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  HARD TIME DEALING WITH DEATH PROSPECT

  by Mary in

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  i was talking to my parents one day last week, and they were discussing somewhat, arrangements they've made for when they die.

  even though i've known for many years now that armageddon isn't "right around the corner", it still came as a thunderbolt to hear them talk about when they die........not "if we die before the end of this system of things"........at this moment, i cannot conceive of my parents dying; largely because i was always told i wouldn't have to see them die, the new system will be here long before that happens.

  now that i'm faced with the reality of having to lose them one day (they're both 71), i'm having an extremely hard time dealing with it and i cry every day.. is this a normal reaction for anyone to have?

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  ((((Mary))))

  I do think most of us expect our parents to die some time or other, and being deceived about reality probably is taking its toll on you. I was advised on another thread to just try to enjoy the time left with the family that remains, and this is also applicable to your situation. Try to appreciate the fact that they're still living and be grateful that they have lived so long. Then think of ways you can add to their comfort and well being while they're still around.

  It's hard to know what to do with those feelings you're having. Have you talked to a counselor/therapist? Dr. Elizabeth Kubler-Ross wrote a book called "On Death and Dying" some years ago which has been helpful to many. But don't read her more recent works, as she has gotten weird, talking to beings from other dimensions and such.

  Do you have siblings you can share your feelings with? If not, do you have close friends who will understand? Don't suffer alone. Ask for help if you need it.

  Take care,

  Sandra
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  Serena and Teresa--JWs with different goals

  by blondie in

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  recently, there was a brief mention of the death of teresa graves who left a promising career in entertainment to become a jw.

  what about today?

  would she have made the same decision based on serena williams' career goals?

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  Excuse me, but aren't the Wayans brothers "apostates"? Sweet little Serena has sold her soul to Satan (or is she merely "flirting" with Satan?) by appearing on an "apostate's" TV series?
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  Fair Play

  by Blueblades in

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  is it fair play?what i am asking is about fairness and honor concerning god's actions toward physical fleshly humans and his actions toward spirit creatures.first his actions toward spirit creatures.they get to see god.they get to live without growing old and dying.they have no worries about losing loved ones in death.im speaking about those spirit creatures who do not go along with those who have rejected god.now, god's actions toward those physical fleshly creatures.that is those that like the spirit creatures who do not go along with those who rejected god.they dont get to see god.they don't get to live without growing old and dying.they have worries about losing loved ones in death.is this fair play?both creatures who have not rejected god get different treatment .

  your thoughts on this question will be very much appreciated blueblades

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  A friend of mine once worked in a children's psychiatric hospital. One of the patients, a young girl named Charlene, was known for repeatedly saying, "That's not fair!" One of the nursing attendants had a stock reply: "What is fair, Charlene?"

  Human beings with a great deal of power rarely prioritize fairness. Maybe non-human beings with power are just the same. It doesn't matter.

  Empower yourself. Forget about whether the SkyDaddy is fair. Take your lemons, and start making lemonade.
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  Are You A man Or A Woman?

  by SpannerintheWorks in

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  sometimes, the gender of a poster is relatively easy to deduce due to their style of posting, and, dare i say it, their choice of vocabulatory.

  but sometimes it is difficult to know if you are "talking" to a man or a woman (or homosexual).

  ok, right away, i hear protests of "what the heck does it matter?

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  I hven't decided yet
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  Is this legal?

  by IronGland in

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  if a former jw decided to put on a suit and tie and go door to door trying to place old wt magazines and books they had laying around, and asking for a small donation, but using the proceeds to buy beer, is that illegal in any way?

  i figure they at least owe me a beer.edited by - irongland on 4 november 2002 21:28:23.

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  If you get arrested for impersonating a Jehovah's Witness, I will ask my fellow board members to take up a collection to bail you out of jail.

  Simon, I know we're not allowed to solicit money here, so I would send e-mails. ;-)
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  GREAT NEWS!!!

  by wonderwoman77 in

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  well all i just wanted to write and tell you that i had a job interview today and i got offered a job that i really really want!!!!

  it comes with a car and it is good salary and great benefits.

  i am finally living all this stuff i always wanted to.

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  Congratulations! How nice for you, and for others on this forum who are still waiting for their dream job. Thanks for letting us know it's possible.
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  Jobs that the WTS doesn't approve of

  by freedom96 in

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  there were several different careers that the wts did not aprove of.

  such as a being a cop, for having a gun.

  couldn't be a martial arts instructor.. maybe it was a well paying career.. did you have a job that was not approved of?

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  I knew a brother who was a musician, but he didn't play professionally "because of the truth." Then we get Michael Jackson, et al!

  I thought professional sports would be out as well because high school sports certainly were. Then we get the Williams sisters!

  As a JW female, choices were even more limited. The only respectable occupations were probably pioneering and/or being a full-time unpaid housekeeper/prostitute for one man.
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  Boundaries Part 2

  by Victor_E in

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  a boundary is a limit we set to give our life structure and form.

  many victims never were taught or allowed to set normal healthy proper boundaries.

  in my jw days it was appalling to see how elders and the whole authority machine constantly violated boundaries of rank and file jws.

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  Thanks, Victor_E!

  When I became a dub, I was a very passive individual and did not understand that I needed to set boundaries (except sexually). I believed that anyone and everyone knew what was best for me better than I knew for myself. This left me in turmoil many times when I got conflicting opinions and instructions.

  What a relief to be a feisty old broad now!

  Regards,

  Sandra
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  What is your zip code? Warning: FLUFF!

  by gilwarrior in

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  my goodness, more fluff.

  ok, so what is your zip code?.

  i live in las vegas.

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  89501 / 02

  Reno, Nevada USA.

  When my daughter and I lived in Indiana, a JW, a very nice lady, came to the door. My daughter answered, and upon finding out the purpose of the call, said, "I'm not interested. I've already been a Jehovah's Witness."

  Believe it or not, the lady came back. We were leaving, so we just exchanged pleasantries with her, and never saw her again.

  Then we moved to Nevada (not because of the JW's, btw).
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  A First Date

  by Dutchie in

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  its been almost two years since my husband passed away.

  i never really though about going out with anyone romantically until just recently.

  i was born into the truth.

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  If you're really interested in expanding your horizons, why not make an acquaintance of some of the Martians who worked at the restaurant?