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  How Worldly Are You - A World Geography Quiz

  by snowbird in

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  http://encarta.msn.com/encnet/departments/education_1/?page=quiz23&quizid=23.

  10 on the first try.. sylvia.

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  9/10... missed the last one.

  I knew it was in Africa, just wasn't sure which country.

  Ditto - I love geography - it's like the only category I do ok in on the JWD quiz.
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  Did you ever really believe that god wanted you to shun people?

  by jambon1 in

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  i think at one point i did.

  looking back i can't see why i thought like that.

  i always had doubts about it but you would hear the old 'gods loving dicipline' line.

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  I remember being young and falling for the reasoning, "They left us" -- I didn't equate it with God at that point, but that those people didn't want us to talk to them. It wasn't until I was MUCH older and on my way out that I finally saw the other side of shunning and considered what was going on for those being shunned and the reality of the "loving discipline" that was going on.
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  Shunning & JWs on Miami Ink TV Show

  by doinmypart in

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  miami ink is a show about tattooing, it airs on u.s. cable channel tlc.

  the show highlights the work of the tattoo artists and tells the background of why a person gets a particular tattoo.. on last week's show a young lady wanted what she referred to as a "conscience" tattoo.

  when i heard "conscience" my ears perked up.

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  Cool link Loosie.

  I didn't see that epsiode, but seen the show a few times - I'll have to see if I can catch it in a re-run.
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  Looking for old friends...not that they're old...or friends!

  by Badger in

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  hey!.

  i used to post here as aztec.

  i am borrowing my husband's account.

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  Hey ya Azzie!

  I was just thinking about all the "old timers" not to long ago and was wondering how you and Badger were doing (please poke him in the ribs for me), so glad to hear you're all fine and dandy.

  It's always so cool to see who's still floating around in that internet ether.
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  getting over it - how long does that take?

  by Switch in

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  in december i started reading things and thinking with an open mind (for the first time in my life).

  i'm still discovering things daily that irritate me about the wts.

  i've been to about half a dozen meetings since march.

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  Of course everyone is different.

  For myself - I'd say it took 3-6 months, where like you I felt I had to tear into every shred of information about the JW's to find out just how wrong they were. After a while I got less and less shocked. Especially when I came to the realization that these people were not perfect or directed by god - so it's no wonder they made all the human mistakes every other organization was made.

  I think you hit the nail on the head tho with this:

  I expect it'll probably lessen if I stop reading WT material but I seem to still need to prove things to myself so the absurd curiousity continues.

  I think it also largely depends on how old you are when you leave, how long you were associated with them, and how deeply you believed it all.

  For me - I was born in, but my whole life it just didn't seem right to me, I always had doubts. So when things started unfolding it was more like pieces coming together rather than my world falling apart. (Which is not to say things weren't shaken up in my life.)

  However, when I left I was still in my early 20's. I was going to college - I was ready for my world view to be shaken up anyway. I think it was a good time for me to leave and I was in a good place to explore other options.

  I would say explore when you have a curiousity about something - but try not to dwell. The sooner you let it go, the faster you can rebuild. And hopefully your curiousity will turn to things non-jw related eventually.

  Good luck to you - don't ever feel like there is a time limit on this kind of thing. There isn't. There is no right way to do it. And don't feel like you'll ever be totally over it. There are still certain things that happen in my life where I just can't escape that I was raised a JW...but the time it takes for me to process that is less and less before I can just shrug my shoulders and carry on.
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  Were YOU Personally Afraid of The "Demons"???

  by minimus in

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  did you think you might "get contacted" somehow by those powerful demons?

  did you avoid anything the society said was associated with demonism?.

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  lmao @ ninja
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  What really is a Soul Mate? --- Is it possible Yes or No?

  by Hope4Others in

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  soul mate.

  n. one of two persons compatible with each other in disposition, point of view, or sensitivity.

  there seems to be a variety of defintions on the net so what does "soul mate" mean?.

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  Dork -- well said!
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  I joined Weight Watchers today!

  by Princess Daisy Boo in

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  i am a bit of a yo yo dieter - i have been dieting ever since i was a teenager, and my role model for this was my mom of course.

  in fact one of my very early memories of going shopping with mom and her buying a diet shake mix.

  well... i have a little girl who is almost three and i have been thinking about things and i really need to break this cycle of crash diets, losing 5 kgs and picking up 10 once i have lost motivation.

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  Keep up the good work. I admire your reason for doing things the sensible way this time.

  Weight Watchers was the only diet I was ever on that didn't feel like a diet. Good luck to you!
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  My nephew is getting baptized

  by coolhandluke in

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  if you got to choose who your children would be, i'd choose luca.

  he is all the things that i'd like to be myself.

  there is no human who holds more weight for me than him.

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  But what if you'd never left? Then you'd always think of him as your evil uncle who just doesn't get it and can't be supportive?

  I mean I know we all hope everyone of our loved ones wakes up and chooses to leave, but what if they don't...what then? I guess I'd rather have a strained relationship than no relationship with my family...but to each their own, which is why we each deal with our circumstances as they come. Which is why there is no right way to leave the JW's just as there is no right way to handle/deal with your family who stays in. I think we're all just trying to do the best we can.
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  What really is a Soul Mate? --- Is it possible Yes or No?

  by Hope4Others in

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  soul mate.

  n. one of two persons compatible with each other in disposition, point of view, or sensitivity.

  there seems to be a variety of defintions on the net so what does "soul mate" mean?.

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  I don't care for the term because I think it lends itself to sounding exclusive as in there is only one, a mate that you will be with for all time. I have met a lot of people I really bonded with, who I connected with almost instantly (and hell sometimes over time) on a very deep level that was very positive.

  I also dislike that the term generally refers to only those of the opposite sex, and that it's tied to purely romantic love.

  So I guess yes, I do believe there are people out there that we get on a deeper level, but I don't think there is just one, and I don't think it's just about romance.