what do you think are the key ingedients for becoming a successful person?
i know that the definition of success varies from person to person.
for one person, it might be having a job that they really enjoy.
Christopher Morley said something to the effect that "there is only one success, and that is to live your life as you choose to live it.
Success comes from learning to make good choices -- of a career, a spouse, a savings plan, an employer, etc. The other factor, for me anyway, is figuring out what you want and what your strengths, gifts, talents, preferences and priorities are.
Oh, to have been a less passive and more proactive young person! But, better late than never!
Regards,
SandraC
yes your old pal bendrr has gone and done it this time!
i've committed myself to hosting christmas day at my place and that includes cooking a christmas dinner for at least 11 people.. i already planned on my "adopted" family coming over which would be no big deal, just snacks and a few beers.
but this year i spent thanksgiving with my older brother and his family.
For dessert, how about zabaglione (or, as we Anglos say, custard) with either raspberry or chocolate sauce, or a choice of either. This can easily be made the day before. Kids love Jello molds, too, and they're easy. Anyone with ideas about how to "Italianize" Jello?
With utmost admiration,
Mum
valis and one of his "chickens" (sorry man... i can't recall their names .
shelly and the two chickens playing with their new toys that valis had waiting for them.. .
valis helping with a new toy.. .
How pleasant to see brothers all dwell in unity! How lovely to see a gathering of once-upon-a-time dubs and see that they have learned that children have their own age-appropriate activities -- no wonder they look so contented (and adorable). Thanks for letting us in on some of the fun. Did Valis do all of the cooking? Everything looked scrumptious.
my wife was a church of god member when we were married.
we didn't discuss religion that i can remember.
my mother seemed to like her and her two children(my step kids).
It's fun being able to relax with a person you really care about, too, huh?
Good for you,
SandraC
It worked! But I'm not afraid of your little demons. If they start talking to me, I'll just talk back. I'll bore them so that they'll come back to you. ;-)
Seriously, I'm impressed. How did you DO that????
Oooooooooh!
SandraC
we put up our first xmas tree tonight and damn it looks awesome!
i really should be hired out as a professional tree decorator or something.
i mean this good on the first try!?
The first Christmas tree you have after freeing yourself from the big bad borg has to be the best! Post some pics for us, if you can.
So happy for you,
Mum
i've just found out that my application for volunteering in ghana has been accepted!!
i can't tell you how much i'm really looking forward to this challenge.. i've recently moved to london in the hope that i would be able to pick up some project work in the 3rd world country.
i registered with www.workingabroad.com who fitted out my profile with 80 prospects of ngo's i could apply with, and was successful with applications in mexico, india and ghana.
Good for you, V!
It takes a special kind of person to take on such a challenge. All the best. I admire and envy you.
Regards,
SandraC
right before i disassociated myself last march, i sent an email to quite a number of jw's that contained only a link to an "apostate" website that had been instrumental in my seeing the the truth about the wt.. well, nobody responded to it except for one person, a guy who i hadn't had any contact with my last year in.
he started out with "yikes, do you know i'm disfellowshipped?
" he then went on for several paragraphs defending the org, how loving the brothers were when they disfellowshipped him .
I agree with the others on this. What has cowardice got to do with it? When people need their security blanket, it's pointless to try to explain to them rationally why they really don't.
It's a great relief to realize that we no longer have to have the "it's up to us to save the world" mentality. You will be there if your friend needs you. That is all anyone can ask.
Regards,
SandraC
okay, my mom is elderly (80 yrs.
old) and not able to get to all the meetings like she used to (which is definitely a plus for me!
btw shes living with me now, since last spring, cause shes not able to keep up with things anymore).
Your mom sounds as though she's figured out most of the truth about "the trooth." I am glad she has you in her life to soften the blow of being in her golden years knowing she gave her life to an organization that cares nothing about her.
Bless you. I think you just need to be affirming and supportive and your mom will be just great.
Regards,
SandraC
in another thread simon said: .
".....but there is a correct and rational way to discuss and debate this " .
so can we please discuss this.. collectively, there is a lot of insight on this board,and aside from the negativity that was generated,this topic had many facets that were of great interest.
Cookie, why not call a rabbi in your area and ask him or someone in his congregation for some guidance about books to read, classes to take, and visiting the synagogue. I recently read Victor Frankl's book, Man's Search for Meaning, and found it a fascinating account of what one man learned from the holocaust and the course his life took afterward. I tried reading The Diary of Ann Frank, but only got so far because I couldn't handle the deep sadness that came over me. Elie Wiesel's book, Night, is also a widely recognized work about the holocaust, but I have not had the courage to read it either.
I'm sure you can find some good info right in your community.
Regards,
SandraC
