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  A piece of me reaching out...

  by Mimilly in

  1. watchtower
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  i have been laying on my bed for awhile now, trying very hard to just stay still.

  today, i left this board for a break.

  while typing it out, there was a steak knife at my side (from cleaning guck out of the mouse), but it beckoned me.

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  LyinEyes

  ((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((MIM))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))

  I emailed ya , please reply when you feel up to it.

  Love ya , Dede
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  What's your favorite kitchen..........

  by scootergirl in

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  2. friends

  okay, okay........quiet the moans down!

  this is a fluff topic, but i need fluff right about now!

  lol .

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  My favorite kitchen accessory or tool would have to be............ MOTIVATION.

  Without that one vital ingredient, I can not use the can opener; turn on the stove;operate the microwave; or even buy food to put in the fridge.

  When I cook , I usually love to cook, but there are times I dont want to see the kitchen. We have a family of five so the kitchen is the hub of activity.

  I don't have a diswasher, and never have liked the idea of them very much. Usually I enjoy doing things the old fashioned way, the never ending sink full of dishes waiting to be washed is such a challenge to me. Some days I actually am master over my kitchen, most of the time it controls itself.
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  Bipolar JWs And Their Care

  by Victor_E in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  when nobody around you seems to measure up, its time to check your yardstick.

  bill lemley

  sj is a middle aged jw woman who used to be married to a non-believer.

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  Farkel , what you said was very profound. Of course I laughed at it,,,,,,,it is so funny but true. I have many ups and downs ,as did my mother, and I swear towards the end of my borgdoom, I was pretty much on the downward side of the depression that had no end. It was a black hole and they (JW) wanted me there. Maybe they wanted me there to control me, to suck the spirit out of me, to be cruel, who knows . Maybe if they said well, poor Dede is depressed again, that is why she only gets 10 hrs in service, misses meetings, and doesnt want to work with others in the field ministry. The JW will not tolerate any willfull rebellion , so if you seem to be one of those who causes them grief, they want to have an explanation for your attitude, your lack of will power, you lack of spiritual motivation,,,,,,,,,,, DEPRESSION.. They make you think you are crazy and soon you begin to think you are. I will be the first to be honest and open about my mental problems,,,,,, after all we all have them , especially ex jw's, trying to fit into a world they have never been any part of. But I swear I am so much better since I left the borg,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,, not near the deep dark hole......... I get my good ol ups and downs. At least I am not depressed all the time!!!!!!!!!!LOL Sorry , I had to laugh ,, itis the way I cope with how I feel, I have to laugh and be allowed to laugh at myself.
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  Friends, may I have your hugs?

  by sunshineToo in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  i'm getting married on oct.13.

  i only have less than two months to get ready for the wedding, and i didn't have anything ready last week.

  as you may know i am da'd.

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  My little girl was looking at my wedding pictures the other day and asked why I looked so sad. My mom and dad were getting a divorce, they had just been d/f , they each had their lovers with them at my wedding , after I begged them not too. It was horrible.

  I wish my hubby and I would have ran away from everyone that day and had our own private wedding. My parents ruined my happy day,,,,but it wasnt all bad, but it could have been alot better. I was so mad at them , and hurt ,that in all my pictures my eyes were huge with tears in them.

  The reason I am saying this is,,,,,,, you and your future hubby,,,,have this one chance at a special day all your own,, dont' let anyone take it away from you. I wish I would have stood up to my parents and thrown them out. But I was just barely 18 and didnt know what to do. I still felt in their control.

  I just D/A myself a week or so ago, after being a JW my whole life. My mom is gone , and my dad has all these years , acted like I barely exsisted. When I decided to d/a myself ,I knew this would give him a good reason to explain to everyone why he doesnt have anything to do with me. That is fine , I am finished with him. I have been like dead in his eyes for years. I tried hard to share my life with him and wanted him to share my children's lives too. I swear , I did nothing, to make him treat me like this. My story is too complicated to tell right now, but I held on for years trying to please that man, and make him care , to change, to wait for his calls. I wasted too much time on wishing he loved me like I loved him. So now I want to be dead in his eyes, I really hope I don't see him again. I havent told him I am d/a because I am looking forward to seeing how long it will be before he finds out. It will make no difference to me at all. I am almost sure he will never change, and I am not going to take a pity call from him once a year any more.

  I am telling you this because if your mom wants to choose being a jw over being your mother first, there is very little you can do about it. It is her choice and you can wish, you can beg, you can hope and it will not change her , until SHE is ready to change.

