Posts by Marilyn

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I LOVED MY WIFE ...... (1)

by Bhagavad in

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but now she's gone ...... from breast cancer a couple of years ago.

we prayed and prayed to jehovah in jesus' name: the "ask anything in my name" jesus.

we asked jehovah, not to cure her miraculously, because that's what people pray for in tent revival meetings.

I hear people of strong faith talk about asking God for insignificant things. Then being pleased that God has answered their prayers. I want to say to them that God has nothing better to do than sort out their trival worries, while so many suffer horrible, horrible problems. The irony seems lost on them.

Breast cancer is a dreadful disease. My mother is fighting it at the moment. I think it's winning. They are making advances but some cases seem totally resistant to treatment and then eventually you run out of options. It sounds like your wife had an aggressive form of the disease. You would have needed to have had a very sharp, forward thinking doctor willing to try every avenue to help her. Even then I've seen women research every possible new treatment available and try every debiliting chemotherapy and still die within a short time.

I am so glad you have found this board. I hope you will find comfort in the association here. My heart goes out to you for the loss of your lovely wife and the loss of belief in something that you thought had all the answers. Be kind to yourself and take things at your own pace.

Hugs Marilyn

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Do Your Emotions Come Back When You Leave a Cult?

by D wiltshire in

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do your emotions come back when you leave a cult?.

i believe they do perhaps as gradually as they left.. i remember when i was 18 yrs old and first started becoming a jw that was 30 yrs ago and the one thing i remember is that i loved my worldly relatives and wanted so much for them to get saved and the emotional torture i went though thinking they were all going to die soon at armageddon.

it was really hard to cope with the thought of them all being destroyed.. i work really hard not to think about it, and over time i started to view all my nonjw relatives as worthy of destruction at gods hands in order to have my thinking line up with gods.

Marilyn

After you leave a cult you quickly return to normal. Least I did. (whatever normal is) The problem with your emotions normalizing is that many of yourloved ones remain locked up inside the cult and our emotions have to be curtailed still. I've been out for over 20 yrs and although I still love my jw siblings, who've shunned me all this time, the lack of association and exchange of warmth and experiences, means I've cooled off quite a bit towards them. I still love them, but. I think it's called "the law of deminishing returns". I really don't know if we could rebuild again if they were to wake up. So much water has gone under the bridge....................

Marilyn

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A million thanks - all is well so far!

by TheOldHippie in

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a million thanks to all of you good people responding to my post regarding my daughter's surgery - it made me very humble and grateful, and my eyes very "watery" to read all the good thoughts and vibrations.

my daughter woke up last night after a looong surgery, and was very tired and in pain, as they had removed knots and stuff and things, and in order to get more working space, they blew in gas to separate the various inner parts, liver and stomach and uterus etc., to keep them apart when operating (man, are they capable of working miracles these days!

), and so she felt as if her entire inside had been turned upside down and separated and looked into and put back - what was not too far from what had really happened.

Marilyn

Hip, I tried to post to you, but in the end I gave up. I was afraid of saying the wrong thing. I'm going thru this cancer thing with my mother at the moment and I'm not very objective. I did though wish your daughter well in my heart.

I wanted to tell you to make sure you learn all you can about your daughters disease. The internet has been a life saver in the case of my mother. She's been dealing with breast cancer for over ten years. I've researched bc extensively on the net and you soon learn that not all doctors are created equal. Make sure you know what your daughers options are and that she is being offered the very latest most effective drugs. Knowledge is power in cancer survival.

All the best to your and your loved one.

Marilyn

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On Cockroaches:

by SixofNine in

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don't be overly frightened.

remember, they're just as afraid of you as you are of them..

Marilyn

OK, if Six is a cockroach whisperer - can some one PLEASE tell me if flea circus's are real?? Or do I have a weeny bit of gulibility left over from dubdom?

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On Cockroaches:

by SixofNine in

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don't be overly frightened.

remember, they're just as afraid of you as you are of them..

Marilyn

He's a roach emapthiser or is that a roach apologist? Perhaps he was a roach in his last life? Maybe he is getting in early in case he is reincarnated a roach next time round. Who knows? It's a mystery.

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On Cockroaches:

by SixofNine in

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don't be overly frightened.

remember, they're just as afraid of you as you are of them..

Marilyn

Why did 'hovah create cockroaches?

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I Survived

by COMF in

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...a week without internet access!

(gasp).

i moved into my new home last weekend.

Marilyn

We did notice that you've been "inactive". Several of the friends have been dispatched to secure your guilt ridden expressions with crest fallen excuses. You are, of course, expected to make it up to us. We want lots of scintillating posts laced with lashings of humility. Some reassurance that it won't happen again would be nice OR Three Hail Mary's and twice around the Rosary beeds!

Marilyn

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Comdoms Business Idea (wicked grin)

by invisible in

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i once thought about opening myself up an advertising and marketing company using printed comdoms.

logo on the johnny, "advertise your business here, watch your profits grow!!

tell me what you think, good, bad or quite deadful?

Marilyn

There was these two ducks who booked into a hotel for a dirty weekend. Only problem was that she thought he was bringing the condoms and he thought she was bringing them. They didn't want to go back out to buy some, so they decided to order room service. Champange and a packet of condoms. Eventually the room service arrived and the waiter poured the champange and handed Mr duck the condoms. The waiter then inquired: shall I put them on your bill? The duck replied! What do you take me for, some kind of pervert?

Marilyn

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Are You the Weakest Link?

by VioletAnai in

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a little test: .

the weakest link....... here is a very simple little test comprising of four questions to determine the level of your intellect.

answer: if you answered second-last, once again you're completely wrong.

Marilyn

:::::::::::::::o apologize for and blindly support an organization which has shielded pedophiles with the implementation of a two-witness rule, murdered children with the adherence to a blood doctrine which has continually changed, divided families by the practicing of an unscriptural shunning doctrine, and driven others to suicide because they lost all they had ever known for questioning a man-made religion

Reborn, a dear sweet man in our congregation died of a heart attack a year after he was d'fed for smoking. Whilst smoking may not be the wisest lifestyle choice, being shunned by four kids and several grandkids creates the kind of negative stress that gives rise to heart attack. I have no doubt that the WTS killed him. His oldest son has never forgiven himself for shunning his dad. He has to live with it on his conscience for the rest of his life.

You have named but a few of the WTS failings. I see so much harm and damage they've created that I feel sick to my stomach over it. Yes you and I are batting for the same team.

Marilyn

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Are You the Weakest Link?

by VioletAnai in

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a little test: .

the weakest link....... here is a very simple little test comprising of four questions to determine the level of your intellect.

answer: if you answered second-last, once again you're completely wrong.

Marilyn

Violet, I took 3 yrs to leave the WTS. I used to think of it like set of scales. Good on one side and bad on the other. After a while the bad was so heavy and the good so light that I had to walk away.

There is nothing you say about the WTS that is convincing. It just comes across like someone who's been sucked in to an ideal that they want desperately to be true. Hey, have you seen the movie Holy Smoke? You really must. Get it out on video. It's an excellent movie. You remind me of Kate Winslett from the movie. She really wanted her new found Eastern religion to be true. And one really had to wonder if her family were doing the right thing getting a deprogrammer to show her what a bunch of crap it was. You probably should try to take in films like this because it will give you an overview of cults and how people think they are so wonderful whilst everyone else can see how ridiculous they are.

Mostly Vi, I don't think you are stupid. Not a bit.

Marilyn