early on those who are studying are taught to ignore any outside negative influence. When I am da'd I intend to try and get out my best friend and my husband. I am not sure at this moment how I am going to do it. But I personally favour the drip drip drip affect - the same way that cult got me brainwashed in the first place.
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"Put Jehovah First...." what does this mean? Anyone?
by HappyGuy ini was baptized at the age of 15, my father was very opposed.
i loved god and wanted to be a spiritual person.
so, anything in the literature which told one how to be a spiritual person was of great interest to me.. i remember hearing and reading this phrase over and over and over again "put jehovah first".. don't get an education - "put jehovah first".. don't take that emt certification course that meets on tue and thursday for 6 weeks - "put jehovah first".. don't get a real career, be a janitor and "put jehovah first".. don't spend time with your "worldly" parents on the weekends, instead abandon them and fill your time up with field service and meetings and "put jehovah first".. .
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carpediem
Put Jehovah first means obey everything the org says because they, and only they are Jehovah's mouth piece.
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No natural affection? Jehovahs Witnesses fulfill this scripture
by jambon1 inanyone who can turn their back on their flesh & blood sons and daughters, mothers and fathers fulfill this prophecy perfectly.. people who do this are utterly unloving & cruel.
it has lead thousands of people to feel issolated, alone & in many cases suicidal.
how can such a thing originate with god?.
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carpediem
alanv - I totally agree with you.
When I was in it was like a spell had been cast on me. I would have shunned my kids, possibly let them die rather than allow a blood transfusion and many other things alien to those on the outside of this cult. I would stood by it all and felt totally justified that I was serving Jehovah God. It is only now, on the outside with a mind clear of the constant crap it was being fed, that I can see just how wrong and faulty that reasoning is.
Sadly many others will get caught up in it, and also in other religions equally if not more destructive.
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carpediem
In the org - plastic smiles and hugs from those who really hate you.
Never seeing hubby because he is a wt slave
Watching young children get baptised, wondering if one day they will be shunned by those who dunked them as babes
Just seeing the cover of a wt, awake, or any jw literature, and having the urge to rip it to shreds
seeing my husband go out of the house in his suit, with his bible under his arm
The memorial - watching bread and wine go round the room and nobody have any. How stupid is that! I mean, durr, doesnt that tell
them something is drastically wrong with their organisation.
Generally Chewing gum. More precisely, people who are constantly chewing away at it no matter what they are doing. It is really irritating trying to have a conversation with someone chewing on gum.
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Merry Christmas & A Happy New Year - Don't Let This Die!
by finallysomepride in.
merry christmas & a happy new year to all of us apostates & everyone else who may venture onto this site.
don't let this topic die, let's make it the longest topic on site, keep on posting.. .
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carpediem
OMG how sad is that when you cant watch Muppets Christmas Carol iMarx. I cant wait to go to the cinema this year and watch every film that is Christmassy.
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Merry Christmas & A Happy New Year - Don't Let This Die!
by finallysomepride in.
merry christmas & a happy new year to all of us apostates & everyone else who may venture onto this site.
don't let this topic die, let's make it the longest topic on site, keep on posting.. .
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carpediem
Happy Christmas!!
Feliz Navidad!!
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How are you faders doing?
by pat1060 injust wondering how all you slow faders are doing.i know this subject is discussed many times,but personally i wish it was more.we should post every once in a while just to say how we are doing,we need to encourage each other.as for me,it is still going very slow.right now i'm looking into the history that is being covered up.i have learned so much just by reading the older threads.it is very painful for me because this was the truth.and to be finding out so much crap that 99% of jw don't even know,it just is unbelievable.i have cut my field service down,and miss more meetings then i ever did.i'm hoping the sister that is in my face all the time,trying to help me,will forget about me soon......so how are you doing?.
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carpediem
Well my fade was rather rapid. Didnt mean it to be but once I stopped going to meetings I just couldnt face going back. Even after all these months I still get texts, cards, emails and elder visits. I never really wanted to df or da - just wanted to fade into none existence, but now I am getting on my feet on the outside, it is coming to the time when I need to DA myself. Im not sure when I will do it, but it wont be long. I need to close that chapter and move on. Well actually, I already have moved on, but its getting to the time when I need to say this out loud.