this is my opinion, i don't have official quotes or official instructions to back this up.
what i have is real life experience of having been an elder that was involved in investigating an allegation of child abuse, why we didn't report, why we didn't encourage the parents to report.. its simple really, the main reason elders don't report is concern that they may lose their position in the congregation.
if you in any way "run ahead" of the society, you will be perceived as proud and arrogant and will be deleted!
Only today one of our friends who is an exJW child abuse victim told us she is being shunned by lifelong friends because they do not believe that she was molested by a brother in the Kingdom Hall and the elders knew and didn't do anything about it.
When you are in, you think you are in a "spiritual paradise" and you naturally reject anything and anyone that spoils that view.
i thought i would share this fb message from someone who considers himself to be a "true" friend of mine.
after learning from my former husband tha i am disfellowshipped, he writes the following: .
fb true friend: "xxxxx with tears in my eyes i will be deleting you but i want you as my sister again.
When I was in my best friend got df'd. We went out to dinner and a movie together right before the announcement and she told me. I didn't see her or talk to her until she got reinstated. That was what I thought was the right thing to do for her "eternal salvation.' I supported the shunning while I was in and felt it was an act of unselfish love.
The part about this facebook conversation that I find so offensive is that the name of Jehovah and Satan is not spelled out. This is so trashing and immature. This is supposed to make you think. It is demeaning and degrading.
I am sorry the elders got their hooks into you. Hope we can help in some small way, friend.
hope all if you are well.
just a couple if updates i don't post much, but i constantly read.
i am now disfellowshipped and i am seperated from my wife and rebuilding from the bottom.
I have been in sales all my life and I certainly learned a lot about selling from the auditorium of the Kingdom Hall. Sales can be a numbers game, the more people you contact, the more chances to sell.
i'm starting to pack.
gotta get out of here by the end of the month.
i'll loose the internet.. it's stange to pop in and pop out of the lives of others' like this.
Sorry to hear your husband got injured and you are leaving us for a while. Check back when you can.
man oh man did we ever get a bad one last night.
it was unreal!!
i was sitting out on the front porch and it got really dark, clouds swirling but not much else.
Ooh, so sorry you have to clean this us now. Glad no one was hurt.
in a conversation with my mum she said, "son the friends love you and care about you so much.
they would die for you.
that's something you don't find in the world.
I think your mother is in for a surprise. When the time of real need arises, few witnesses help another out of their need. Oh they say they will, but it never really happens. We found this out when our elderly mother went into the nursing home.
just curious as to who on here still regularly attends meetings and goes out in service?
as i sit at the district convention i can't help but think who else out in the crowd is just like me.
doesn't believe what they hear, but are still here..
I quit cold turkey December 2010. Love my new life. Jw's shun me, but my daughter still lets me come see her as long as I don't bash the Society.
I look back now and realize now there were a lot of witnesses that were not whole souled. Different ones would make little comments that shocked me at the time, but make sense to me now.
Look for those who have funny looks on there faces or look miserable. You can hang out with these people, maybe?
jehovah's witness mother ends relationship with atheist son.source http://lefthemispheres.blogspot.ca/2012/06/letter-jehovahs-witness-mother-ends.htmlhttp://davetrash.wordpress.com/2012/06/18/the-letter/.
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I am heartbroken for the both of you. Such a waste of precious time and a precious mother and son relationship. She feels she has to do this in order for you to come back into the fold and get everlasting life. She truly believes this is an act of ultimate love. She thinks she will call you to your senses.
I am so sorry. This must be incredibly painful. She really does love you but she is just brainwashed by the Watchtower Society. Let's hope she awakens before too much time goes by.
hi, i've been lurking on this site for quite a while after recently having doubts about the "truth".
i've read a lot of posts about problems with the doctrines, mind control, the beliefs, brainwashing that jehovah's witnesses and their literature, as well as their history.
now only being a sixteen year old born in who isn't baptized or unbaptized, i've come to find all this information incredibly overwhelming.
You are a smart young person and I am just sure you are going to make it just fine. I am thrilled to hear that a young one has awakened and is not going to have to spend a life serving a publishing house. Good for you. We are here for you, our new friend.
i am fairly new to learning the truth with jehovah's witnesses.
we have been having 2 home bible studies a week for over 4 months now and we started going to the kingdom hall 3+ months now.
i am enjoying my studies and the brothers and sisters are wonderful .
Would you by a new car or a new appliance without seeing what others have to say bout it?
Dont just study what Jehovah's witnesses say, read what others who are not Jehovah's witnesses have to say.
www.jwfacts.com as mentioned is where you should start.
