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  Do YOU donate blood?

  by Quillsky in

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  2. medical

  if you do, what are your motivations?.

  if you don't, why not?.

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  Scary stuff.... I've just realized that I could be disfellowshipped at any time

  by Quillsky in

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  2. beliefs

  i like to think that i have escaped the cult completely, since i, and members of my close family, faded away years ago.

  however, i have recently realized that my "elder" uncle, my father's older brother, could technically have me disfellowshipped, such as if he figures out that i post on an "apostate" message board (i've tried to direct my cousin here), or sees me smoking in a restaurant in the small town we all live in, or hears from my father that my boyfriend and i have been away for a weekend together.. so i've recently discovered this fear.

  although i believe i'm "out" i'm still trapped in a way.

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  Cognitive Dissonance

  by Quillsky in

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  2. friends

  the term cognitive dissonance is thrown around often on this forum, and rightly so, imo.

  it has been discussed before and will be discussed going forward, but another thread made me realize that perhaps now is a good time to re-open the discussion.. in brief, cognitive dissonance is how our minds work to close the gap between our attitudes and what we believe to be true, and what we do and experience to be true.

  our minds want to close that gap, or reduce the dissonance.. so if what we believe doesn't match with what we're doing, we shift our minds to close the gap.

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  Non-practising homosexual JW's

  by Quillsky in

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  as i understand it, being gay is not a sin in the organization, only homosexual acts are sins.

  i've never read anywhere that gay jw people are encouraged to "fix" their gayness and marry.. i've certainly known a fair number of confirmed bachelor types who live exemplary lives in the witness sense - one life-long bethelite i knew springs to mind - but are clearly (to me anyway) gay.

  they've all been in the closet though.. i wonder if any jw has ever been out of the closet, but not disfellowshipped since they don't have sex?

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  Volunteering

  by Quillsky in

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  2. friends

  now that you, as a former jw, have a few evenings and some weekend time freed up, and "charity" is no longer a dirty word, ........ do you do any kind of volunteer work?.

  i'm seriously thinking about it..

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  I Wish People Would Stop Calling It The Truth

  by Quillsky in

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  2. friends

  why do you call it "the truth"?

  even after you leave??.

  it's wrong on so many levels.

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  Ever Heard Of Someone Being Disfellowshipped For Talking To A DFed Person?

  by Quillsky in

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  2. beliefs

  i haven't.. i propose that a shift, a change, begins here, spearheaded by those who are still "in".

  what's the worst thing the organization could do to you?.

  show some love to the next vulnerable disfellowshipped person you meet and speak to them, show them some humanity, some understanding.. if you're disfellowshipped yourself write an email today to someone you love who is not "permitted" to speak to you.. report back on here if it makes some kind of difference..

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  Why Are They Called Privileges?

  by Quillsky in

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  2. friends

  seems like work to me....... doing the microphones, manning the magazine counter, spending countless (sorry, counted) hours every month knocking on doors.. privileges?.

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  The Barbara Anderson Appreciation Thread

  by Quillsky in

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  2. friends

  there are many newcomers who may see references on this website to barbara anderson but not understand the complete awesomeness of what she has done, and continues to do, in the pursuit of truth.. for those who don't know, a brief summary: barbara and her husband joe spent most of their lifetime being uber-witnesses, bringing 80 or so people into the organization and ending up at brooklyn bethel.

  barbara landed up in the sacred heart of bethel, the writing department, and wrote awake!

  articles.

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  The sexual "morality" thing

  by Quillsky in

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  2. friends

  my mother got involved with jehovah's witnesses in the 1960s/70s because mainly i think she didn't believe in the sexual "morality" or "immorality" of that era.

  i believe she didn't see many other religions speaking out against sex before marriage and abortion.. and so she drew relatives and her own children down into the trap, the morass, the molasses, of anti blood transfusion and end-of-the-world clap-trap thanks to her well-believing sexual morality.. anybody else with family trapped because of the "morality" of jehovah's witnesses?.

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