Do JWs believe they will be the only people saved at the "end"?

by LaurenM in

the answer posted on jw.org: "no.

many millions who lived in centuries past and who weren’t jehovah’s witnesses will have an opportunity for salvation.

additionally, many now living may yet begin to serve god, and they too will gain salvation.

LaurenM

The answer posted on JW.org: "No. Many millions who lived in centuries past and who weren’t Jehovah’s Witnesses will have an opportunity for salvation. Additionally, many now living may yet begin to serve God, and they too will gain salvation. In any case, it’s not our job to judge who will or won’t be saved. That assignment rests squarely in Jesus’ hands."

This seems to indicate that if you "serve God" (any God??) you will be saved, but it's not up to us to decide...so my question is, why is it that if you tell the elders you no longer want to be a JW, you get DF'd (or DA'd)??? Even if I said that I still wanted to serve God and would just be going to another church so as to "not forsake the gathering together" I'd be DF'd right??..I'm a born in JW, but I'm confused. I've never got a clear answer to this question and its one of the main reasons why I'm fading.

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Single Sisters Over A Certain Age Group Getting A Bad Rap

by HiddlesWife in

i'm new here; one of my relatives was a member on this forum a few years ago and told me about it.

anyways, as a sister who has been in the org since childhood and now in her late 40's (plus as a woman of color), i have noticed that a number of brothers have an ageist attitude.

they are very accepting of young women under 26 and rejecting women over that age, particularly those in their 30's and over.. is this an unspoken mindset from wthq (specifically from bethel), or is it that quite a number of males (sorry, i'm not sexist here) have this type of mentality?

LaurenM

I think the problem is that in the JW world, a female is considered "successful" and happy only if she gets married. She is considered unhappy and miserable and pitied if she is single. This is absolutely ridiculous. Happiness does not depend on ones marital status. Happiness comes from within. Being with someone else can bring you happiness or sadness depending on ones state of mind. That's why so many JW marriages are miserable.

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Finally "they" have reinstated me! that was easy!!!

by Prometheus in

it was rather quick one.

in just few months and after attending all of their meetings and giving them a nice show, i'm back to the org!!!

(what a relief-sarcastic laugh) .

LaurenM

@ttdtt Because he said, "Most of Jw's children, and that includes elder's children as well, are seeking for higher education."

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Finally "they" have reinstated me! that was easy!!!

by Prometheus in

it was rather quick one.

in just few months and after attending all of their meetings and giving them a nice show, i'm back to the org!!!

(what a relief-sarcastic laugh) .

LaurenM

Why?? For family?...Also, it makes me sad that they're promoting college now. I turned down a full scholarship because of them. And that was only three years ago! The stupid doctrine changes makes me sick!!

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How do you deal with depression?

by BlackWolf in

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i'm currently going through a bout of depression and my eating disorder has gotten worse.

ever since my parents actually told me that they are going to kick me out when i turn 18 i've felt kind of hopeless about my life.

my parents won't take me to the doctor because the psychiatrists won't have my "best interests" aka jw crap in mind, because really that's the root of all my problems.. i'm wondering if any of you guys have any advice with dealing with depression?

LaurenM

I struggle with depression too..but once you get out on your own, start making new friends & discovering yourself it gets a lot better :)

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Being a Socially Inept ex-JW

by LaurenM in

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so i'm absolutely clueless concerning relationships.

i had barely any friends at all growing up a jw kid & absolutely no interaction with "worldly" people or any guys whatsoever.

i have had a relationship of sorts with a guy for 4.5 months now, but i'm so clueless!

LaurenM

Thanks everyone for your input! Informative and encouraging like always!! And yes, I was going through a rough patch, but am doing better. I think this transition is certainly a difficult journey, but not an impossible one, especially with forums like these :)

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Being a Socially Inept ex-JW

by LaurenM in

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so i'm absolutely clueless concerning relationships.

i had barely any friends at all growing up a jw kid & absolutely no interaction with "worldly" people or any guys whatsoever.

i have had a relationship of sorts with a guy for 4.5 months now, but i'm so clueless!

LaurenM

So I'm absolutely clueless concerning relationships. I had barely any friends at all growing up a JW kid & absolutely NO interaction with "worldly" people or any guys whatsoever.

I have had a relationship of sorts with a guy for 4.5 months now, but I'm so clueless! Am I calling him too much or too little? Am I being too clingy or too distant? How do relationships work? How do relationships work? How do people stay together?

I have this fear that this will end because that's what I've always been told: "worldly guys will use you and loose you" so I keep almost breaking up with him, just to speed it along..I might still do it.

It makes me incredibly depressed, but I think I'm just better off alone. It is WAY too stressful trying to figure out how to interact normally with other people--"worldly" people--especially romantically, when you are a socially awkward child-like idiot...has anyone else suffered from being socially isolated as a JW?

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The Way JW Females Act

by LaurenM in

the more i interact with non-jw men and women the more i notice that i still behave like a jw woman.

when i interact with people (men especially) i find myself being super submissive and docile.

acting like i don't have a brain and can't make decisions on my own.

LaurenM

Thanks everyone for your imput!! Very insightful as always.

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So Thankful

by BeautifulMind in

i was just sitting here on this beautiful saturday afternoon thinking about how thankful i am that i left the jws.

do i wish i had woke up and left sooner, sure.

but i'm definitely happy that i'm out period, and for so many reasons but i just will share a few.

LaurenM

I love this! Bravo. And you're lucky to have a husband too. It's scary getting out of a cult by yourself. But definitely worth it.

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The Way JW Females Act

by LaurenM in

the more i interact with non-jw men and women the more i notice that i still behave like a jw woman.

when i interact with people (men especially) i find myself being super submissive and docile.

acting like i don't have a brain and can't make decisions on my own.

LaurenM

The more I interact with non-JW men and women the more I notice that I still behave like a JW woman. When I interact with people (men especially) I find myself being super submissive and docile. Acting like I don't have a brain and can't make decisions on my own. Giving so much up just to please them. Like, I do everything to please them without thinking about whether it makes ME happy. But that's the way we've always been taught over and over: Women must be submissive to the man taking the lead. But I feel like this is a bit backwards & excessive in this day and age. Do any other exJW woman find themselves acting this way? How did you learn to stand up for yourself and not always bend to what others tell you to do? I think I've become an easy target for people looking to take advantage of others.

LaurenM

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