Hi Agent86,
Thanks for sharing your story. I'm not at all surprised by how you've been treated by the congregation and the elders. Just put away the guilt they've loaded onto you all your life, and be happy that you're now free. The experience might have made you feel like you need to distance yourself from your kids, or put up a barrier. Don't give in to this! They've constantly harrassed you, you've done nothing wrong! Take back your life!
The Elders are nothing more than jumped-up little Napoleons who relish their own self-importance and power.
Wishing you a happy family life!
^Don't think Boyzone realized you're a chick!