I went through an issue with a judicial committee that got me and my wife publicily reproved. It was total BS. My dad was presiding overseer at the time and told me that they'll do the public reproof when they think a DF won't stand up to appeal. That incident ended my first marraige, which probably wasn't a bad thing since she had already had a couple affairs and I was just hanging on because of my daughter.
Three years later I met and married my current wife (about 20 years now) and my JW family got her hooked and she dragged me back in just trying to be part of the family. Six months later she gets babtized and the "lovey-dovey" treatment from the bros and sisters turns into the typical "always under scrutiny" and "don't mess up or you'll get DF'd". That lasted about two years when the elders took us in the back room to make an unfounded accusation which they couldn't identify their source. That meeting last 7 minutes. Before they could even pray about it, I told them their information was false, and if our accuser wouldn't face us, the discussion was over. My dad (who was an elder) told me later that I really upset them because people in the congregation never pushed back like that. One of those elders stepped down after that. My wife was more than ready to get out with me.
That's when I got on line, discovered this website and learned about Ray Franz' book "Crisis of Conceince". After reading about Ray's story, I knew I was done with the JW's and expanded my research. Now, when I read the bible without all the "blinders" and boundries, it's far more enjoyable and makes much more sense.
