my bf and i are thinking on getting married.
i posted a foum early this week on whether or not i should get baptized.
i decided not to.. now even though he says he "doesn't care" he got upset last night when i mentioned the subject and how confused i was.
He is fully aware of what he should or shouldn't be doing as a JW and dating a girl in the world is a no no. The only credability he can get back is by getting you baptised. That is his evil plan. Then to try and shift the blame onto you (to use an old JW metaphor)?
If he had any sincerity he would be apologising to you, not putting the blame onto you.
This must be very hard for you.
mmxiv
my bf and i are thinking on getting married.
i posted a foum early this week on whether or not i should get baptized.
i decided not to.. now even though he says he "doesn't care" he got upset last night when i mentioned the subject and how confused i was.
justbreathe825,
The JW's use all means of control. Fear and guilt are used all the time by the WTS and the people in it. Sadly on ocassion some like jamiebowers have also been subjected to far more such as threats to their life and physical abuse and had to take drastic action just to be here today to tell the tale. That tends to be extreme, but not uncommon.
Getting back to the guilt. It doesn't stop. Many JW's suffer depression or other similar problems due to not being able to live up what you are told to. They are told it is due to their lack of faith in the new system rather than something medical. You are made to feel guilty for not going to every meeting, going on field service enough, not getting enough bible studies, not spending enough time studying all the WTS publications. It isn't long before you feel guilty for not being happy??!! You will also be guilted into feeling selfish - that it is your fault.
JW relationships often involve a lot of guilt as people simply adopt the WTS techniques. They can also lack real honesty as there are so many things you are not allowed to say or do. Living a double life or justifying what you do is almost a given. Your bf is clearly being heavily controlled by his parents as well as the WTS. Not a good place to be. He will have to do a lot to sort himself out but the first step is wanting to.
The fact you can correctly recognise the source for feeling guilty is a great step and being able to stand up to it.
I hope your chat goes well. You are certainly approaching this in a mature way.
mmxiv
i've been watching my alcohol intake for dietary reasons.
i've been limiting my consumption to a small half glass of vodka, or a shot or two of bourbon.
alcohol just doesn't do well with the gains i want to make working out.
I worked for a media company. It was very plush, private offices with sofa & rug. Under the desk would be a mini fridge *** each *** always rammed with beers / wine. You could start the evening off with a few at your desk, wander down to the on site bar, and if you missed all of that, on a Friday they came round with a drinks trolley to start the weekend off definitely ok in that industry
mmxiv
it doesn't seem like it.
why bother reprinting?.
if it was mutual
i've been watching my alcohol intake for dietary reasons.
i've been limiting my consumption to a small half glass of vodka, or a shot or two of bourbon.
alcohol just doesn't do well with the gains i want to make working out.
I did beer tasting as job (very very briefly) - would drink four beers, fill in a survey, get paid. They seemed to be ok with it
mmxiv
a poster mentioned that wt may be using an outside source to join discussion boards such as this one in order to track down copyright infringements.. it that is true - it is certainly plausible and feasible - wouldn't that be something?.
the great and lofty watch tower, having to rely on elements of satan's sytemtm to protect its interests!.
imagine!.
Oh here's a theory...
In IT virus world don't the geeks who excel in all kind of nastiness get a job offer from Microsoft?
Maybe the most devious, apostate minded ones here will get offered a special lucrative position as protectors of the WTS on the internet??? Nah thinking about it, I guess debator accepted that role and wasn't really up to it.
mmxiv
to all active and former witnesses (elders especially), i have a question.. .
she indicated that she wanted to include her witness friends as well.
however, given the fact that we are in the month of october and costume parties in this month are associated with halloween, she did not know how to throw a costume party without making it look like a halloween party.
JW's who turn up will leave.
It's just the wrong season - perhaps wait till late December and have a white bearded costume party? or a Lapland theme?
mmxiv
a poster mentioned that wt may be using an outside source to join discussion boards such as this one in order to track down copyright infringements.. it that is true - it is certainly plausible and feasible - wouldn't that be something?.
the great and lofty watch tower, having to rely on elements of satan's sytemtm to protect its interests!.
imagine!.
They have significant financial resources. They outsource legal matters when necessary. Their only issue is do they trust the outside source. They have great control over their volunteers.
mmxiv
so today was my first sunday meeting that i didn't go with my wife.
as an update she has decided not to move out right now...because she doesn't have anywhere to go.
but she is giving me the silent treatment.
Dan,
I faded. That meant going to plenty of meetings knowing it was a load of bunkem. You've already sat through plenty in that situation yourself. You're doing this for your family - that's important sh1t. That's no.1
Now if you come back here and say..."well guys, it was a really great meeting and they're not so bad and wonder if a few of you would like to come too next time" then you'll see flack incarnate.
Make sure there are a few cold ones in the fridge, and on the way there and back in the car there are some fun things to say to your kiddo.
mmxiv
rear cover of a certain new book that the average dub will never see (just wants to make you gag, doesn't it?).
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the contribution box managed to squeeze it's way in too - to the right of the door $$$
mmxiv
