Welcome!
Congratulations on being strong enough to follow your own conscience! I'm not a jw but have some idea (less than many here!) of how hard it is.
Be patient with your wife, and I devoutly hope the situation improves over time.
Retro.
for a long while i have been coming to this site on a daily basis and i think it is time to introduce myself.
here we go: my parents learned the truth when i was 4 and i don't have childhood memories of how life was before they converted.
i was a model jw child, although quite mischievous at school.
Welcome!
Congratulations on being strong enough to follow your own conscience! I'm not a jw but have some idea (less than many here!) of how hard it is.
Be patient with your wife, and I devoutly hope the situation improves over time.
Retro.
i'll start off.. i don't believe anything is divine about bible writings.
i believe there may be some marginal history although not much.
i think alot of folk tales and regional myths are contained in the old testament.
As Quentin said:
Is the Bible inspired and inerrant? No. Can you read the Bible and be inspired by it's contents? Yes.
The Bible contains a lot of good stuff, but also is clearly influenced by customs and beliefs of the time and also agendas. Additionally it contradicts itself all over the place.
I trust my own conscience more than any particular interpretation of Bible "truths".
i posted this in another thread, and when i saw how much detail i had written i decided it deserved its own thread.. my study ended in december in this manner.. the two guys came and we slogged through the usual questions i have and the non answers i would usually get.
discussions that went off on tangents not relevent to my question and would sometimes circle back around, but still with no answer.. on this particular day they wre ganging up on me about attending meetings and my progress not going forward unless i did that.
i asked the bullying one how he would know about my spiritual progress and what qualifications he had to make that assesment, since i was not obligated to report to him on that matter.
The bullying resonated with me. Yet the lady who did it was otherwise so pleasant, it didn't seem to be her nature. Is it trained, or just that they are so sure they are right?
My jw ladies also called off the study, although they expressed regret, and still come aound occaisionally. My "failure to progress" was not attending KH meetings or conventions and not using the name "Jehovah".
the "was it designed" articles in awake usually annoy the hell out of me, but the one in the march issue (p25) is a real gem and i can't wait to discuss it with my jw ladies.. the musta-been-designed is the ovipostor of the wood-boring wasp.
so i can ask, if it's so evidently ( .
and that would include the wasp familiy pompilidae, right?
The "Was IT Designed" articles in Awake usually annoy the hell out of me, but the one in the March issue (p25) is a real gem and I can't wait to discuss it with my jw ladies.
The musta-been-designed is the ovipostor of the wood-boring wasp. So I can ask, if it's so evidently ( ) designed, all wasps and their ovipostors must have been designed?
And that would include the wasp familiy Pompilidae, right? The wasps that paralyse spiders, inter them alive, lay an egg in or on them (with the designed ovipostor), so that the larva can eat the living spider? What did the spiders do to upset Jehovah so much?
If "after the fall" is attempted, then I can say "so they did evolve, right? If Satan gets a mention, I can ask where in the Bible does Satan create anything?
And then, as always when I'm prepared, I finish off by asking "you will find out for me, won't you?"
One straw at a time.
Retro
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is forgiveness overrated?.
if i'm being completely honest with myself, there is a short list of folks who i haven't forgiven.
As a non-jw who has a lot of issues with family, thank you all very much; this thread has clarified my thinking.
On sin and not-sin, I'm still uncertain. But for me, forgiveness comes with understanding where the person-who-needs-to-be-forgiven is coming from. This certainly does not mean instant return of trust (wish it could! )
It can also mean understanding what I did to contribute, or allow it to happen. And forgiving myself, which is the hardest of all.
To bring things back to something relevant to the forum, I'd also say that my fixation with keeping contact with my jw SIL had a lot to do with avoiding these painful areas. And I can see how attractive the wt could look to someone lonely and trying for a new start without doing the hard work of forgiveness.
Retro
the topic of earthquakes marking the "last days" was brought up with interactions i have had with a few different witnesses.
can someone please explain the exact significance of earthquakes that jw's have?!
can you please also include any links to actual facts that contradict their views of earthquakes.
Hi SatoriCE,
I used the information on jwfacts to tell my jw ladies that there hadn't been an increase in earthquakes in the last 100 years. They did think otherwise, because the wt said so many times, and then did a deliberately obscure retraction (it's all in jwfacts).
And yes, in 2009 they make a big deal about eathquakes, but just don't specifically say that they are increasing. Sneaky!
The jw ladies were quite happy with the wt's suggestion that earthquakes caused more grief these days because of higher populations affected, and this was the part of the "compound sign".
Retro
we say things we do not believe.
we think things we do not say.
we wear honesty as a neck tie.
We are the Watchtower Society of Secrets
We send children to the doors of strangers
We protect our own who abuse them
last week, i told you i was going to tell my daughter that i was leaving the truth this weekend and you all gave me sound advice.
but, i cannot keep a secret this heavy from the person i love most on this earth, my only daughter, who is beautiful inside and out.. well, i have always had an open and honest relationship with my daughter, and i guess it paid off.
this weekend i visited my daughter (who lives in another state) and i told her i was leaving "the truth.
What a wonderful mother you must have been! your close communication with your daughter is inspiring!
Retro
Hi Aussie,
I understand you are very worried, and seem to remember that you don't have a lot of contact with your son(have I got that right?).
Any chance you can get a young ex-jw to make friends with him?
or possibly the "ethics" of doing field service to convert others, not because he believes, but to get married, might worry him a tad?
Retro
i dont get it ... one minute we're all mooching along happily and then we get a big wave of insulting horrible behaviour....?.
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loz x.
Genetic defect, I think