  SO in the meantime,, Sunshine,, live your life,,, please dont waste years feeling it is your fault or wondering why . The simple reason is she is in a cult. I am sure she loves you, just let her make her choice. I hope you smile in your wedding pictures ,weither she is there or not, it is your day not hers.

  BTW, I have been married for over 17 yrs and I am saying this all from what happened to me. I wish I could go back , knowing what I do now.

  GOOD LUCK,,,,,,,,,,,, and many hugs,,,,,,,,,, I really know how important your mom is on special days like this.. but be happy and dont forget to SMILE
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  Eggs

  by larc in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  life here in our community has been tough lately, so i thought i would put up some fluff.

  my question to you is: what is your favorite way to eat eggs?

  now, my preference is hard boiled eggs in a salad, an egg salid sandwich, and the royalty of all egg meals - eggs benedict.

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  LyinEyes

  Fried egg whites only, I hate the yoke in fried eggs, and with salsa or other hot sause.

  I love deviled eggs, too.
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  Monster's Ball

  by LB in

  1. social
  2. entertainment

  has anyone seen this movie yet?

  i'm thinking about taking it in after the weekend.

  i like halle berry and billy bob and so i'll take a chance.

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  LyinEyes

  I saw the movie a few weeks ago and I felt the same way you did LB. But I have to admit it was a little strange,,,,,, but anything Billy Bob is in ,,, is a little strange. I have always been a van of Halle Berry ,. About ther stretchmarks,,,,,,,,,,,,, I know some young women, who went on birth control pills and their brest increased so fast they got streach marks, and they had no children.
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  My cat--Need Your Help in Naming Her

  by patio34 in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  i have a new cat.

  a smallish young adult (1-2 years old) female, with black & gold back and white chest, belly and feet.

  i can't come up with a name i like.

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  I just got two cousin kittens, one is black named Nemo, and the other is female named Sassy, she is grey and spotted, fluffy.

  What about Patches, if she is mixed colored? Punkin,(pumpkin) for the halloween colors.

  I like real names too like the one you chose, Lucy. We have a black lab named snoopy , but sometimes my son calls her Lucy.
  Long story on on how that came up...my son would play with her and she would show her teeth, and he called her devil dog, then she became Lucifer, then it got shorten to Lucy... Weird but the way things work at our house.
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  Favorite Elvis Song

  by ThiChi in

  1. jw
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  elvis is the king baby!

  it is hard to believe that 25 years have passed since elvis' death.

  most his songs are "dated" imho, however, his "style" truly lives on.

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  I love, You Were Always On My Mind,,,,,,,,,,, not sure who wrote it ,, but he sang it for sure and so did Willie Nelson,,,,,,,,,,, I would love to have that song played at my funeral.

  Beck,,,,,,,,,,, guess what,, i also vividly remember the day and almost the hour Elvis died,, I was shopping with my mom for groceries, and I will never forget it coming over the radio that the King was dead. I was standing there with my hands a bunch of bananas. My mother also, started sobbing, and all the other ladies in the grocery store. It even hit me hard, because I saw Elvis briefly in Memphis, getting out of a limo,, he was the biggest star to me then. I really thought my mom was going to leave my dad for Elvis ,, I hated her passion for him....... Now I understand it ... LOL..I wish she would have hooked up with Elvis and dumped my dad. Well, I can dream right?
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  robdar,,,has surgery today!!!

  by ugg in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  robdar has knee surgery today,,,just wanted to wish her the best!!

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  hope all is going well,,,,and you recover fast...hugs to you

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  Bless your heart Rob,,,,,I hope you have a speedy recovery.

  Don't forget we 'KNEES" you here and hope you are comfortable while healing.

  Love ya, Dede and Wild Turkey
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  Anyone know the Weight Watchers point system?

  by LyinEyes in

  1. social
  2. physical

  i seem to recall someone talking about having the list of points for the weight watchers point system diet.

  my sister and some of her co workers are planning on going to a weight watchers free meeting.

  i told her of course the will have you pay up , and it is not that expensive, but i told her i might can get the information from someone on the internet.

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  Jack , that is too funny!!!!

  Thanks for all the replies and from those who emailed me. It is very interesting, but never understood what the points meant. My sister and I will enjoy looking into this and spreading the word about what it all means.

  Mulan I am glad it has worked so much for you, my mother went yrs ago, back in the early 80's but I dont remember much about it. I do know excersise is a big key to keeping in shape, since my sister lives right behind me, we plan on walking. I guess she and I are going to support each other , as some in her office already have friends, she is the new girl.

  Again , thanks for the info all.

  Hugs, Dede